Thousands and thousands of single guys and women keep meeting people, spending time getting to know them and hoping that their new romantic prospect will turn into a great dating and relationship partner. Yet, most of the time these interactions end with a break up or losing interest way before it can be called an actual break up. One disappointing experience and unfulfilled hope follow another. These repeated disappointments inevitably lead people to feeling frustrated with dating and to losing hope that one day they will meet someone special with whom they will have this amazing chemistry and mutual romantic connection.
Frustration with dating and relationships with the opposite sex never helps anyone but only worsens any situation making a person angry and jaded. This negative energy of starting to assume the worst about your future romantic interactions further reduces the likelihood that you will be able to turn his/her dating life around. Thus, it is very important to learn how to overcome such a frustration and be able to move on forward with a positive outlook on your dating life despite the negative experiences you may have had in the past.
One of the most effective ways of recovering from negative dating experiences and not allowing yourself to get frustrated with dating is realizing and remembering that we, humans, as a matter of fact do not like the vast majority of things and it’s quite natural and normal. Your objective chances of not getting along with someone are much higher than ending up being together forever after. This is not your fault or anyone else’s fault. This is just reality. Think about it – you go to a clothing store and see hundreds of shirts for sale. None of them are really terrible. Your eye, however, only catches a few shirts that you would even considering trying on and buying. Living in a city that has 1000’s of restaurants, bars, and cafes, I notice that I keep coming back to the same 3-5 places that I really, really like, even though other places are quite good. We are picky, we have very specific and unique characters, tastes and opinions. We have many acquaintances but very few people who connect with us on a level that makes us friends.
It appears that the same principle applies to our romantic relationships. It is in our nature to not be attracted to most other people and not be interested in them as dating partners for whatever reason – be it looks, personality, or any other factor. If you are a guy, most women you meet are either physically unattractive to you, or flaky, dramatic, unintelligent, boring, and otherwise undesirable. If you are a woman, most guys you meet and go out with our insecure, possessive, controlling, cheaters, liars, or selfish. You will have to go through many people before you meet someone who you believe is a “good” match.
However, this is normal, and as pointed out earlier, this applies to most aspects of our lives. Once you accept this as a natural and normal part of your life rather than some kind of anomaly or a curse, you will start having a healthy perspective on your your unsuccessful encounters with the opposite sex, recovering from those experience faster and moving into the future after learning from your previous experiences and any mistakes you may have made, that lead to issues in your previous relationships. The right person for you who feels the same about you is a rare type of person. This is one thing that makes find one so special. Embracing this fact sooner than later should help you avoid feeling frustrating with dating.
