So, you were working in the same office with this girl or perhaps you were in the same class at school, and one day you asked her out to only find out that she was not interested in talking to you. It might have bothered you for a while, and maybe you were even embarrassed to run into her, and you were avoiding her for a while, but lately it looks like she is being friendly with you and you suspect that she might actually be interested. Should you ask her out again, even though she rejected you before?
- Absolutely! Why? First of all, people change their mind. She might have not wanted to go out with you before for a number of reasons. It’s possible that she was seeing someone at that time or that she had a bad break up with her boyfriend at about that time when you first approached her and expressing interest in getting to know her. It might sound obvious, but things change, people change, and what people want changes as well.
Secondly, it is very common for women to reject a guy and shortly after regret it. Think about how you react when a stranger initiates a conversation with you. Almost subconsciously you try to cut the conversation short because you believe it’s the right thing to do and that’s the social norm. When you ask a woman out, you might catch her off guard, thinking about her own issues and not being interested in talking to anyone at that very moment. She might not be interested in talking to you at that specific moment, but this doesn’t mean that she is not single, available and would not like you if she got to know you. If you wonder about how common it is, just check out the “missed connection” section on Craigslist in any city, and you will find dozens of postings by women who talk about how “flustered” they got when this guy talked to them and how much they want to have a second chance at talking to him.
So, how would you go about asking a girl out who rejected you before? The same exact way you would as if you never actually asked her our earlier. There is no reason to make any references to the first time you wanted to go out with her. Talking about that first time she rejected you will do nothing good to your interaction. If things go well between the two of you, you will have plenty of time to laugh about your original encounter later. Part of being a “real man” is letting those little things in the past go and showing your strength by not allowing it to affect your present.
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I’m a italian boy (28 years), sorry for my english.
It is a pleasure for me know you, my friends have spoken very well to me of you.
I expose my situation: i love a girl (22 years) that he met in November at my university. Unfortunately then I discovered that the girl is engaged (with a 25 years boy). but I has not surrendered. In this months, I made a nice friendly relationship with her. Next, I moved away for two weeks. Then, She searched me and She asked me why I leave. I told her that love. She told me that he had already understood, but was sorry that I separated because she appreciate me, she told that a better person.
Now, what can I do to make her fall in love for me?
Thank you.
italian boy: there is only one thing you can do…tell her how you feel and tell her if she loves you then she will leace ger man for you. hope i helped
Very helpful!!!
This one will help those who are not confident in approaching the opposite sex’s interest!!
They must believe in themselves. When she said no before, it doesn’t mean that she will continue to regret again in the other time.
Maybe she just wanted to have a little time to think it over carefully before decision.
If they easily give up, that girl will think that you’re scary of loss.
Just be patient. Try your best to express your feelings about her.
Maybe you will get an unexpected but happy ending!!
I disagree. I realize that women are the ones who get to pick and choose when it comes to dating, but why would I want to surrender what little power I have left by submitting myself to rejection a SECOND time?
Good question. It’s only a submission to rejection if you let it feel that way. What if you were to look at it like an unwelcome compliment or something you shouldn’t take so personally?
Hi, there was this one time where I confessed to this girl at one of my friend’s birthday party and she said that she has never thought about love. In the end, she ‘kind of’ rejected me. She didn’t reject by saying ‘no, im not interested’ but she said, “hmm i prefer to stay as friends”. What should I do? I thought about giving up on her but I’m finding difficult because I like her a lot. Is there still a second chance?. Also I have suspicions that she likes this other guy but I’m not entirely sure about that.
I had that same problem. Ask her if she does. If she does then ask her why
Hey there, I asked a girl in my class out about a year and a half ago, and I kind of led her into saying no. Now I’ve asked her out again, but she said “maybe” and that she was busy the next weekends. and after that I haven’t called her and barely talked to her in school. She is very shy after I asked her out. I’m gonna call her this week, since she didn’t really give me an answer, but I’m wondering what the shyness can mean? she a shy girl normally, but after I called and asked, she hasn’t said a word to me. an occasional looksee but nothing else. could this be a bad or a good sign? she’s not avoiding me, but she’s afraid to talk. not that I’m so much better…
I’ve been rejected by the same girl twice, but I know she liked me before. She seems a little interested now, so should I try again?
In my humble opinion, this article is just plain ridiculous!!!
First unbelievable quote from this article: “It is very common for women to reject a guy and shortly after regret it.”
WHERE IS THIS COMMON???
I see quite the opposite every single day. Most women get their rocks off shooting guys down and cutting them off at the knees at every opportunity. One would have to be truly courageous or truly stupid to set themselves up for a repeat failure.
Second unbelievable quote from this article:”She might have not wanted to go out with you before for a number of reasons. It’s possible that she was seeing someone at that time or that she had a bad break up with her boyfriend at about that time when you first approached her and expressing interest in getting to know her.”
You might want to throw in other reasons/excuses like: She’s unapproachable, stuck-up, hostile, materialistic, man-hating, and just waiting for the next chump she can cut to shreds.
I could not disagree more with this article. Trying to meet women in this day and age (of politically correct misandry) is an exercise in futility and complete hopelessness.
My question is this: how does one justify saying useless drivel like “don’t give up”, “keep trying”, “hang in there” or “there’s someone out there for you” when all one’s efforts are met with hostility, rejection, and failure?
Or more to the point, in light of today’s popular male-bashing culture, WHY SHOULDN’T GUYS GIVE UP??? Many have obviously thrown in the sponge already, myself included.