Can and should you be confident all the time?

One of the discouraging effects of most kinds of growth we, humans, experience is the “two steps forward, one step back” effect. Almost any kind of growth is associated with inevitable temporary setbacks and decline before further development takes place. Perhaps this is one of the reasons that new years resolutions don’t work all that well. People who make a certain promise to themselves and commitment become discouraged and give up as soon as they hit a plateau in whatever progress they are seeking. The most common example of a diet/exercise resolution. A person who is eager to lose weight is likely to quite his plan altogether as soon as he violates the self imposed rules of a very strict diet and a daily exercise. Breaking one little rule, makes a person want to quit the whole program altogether and start all over sometime later.

Becoming more confident with the opposite sex is not very different in that regard. It is essential to keep in mind that any work you do to become more confident and more attractive is necessarily going to be associated with temporary set backs. No matter how much you learn about confidence, there will be days and weeks when you will feel social awkward and unable to hold a conversation the way you usually do and the way you expect. This should not worry you, as it’s a completely natural part of any significant growth.

Think about all the great athletes. Take, for example, today’s number one tennis player – Rafael Nadal. What makes him a great champion except his great game? It’s his spirit – it’s his ability to stay strong and positive no matter where he is in the match, and his ability to lose with grace.

Your ability to remain focused during those days when you are just not “on” and wait till that time passes and you get back into your comfort zone is a very important part of being truly confidence and attractive.

And of course, you should not forget to read the article on how to become more confident with women.

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