Literally all single guys have a number of women in their life that they regularly see and might be potentially interested in talking to, meeting, and going out with, but they don’t know how to go about doing that. Every day you go to the same grocery store, Starbucks, department stores, cafes, etc… and you see the same women work there and often serve you. Time after time you see familiar faces of women who start recognizing you as well. So, how to attract them and meet them?
First, you must use the fact that you regularly see them to your advantage. Knowing that you are going to see someone again means that you don’t have to go “for the kills” the first time you talk to them but you can and you should test the waters, set the ground for asking a woman for her contact information and then go for it.
One great way to create a connection with a woman in a service industry is by following a three step approach: (1) break the ice; (2) talk (3) talk again and ask for her contact information:
(1) Breaking the ice with a woman is the most difficult part for most guys. One of the unique and effective ways to break the ice that might require some confidence on your part is by actually joking or making fun of something that you know that woman has thought about. Here are two specific examples: suppose you want to meet the cashier girl at a grocery store. You stand in line and the person who is being checked out right in front of you is on his cellphone while paying. As soon as he leaves and it’s your turn, you could say to the girl: “Sorry, hold on…. let me get on my phone before I start ringing me up…I know you must love” and pull out a cellphone. Do it playfully and most women with a good sense of humor would laugh/roll their eyes and find your imitation of that other customer entertaining. And remember – eye contact is crucial. You can’t joke with a woman you don’t know and look away like you are talking to someone else.
Starbucks is another great place for breaking the ice. One effective way to do it is by making fun of a customer who seems to be high-maintenance and who orders a complicated drink (we all see those all the time). When it’s your turn to order, you can come up with a ridiculous order and also ask that it be low-fat and organic. If you say it in a way that makes it obvious that you are making fun of someone, it will brighten up the busy day of a girl who works behind the counter and will likely make her remember you.
(2) The next time (a day or two later) you go to the store and go through the same cashier girl, she will remember you, and you can have a small talk with her by saying something like: “Wow, you work a lot her, don’t you? how late are you usually here? Are you in school too?” or something like that, and then go from there depending upon how busy she is with customers and how good she is at helping you to carry on the conversation.
(3) The third time you talk to her, you could say: “Hey, is there any chance to see you outside of this place sometime?” – this is a simple and direct way to let the girl know that you want to talk to her and go out with her.
Following the above three-step plan to meet women who work in the service industry is simple and doesn’t require a lot of confidence on your part. You don’t need to approach any woman specifically. The women in the above situations are the ones you have to interact with anyway.
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This is good advice but he left out a important fact. Almost every service person has a name tag. Yet how many times a day does someone actually read it and use it. If I am talking to a cashier or some other individual who has a name tag I make sure I read the name tag and use their name in the conversation. It is common knowledge that women like to hear their names. Make sure you make eye contact when saying her name. She will not forget you anytime soon.