After your read advice on writing a great online dating profile to attract women you should be ready to apply this advice and write your own great dating profile. I am a big fan of learning what’s a good through making a contrast between good and bad.

So, lets look at a few typical examples of bad profiles:

“I am not good at writing about myself, but my friends say that I am intelligent, professional, educated and ambitious. I like sports and good wine. I am looking to a meet an intelligent, beautiful woman for dating and relationship.”  – at first, this looks like a well-written profile by a guy who seems to have head on his shoulders. However, it has one major flaw that will make many women skip over it. It’s way too typical and generic. It looks just like a thousand of other profiles. There is nothing “catchy” about this profile – there is nothing that would compel a reader to stop and respond to it.

Lets look at another bad profile:

“I went to school in the east coast, but now I work for a major software company where I work up the corporate ladder. I very busy. I love hiking, watching baseball, and bbq on weekends.”  – the writer must be reminded that this is a dating profile – not a resume or a sales presentation in front of his human resources department. Again, this profile has a very weak beginning…. as a rule, you should never start your profile by talking about school or work, as it’s not interesting and not really relevant to what you should be trying to achieve – to catch a woman’s attention.”

“I love to have fun, party, dance, and drink of my buddies. If you wanna hang out sometimes, holler at me…” – unless you are in a fraternity, you should never come across as someone who has nothing else to him but getting drunk and leading a lifestyle devoid of any real goals or ambition.

Now, lets look at an example of a profile that will stand out through both the way they are written and their content. Some women will think of the writer of the profiles below as weird, but… ideally you shouldn’t be interested in “most” women anyway, but you should be targeting those women with your profile that you believe you will get along and will have a connection – whether you are looking for a short-term dating, a lifetime partnership or anything in between:

“About Me:

I would hate to bore you by telling you how wonderful I am by attaching to my name a bunch of flattering adjectives. I am sure that you have already found this about two hundred times in all the other profiles. I believe that words are cheap, but actions speak much louder, so why bother? So, why not start with a bad stuff – I am impulsive and restless at times, I can’t kill a fly, I cried twice like a girl when I watched “Notebook,” I cuss too often, and stay up way too late way too often. There is something about the nighttime that I find magic, if you will, which keeps me up working or hanging out aimlessly. Can you relate? I have little patience for flakes and fake people – those who smile while being angry on the inside, as I never know what they keep up their sleeve. How about you? What annoyed you today? And what made you weak in your knees from joy and pleasure?

About You:

You are curious about the world around you. You can take a joke and are not easily offended. You believe that sarcasm is a spice of life. You can spell, and are generally happy. The rest is negotiable.

First Date:

I don’t think it matters what we do on a first date, and I am a big fan of simplicity, so a coffee and walk would be just fine.”

This is just one example of a profile that will stand out as different and arguable better than most other pages written by guys on the online dating sites. It has a strong, unique beginning, interesting content, and a few questions at the end to “help” a woman start her response.

Thousands of men and women join dating websites every day as the stigma associated with looking for love on the internet is vanishing. Indeed, there are millions of men and women all over the world looking for love on line.

However, like in “real” life, meeting people on the internet requires knowing how to come across to your potential dating partners as a person who is attractive and interesting and not just another face on the dating site with a bunch of self serving adjectives on his page, such as “I am interesting, successful, funny, fit, etc…”

Few people bother to explore and learn what it takes to write a great dating profile that will bring them the kind of responses they would like to have. This is unfortunate because understanding how to write a great dating profile is simple, and it is likely to dramatically improve your chances of finding love on the internet or at least receive messages from and date people of a much higher quality.

One of the most important qualities you must demonstrate in order to have better results at meeting people on line is that you are DIFFERENT from the rest and that you stand out as a more interesting and thus – a more attractive person. You can achieve this by making sure that your dating profile reflects the following elements: 1. Writing a powerful opening; 2. Avoiding bragging and not using cliche, meaningless statements that everybody else uses; and 3. Using details in your profile instead of typical, generic statements.

