Comments on: The Best Way to Approach and Meet Women in Bars and Clubs http://www.practicalhappiness.com/best-way-to-approach-and-meet-women-in-bars-and-clubs/ Practical Dating and Relationship Advice Fri, 10 Feb 2012 07:20:16 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Mike http://www.practicalhappiness.com/best-way-to-approach-and-meet-women-in-bars-and-clubs/#comment-4762 Mike Thu, 31 Mar 2011 09:15:31 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=334#comment-4762 Just wanted to say you make some really good points. Also, I was wondering if you know a place where would be a good place for me to meet girls. Reason I am asking you is because I am 18, not in college(i work a lot). Other than that I go to the gym, but that is not the best place to meet girls since everyone does their own thing. Just wanted to say you make some really good points.

Also, I was wondering if you know a place where would be a good place for me to meet girls. Reason I am asking you is because I am 18, not in college(i work a lot). Other than that I go to the gym, but that is not the best place to meet girls since everyone does their own thing.

]]> By: Aaron http://www.practicalhappiness.com/best-way-to-approach-and-meet-women-in-bars-and-clubs/#comment-4600 Aaron Mon, 21 Feb 2011 07:22:17 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=334#comment-4600 Easier said than done! If only I had a female friend to go out with as my winggirl, I would do this!!! But no, this never works!!! I cant get anyone to go out with me! Easier said than done! If only I had a female friend to go out with as my winggirl, I would do this!!! But no, this never works!!! I cant get anyone to go out with me!

]]> By: David http://www.practicalhappiness.com/best-way-to-approach-and-meet-women-in-bars-and-clubs/#comment-3825 David Mon, 18 Oct 2010 14:40:45 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=334#comment-3825 Hi Guanetidino, don't worry about it. Bartender are often the target of very poor aproaches. I think she only wanted to stop the conversation befor you start babbeling on her to mutch (and remember: she's was working at that moment)! I have very different experices with bartenders, most'll have a small chat with you, its normal for them, but for deeper conversation i've made the experience that it's mutch more produktiv to catch her after closing time. Greetings from Germany David practicalhappiness, keep up the nice work! You are very inspiring! Hi Guanetidino,

don’t worry about it. Bartender are often the target of very poor aproaches.
I think she only wanted to stop the conversation befor you start babbeling on her to mutch (and remember: she’s was working at that moment)!
I have very different experices with bartenders, most’ll have a small chat with you, its normal for them, but for deeper conversation i’ve made the experience that it’s mutch more produktiv to catch her after closing time.

Greetings from Germany
David

practicalhappiness, keep up the nice work! You are very inspiring!

]]> By: Guanetidino http://www.practicalhappiness.com/best-way-to-approach-and-meet-women-in-bars-and-clubs/#comment-498 Guanetidino Fri, 28 May 2010 08:39:44 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=334#comment-498 Thank you really really much. A lot of advices say that, during the first minutes of interaction, it is necessary to talk a lot, avoiding a lot of questions. Arkady, they say that there is a way to obtain good results in every interaction. If you can, I would like to know your opinion about pick up artists. I don't know if there is a way for obtaining a friendly behaviour everytime. Thank you really really much. A lot of advices say that, during the first minutes of interaction, it is necessary to talk a lot, avoiding a lot of questions.
Arkady, they say that there is a way to obtain good results in every interaction. If you can, I would like to know your opinion about pick up artists. I don’t know if there is a way for obtaining a friendly behaviour everytime.

]]> By: practicalhappiness.com http://www.practicalhappiness.com/best-way-to-approach-and-meet-women-in-bars-and-clubs/#comment-497 practicalhappiness.com Fri, 28 May 2010 08:18:42 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=334#comment-497 Good question! Yes, a lot of the advice makes it sound easy but it's not. It's not supposed to be. Think about it - even if you were approached by a girl out of the blue, you would be flustered and wouldn't know what to say for a few minutes. You cannot expect a friendly attitude right away, especially at a bar unless the girl is really drunk (of course many people drink for exactly that reason, to eliminate the social awkwardness which is natural). I think you did everything right except your questions were mostly calling for yes/no answers rather than being helpful to opening a conversation. Next time, try to be a little bit more persistent, but if it's obvious that the girl just wants the conversation to be over, then let it go and finish it. If you don't feel welcome, there is no reason to stay and impose yourself. Good question! Yes, a lot of the advice makes it sound easy but it’s not. It’s not supposed to be. Think about it – even if you were approached by a girl out of the blue, you would be flustered and wouldn’t know what to say for a few minutes. You cannot expect a friendly attitude right away, especially at a bar unless the girl is really drunk (of course many people drink for exactly that reason, to eliminate the social awkwardness which is natural). I think you did everything right except your questions were mostly calling for yes/no answers rather than being helpful to opening a conversation. Next time, try to be a little bit more persistent, but if it’s obvious that the girl just wants the conversation to be over, then let it go and finish it. If you don’t feel welcome, there is no reason to stay and impose yourself.

]]> By: Guanetidino http://www.practicalhappiness.com/best-way-to-approach-and-meet-women-in-bars-and-clubs/#comment-496 Guanetidino Fri, 28 May 2010 07:50:07 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=334#comment-496 Hello, Arkady. Yesterday I was in a club with a friend of mine and I tried to find the courage to approach the bartender, a beautiful blonde girl. I finally found this courage and approached her with a soft approach: "Excuse me, is Roberta Viscovo (I invented a random name) a friend of yours?" I hoped that a conversation starded, during which I would have been cordial, genuine, socially generous, without any pick up guy vibe. Instead she replied with an hostile face: "No!". So I: "Have you attended a school called XX?" She: "No!" And I: "So, have you attended a school called YY?" She: "I have attended KK." Conversation ended: she didn't seem committed to the interaction. She immediately understood that my questions were pick up excuses, even if they were soft. I have tried to tell you this event by translating an Italian conversation in English. Sorry for my Italian-English. What is your opinion? When I read dating advices about approach, everything seems easy. But in the real life girls have a lot of barriers. They immediately understand your proposal, even if you are soft. Hello, Arkady.
Yesterday I was in a club with a friend of mine and I tried to find the courage to approach the bartender, a beautiful blonde girl.
I finally found this courage and approached her with a soft approach: “Excuse me, is Roberta Viscovo (I invented a random name) a friend of yours?”
I hoped that a conversation starded, during which I would have been cordial, genuine, socially generous, without any pick up guy vibe.
Instead she replied with an hostile face: “No!”. So I: “Have you attended a school called XX?” She: “No!” And I: “So, have you attended a school called YY?” She: “I have attended KK.”
Conversation ended: she didn’t seem committed to the interaction. She immediately understood that my questions were pick up excuses, even if they were soft.
I have tried to tell you this event by translating an Italian conversation in English. Sorry for my Italian-English.

What is your opinion? When I read dating advices about approach, everything seems easy. But in the real life girls have a lot of barriers. They immediately understand your proposal, even if you are soft.

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