We can’t help but be influenced in our choices of dating and relationship partners by our friends, parents and relatives. These people influence your choices when you are single by suggesting to you who you are and who you might be compatible with. They might try to set you up on dates, and they will also voice their opinions about the people who you are seeing. But, how much weight – how much importance should you place on the opinion of your friends and parents/relatives on who you are dating?
I believe that is it very important to listen to the impression of the “outsiders” about your relationship. While your judgment might be clouded by attraction and passion toward your dating or relationship partner, your friends and relatives might be seeing the dynamics between you and your partner in a much more clear and objective light. You might be reluctant to recognize or face certain problems in your relationship, but the outsiders will alert you to those problems and will likely help you see them for what they are as they are looking out for your best interest, and they might be relying on their prior, similar experiences when giving you their advice.
At the same time, I am convinced that you should take the advice from the closest people to you on the choices of people you are seeing very carefully, as no one really knows you that well – no person knows you well enough to advise you on the selection of dating partners. Think about it – your parents and your closest friends might think that they know you very well because they spent so much time with you, but they might not know you that well. They likely have an image of who they think you are, which might have to do more or less with who you really are and what you really are looking for in a dating partner.
Thus, like in most other aspects of life, balance is a key to handling the advice on dating issues from your friends and relatives. You should listen to it carefully and consider all the advice you receive, but at the same time realize that the decision is yours and no one is in a better position to explore and know what’s best for you when it comes to dating and relationships. After all, you can only benefit from considering additional opinions from people with a variety of dating experience, unless you blindly accept those opinions as true.
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