1. Have a Powerful Opening to Your Profile
Polite introductions are important in many circumstances, but writing a great dating profile is not one of them. You are much better off sparing your readers the pleasantries of “Hello, thanks for stoping by my profile. This is the first time I am doing something like this, etc…” There is NO need for such introductions. Everybody knows why you are there and what you want. Instead, just “dive” right in! Say something interesting, eye catching or even better – brain catching – in the very beginning of your profile, express your opinion on anything that will give your potential dating partners an insight into who you are. You can even start your page with a famous slogan that you like or a funny story about something that happened to your recently. You can start your profile with something like: “I don’t care what you drive and what kind of suit you wear, but I am very interested in what you want to achieve in your life as an individual.”

2. Don’t Brag and Don’t Use Cliche Statements
Make sure that your page is free of “I am independent,” “I am as comfortable in jeans as I am in a dress,” “I like to have fun,” “I am compassionate” and alike statements that men have seen over and over before. These self-descriptions have been used a million times before and they add nothing to your profile, which means that they will not evoke the attention of those few interesting guys that you are looking to meet. Don’t forget that actions speak much, much louder than words, so let the guy find out who you are by getting to know you rather than reading a bunch of adjectives on your page that anybody else could write about themselves.

3. Use the Power of Details
Any writing rich in details has a much greater impact on a reader than a bunch of generic, abstract statements. Specific facts about who you are and what you think and like will compel like-minded people to respond and will make their life easier by allowing them to respond specifically to the things you say and thus show their personality to your in a more compelling fashion.
Thus, you are much better off replacing the typical, boring, “I am intelligent” with something like ”few things excite me more than picking up a great book at a library / book store and spending a few hours reading it while sipping coffee at a quite and cozy shop. After all, would you rather have a reply saying “I am intelligent too” or read something far more interesting in response to your profile, such as: ”It’s funny that you mention reading a book at a cozy shop. Last Friday I did just that and it felt so much better than hanging out at a bar for 4 hours and talking about nothing.”
Instead of saying ”I am active,” say “I can’t help but feel guilty if I sit idle for longer than an hour even when I can.”
Instead of saying “I am educated” say “Consider me crazy, but I really miss school and all the great things I had the opportunity to learn in college.”

I am sure that by now you understand how you can take the typical, boring statements and dress them up with the detail that will make your dating profile so much more interesting to read and so much more tempting to respond to. And make sure you check out examples of bad and good dating profiles to attract women online.

Your online dating profile is your first chance to make a good impression to other members of your dating site. Having a clear, well-written, and interesting dating profile that doesn’t simply repeat what every other profile says will set you apart from other members of your online dating site who do not put the same effort into it. Better online dating profiles attract more interest from other singles at the dating site and quality profiles also elicit more responses and inquiries. Writing a better online dating profile is not as easy as some people think, but it’s also not a rocket science, and learning how to write a profile that will make you come across as an attractive, interesting person is certainly worth the effort. Here are three things you can do to improve your online dating profile:

1. Start with an interesting or engaging headline. The first item anyone who views your profile will see, in addition to your photo (which we’ll get to later), is your dating ad headline. So make your headline interesting and different enough, so that the person reading it will want to know more about you and continue onto the rest of your dating profile. You can make your headline funny, or unusual, but remember to keep it unique. An engaging headline that is also unique will stand out from all others and will make the reader believe that you are an interesting person who is a witty and fun company to be around. “Steer clear from the ordinary” or “My brains are even sexier…”  are so much better than something as typical and cliché as “Looking for Mr. Right” or “Looking for a needle in a haystack”

2. Keep your online dating profile relative short. No one likes to read long essay with redundant information on matchmaking sites. The more concise your profile is, the more compelling it will be to the reader. Say just enough to expose some parts of the way you think and perceive the word.  Don’t ramble on about insignificant matters or anything that a person reading your profile may not be interested in, especially since they do not know you yet. And of course, don’t start your profile with redundant, overused introductions such as “I am not good at talking about myself,” “This is first time I am doing this and I am not sure what to write…” etc. Such introduction do nothing but “diluting” your profile, making it less compelling and less captivating to the reader.

3. Use a good, recent photo. There is nothing worse that showing up to meet the person you met online to only see them roll their eyes with disappointment when they find out that you look very different and are not nearly as attractive as you presented yourself on the photo. Make sure that the photo/s in your profile fairly and reasonable accurately represent what you look like. Don’t misrepresent your age and your height as it will necessarily backfire later when the person you meet finds out the truth.

