Why Older Women are Less Flaky

I found through my observation of the behavior of many younger and older women a general pattern that repeats itself over and over – the more mature women (late 20’s and on) are generally more reliable than younger women. This should not be a surprise because there are at least three significant reasons as to why older women are more likely to generally keep their word – they are more likely to call when they say they, to show up for a date and generally be more straightforward in their interactions with a guy:

1. Older women are generally more responsible individuals. Having a greater educational and professional experience usually teaches a person a few life lessons about the importance of keeping one’s word, basic courtesy when it comes to meeting deadline and keeping appointments, and following through in general, both professionally and in social settings. This will likely translate to a similar courtesy with men. They will likely call when they say they will if they are interested, they will show up for dates without giving poor excuses for canceling and they will generally be more reliable. Also, the more mature women likely made a few mistakes in their past, which lead to missing out on professional, social and romantic opportunities and they appreciate the present opportunities more than others who haven’t yet learned those often painful lessons. A woman who remembers how she didn’t give a chance to those guys who approached her but didn’t have a perfect line to start a conversation, and how she regretted it shortly after, will likely be more open to talking to men in the future. Likewise, a woman who broke up with a guy for, what she thinks to day was not a good reason, is likely to be more forgiving and flexible with the guys who she meets today.

2. Older women are generally more “interested” when it comes to dating. While a younger woman is struggling to figure out what behavior and attitude makes her the most attractive and desirable, or what men call “playing games,” women in their early 30 and older, as a general rule, are past that stage of taking their time and trying to figure out how to act to be the most desirable to men. The more mature women often have a stronger sex drive and stronger sense of identity (and what they consider to be right v. wrong) which allows them to go for the guy they like with less hesitation or embarrassment and more determination. Older women have less hang-ups that prevent them from doing what they really want to do.

3. A younger woman believes that the entire sea of men is at her disposal and there is no reason for her to rush or to be particularly interested in any guy since there are so many of them out there. On the other hand, an older woman with a longer dating experience and a more mature outlook on life knows from first hand experience how rare the guys she really likes are. She might have dated 30 or more guys throughout her life, but she would only consider 2 or 3 out of all of them to be truly special, who gave her a memorable dating experience and who she had the potential to become serious life partners with. Therefore, she is going to treat the next special guy who comes into her life with much more courtesy and care because she knows how rare that type is and she would not want to just miss out on a connection with a special guy for no good reason. Admittedly, older women have less time – they can’t afford waiting for too long, playing hard to get, be “unavailable” and follow “The Rules.” As such, these women will be more forward and more direct in their behavior when they are interested in dating a guy.