There are three first date questions that women love to ask a guy when they meet him for the first time or on a first date, which are as common as they are useless and cliche, and they add nothing interesting to the conversation. Therefore, you can safely skip them: \
- What do you like to do for fun? – while it’s a valid question on its face, it sounds so scripted an so cliche. It’s almost like saying “I don’t really have anything personal or creative to ask or say so I have to fall back on this question…” Do you really need him to list all the things he likes to do in his spare time? A much more fun way to get the answer to this question is by slowly and indirectly finding out what he likes to do in his free time, as you get to know him.
- Do you do this with every woman you go out with? This question usually follows some kind of “smooth” romantic gesture by the guy, such as saying something sweet, or taking you to some special spot somewhere. But, what do you expect the guy to answer? If he says “yes” you are not going to like it because it certainly is not going to make you feel special. If he says “no, this is the first time I am doing this for anyone” you are probably not going to believe him, or it’s going to make him sound a bit of a pleaser / beta, which would be consciously or subconsciously a turn-off to you.
- How do you like this site so far? / Have you had any luck on this site so far? – if you met online, there is no need to ask the guy this question and there is no need to talk about the “process” at all. An, what does “liking the site” or having “luck?” even mean anyway in this context? And if the guy asks you this type of question on a date, the best thing to do is to brush it off – give a brief generic answer such as “it’s ok” and move on with the conversation onto something else.. The last thing you want to do is sit and share with each other your dating stories. This does not add anything to building interest and chemistry, and this is usually the quickest way to get into a friend’s zone.
The three cliche first date questions above have one thing in common – they are extremely unoriginal, and by avoiding them you might just set yourself apart from many or most of the other women that the guy has gone out with. And, when you don’t use these conversational crutches, this almost forces you to say something more interesting, which should only benefit your interaction.