It's hard for many of us to go out and see so many attractive people out there and continue believing that we have what it takes to meet and attract the person or persons who we really want to be with and not let him or her slip away and be with one of those many other singles.

Although this kind of thinking about dating and competition among the members of your own sex makes some sense, the good news is that competition should never be your excuse or justification for not taking your dating life in your own hands.

I believe that analogizing dating to business marketing can be very useful in explaining what I mean. Go ahead and open your local yellow pages. I bet you will find listings of hundreds, if not thousands, of lawyers, doctors, accountants and other professionals. And while some of them are indeed struggling to make it, the good professionals, as a rule, have more work than you can handle. Just call up any prominent attorney, doctor, accountant, architect or any other professional in your area, and you are likely to hear that he or she is booked for the next two weeks and can't see you till then.

The great news about bussiness and capitalism is that if you have something good to offer, then there will be a demand for it regardless of the competition. In fact past, present and future happy customers feel particularly lucky when, after possibly having numerous negative experiences, they finally find a reliable, attentive, competent professional out of so many others that are out there.

When you bring something new and better to the table, it's only a matter of time until it will be recognized no matter how fierce the compeition is. When Facebook started, a big shark has already occupied the sea - Myspace. And yet that didn't discourage Facebook from going forward and developing their community. Today, just a few years later - Facebook seems to get much more respect due to how it managed to distinguish itself from other social networking sites, despite all the competition.  

The same rule applies to dating - if you have something interesting to offer, if you work on and build a more attractive personality, better style, a more sophisticated sense of humor, if you work out and work on eliminating negative qualities such as bad temper, jealousy, control and possessiveness, the higher quality of your personality will be recognized and appreciated by the opposite sex no matter how big the competition is.

A great guy will stand out in a woman's eyes, whether he is one of 10 or one of a 100 in the same room. A beautiful woman with a great personality to match will stand out from all the other attractive women who come across as stuck up and high maintenance, and no degree of competition will change that.

So, don't worry about competition in dating. Forget about it completely. It should not concern you - ever!