Do you want to know how the popular dating advice industry deceives both men and women? I believe that the answer is pretty simple and is similar to the marketing strategies used in many if not most other industries – by promising people instant results, instant fixes. It is common to see the following sales pitch to a dating advice book: “Learn this brilliant pick-up line on page 146 of this book and you will be able to meet any woman, anywhere any time.” or “Learn this one shocking reason why you are still single and start meeting more and better men tomorrow.” These are just some of the classic examples of ways that the “dating gurus” exploit the mental state of those men and women who are eager to do whatever it takes to change their dating life overnight.
Thousands of single people continue falling for these cheap scams, unwilling to recognize the inevitable, compelling truth that like all other skills and qualities, becoming a more attractive person and building a better dating life is gradual process that requires gaining knowledge, observing correct, attractive actions and behaviors in others that will set an example, self-improvement, reflection on one’s own behavior, growth, and quite a bit of patience.
So stop wasting your hard earned money on products that promise instant results in any endeavor, including dating. There aren’t magic words out there that will turn you from shy to outgoing, from jealous to confidence and secure, from boring to fascinating, from dull to funny overnight. But with real work and with applying real, proven to work strategies, you will gradually but necessarily become more attractive to and more successful with the opposite sex.
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Wow! Veryly concisely you said it! I’ve been in “marketing” for a long time, and I recognized some of the sales pitches for these advice books – right out of the 70′s Melvin Power’s “The Lazy Man’s Way To Riches.” Selling a magic way to do anything still makes money.
But perhaps the worst of these “advise” publications is what I call “toxic advice.” The authors want to sell more of their publications, so they tell you it’s not your fault that you’re not successful in the dating scene. It’s THEIR fault. And you want to avoid those toxic men/women who don’t appreicate how wonderful, special, marvelous, etc you are. And, how do you find people who will really appreciate all your wonderful qualities. Simple, just send for my ebook, How to Find People Who Will Apprciate You For the Wonderful Person You Are.
And they go on buying, and dreaming, and wishing, and never getting anywhere.
That’s why I like about this site. You tell it like it like it is. No excuses to anyone, no catering to anyone. But you still manage to be gentle. As examplified by your comments about women losing weight.
Well, so long as America, the uk and other western nations continue to perpetuate anti-male culture there shall always be someone out there to exploit men. This is a matriarchal society in which men are degraded from birth. Men are forced to modify their personalities in order to be ‘accepted’ by women. For most men there is little chance of them being accepted based on who they are as people. Thus if they are not ‘rich’ enough or ‘good looking’ enough. They have no chance and are condemned to a life of loneliness. This reality is NOT true for females.
There are countless site, books and more devoted totally to degrading men and convincing them that they are not good enough being themselves to find love. No matter if it’s men’s bodies, sexuality or intelligence there will always be some sort of program, book or ‘scientific/medical community’ backed comment or information devoted to male degradation. A lot of this stuff comes down also to female supremacist movement which is taught in colleges and universities. It is very sad because all of this is destroying the world. While directly destroying america. Degrading and disenfranchising men is a bad idea. It indeed shall lead to world war and a greater lack of respect for all women as a whole. Degradation of men, boys and father’s degrades all of humanity. But you do not have to believe me. Just wait and see. Let this stuff continue for a bit longer. You’ll see.