If you have any experience in dating, I am sure that you have accumulated your own, fair share of frustrations and disappointments in men, and I am also certain that you have many valid reasons to feel dissatisfied with the men’s behavior and conduct. Despite that, I wish to warn you against developing that general disdain for men that so many women have, believing that all men are assholes, liars, and cheaters. Surely many of them are, but it would be a pity if your generally negative view of men because of your past experience with them affected your behavior around those few guys who stand out as being better, kinder, more interesting, more respectful and otherwise more worthy dating partners. After all, just because 20 previous guys in your life weren’t as attractive, nice, and honest, doesn’t mean that the next guy isn’t going to be different and better in every way.

Good things come in small quantities, and finding them takes time and work - this is just the nature of things. Men are not an exception to this rule. But perhaps that’s what makes the rewards of finding a great item in the sea of mediocrity all more special. 

So, don't allow yourself to become a victim of your own past. Instead, use your past as valuable lessons from which you learn and whose wisdom you carry with you into your present and future life.