So, in addition to understanding how to choose the right online dating site , knowing how to write a better online dating profile is another great way to improve your online dating odds of success. Keep the three tips above in mind when you are writing a new or improving your existing online dating profile, and you will see that a little effort will go a long way in getting more responses to your online dating profile and, ultimately, getting you more dates.

Hardly any single man or woman can escape the world of online dating this day and age, and there are legitimate reasons for that. While for many people the opportunities to meet people in the “real world” are quite limited, the world of internet dating sites offers a virtually unlimited pool of single people who you can contact freely (or for a low fee) without the risk of rejection or other discomfort and many of whom you would simply not come across and in contact with under any other circumstances.

However, like in any business, attracting people through your personal ad or a dating profile faces competition from thousands of other profiles, and in order to beat that competition, your “product” – profile must stand out and be different from, and better than, most others. Many people don’t put much effort into their dating profile. Like in most other aspects of life, in which mediocre actions lead to mediocre results, the same applies to online dating – if your profile is average or cliche, so will be the quantity and the quality of responses that you will receive from the opposite sex.

If you haven’t yet written a profile, I suggest that you read this article with practical, effective tips on writing a compelling dating profile. If you already have a profile set up and you don’t feel like rebuilding it “from sratch,” here a short, simple checklist of tips, following which will make your dating profile much more interesting and attractive to the reader:

1. Eliminate a weak beginning/introduction in your dating profile. You might think that it’s only polite to great the reader before you tell them all about yourself, but “Hey, how are you. Thanks for stopping by” immediately makes your profile sound week, uninteresting and unstimulating. There is also no need to start your profile with “It’s hard to talk about myself and describe who I am.” This is completely redundant to mention in your posting, as we all experience this and we all know how hard it is to talk about ourselves. Many readers don’t have the time and patience for “fluff,” especially when it comes to dating profiles, and will not get passed those few lines of “courtesy” and will move on to read the next profile. So, skip the introduction entirely and get to the essence of what you wanted to say.

2. Make sure your dating profile doesn’t sound like a resume. It is not uncommon to see the following kind of text in a dating profile: “I just graduated from MBA program and working part time as a business analyst, concurrently pursuing a teaching credential” might make a great impression on a potential employer if included in the cover letter, but hardly anything can make a dating profile or a personal ad more boring and less romantic than this kind of “business” flavor to it. So make sure that your profile doesn’t sound like a CNN nightly business review. You will have plenty of opportunities to tell your potential dates about your educational and professional aspirations once you meet them. At this point, when you are trying to attract people, your goal is to sound unique and interesting as a person. This can be done effectively by sharing a few of your interesting opinions on random issues and showing wit, sense of humor and sarcastic streak to you.

3. Avoid making cliche statements about yourself and about your life like most other people do in their dating profiles – it used to be a good idea to include in the personal profile things like “I like to work hard and play even harder,” “I live life to the fullest,” “I am as comfortable in jeans as I am in a suit/dress,” and “My friends say that I am fun.” However, as a reader goes through profiles that mention the same things over and over in exactly the same wording, it doesn’t take long to be annoyed with those idioms and start judging the writer for lack of originality. So, keep those and other commonly overused statements out of your dating profile.

4. Clean up your spelling – I am from being a spelling nazi when it comes to dating profiles, and I don’t suggest that you should be. However, it’s hard not to dismiss a profile that says “I am an intelligent women,” or “I am professional, independant woman.” So, if you claim to be intelligent, smart, well-educated and independent, make sure that at the very least your writing abilities support that.

5. Create a strong ending to your dating profile – there is only one purpose to a dating profile – to have the reader to be eager and be hardly able to wait to write back in response to what you had to say. So, “Thanks for reading,” or “Have a great day and good luck” will hardly achieve that purpose. You are much better off finishing your profile with posing a thought-provoking proposition or a question, inviting the reader to think about it and challenge your line of thinking. “Although I truly enjoy get-a-ways, day hikes, and biking, to me one of the most exciting things is being with a person whose mere character and personality make it an adventure to be in his/her company. How about you?”

These are the five simple, practical steps you can apply to any dating profile to make it more interesting and more compelling to the reader.

Also, make sure that you don’t make these mistakes when writing your dating profile.