Question: (July 25, 2008): I called this girl that I met and asked her out. When she asked me when I want to meet, I told her "Today, tomorrow, or any other time you want to meet." Was that the right way to respond?  

Answer:This is a typical wrong response. "Whenever you want" is something you should never say in such situations as it implies that you are needy, desperate, have nothing to do and are basically sitting idly without doing anything except waiting for someone to agree to go out with you. What you should do is the exact opposite. You should be as specific as you can when you invite a girl to go out with you. You should be saying something like: "Hey, I am available Wed and Thursday evenings. Let's meet on Wednesday at 7:30 pm at this cafe downtown." 

Question: (June 24, 2008): What should lovers do in bed right after sex, early on in a relationship?

Answer: I think it is just as important or even more important what not to do right after sex. I believe that a few silent minutes of laying next to each other and hugging each other without talking is a good idea. You should certainly avoid cocky/funny, joking or saying something lame or irrelevant, you should also not discuss the experience right after and not analyze it "technically" as it will take all the romance out of it. The rest... use your own discretion. Also, even if you fall asleep after sex (if it's at night) while holding her, it shouldn't be a big deal.

Question: (May 2, 2008): What's the best way to learn how to approach and meet women?

Answer: I am not a big believer in quick tips, tricks and pick-up lines that so many datin advice source suggest should be used. I am a firm believer, however, that like any other skill worth having, becoming better at meeting and talking to women takes time, real work effort and a bit of patience. The great news is that if you engage in that kind of work with the right guidance and use the right strategies, the results are virtually guaranteed. And the best part is that the work - the process of becoming better at meeting and dating women itself is a lot of fun.

Question: (April 15, 2008): What if I make a move on my female friend, but I find out that she doesn't see me that way? Will it ruin our friendship?

Answer: Honestly, I believe that if the friendship is real, then making a move on a girl isn't going to ruin your friendship. A smart, confident, self-aware girl is going to be flattered by your attempts, and .... the situation may be overcome with minimum awkwardness. It's important to be open and honest about it, talk about what happened, and even laugh at it together. This openness will help you move on and put any awkwardness behind you.

Question: (March 24, 2008): "How do I ask a girl who I am seeing to be my girlfriend?

Answer: First, it's important to know what NOT to do. You must not ask a girl "Would you like to be my girlfriend?" Asking such a direct question takes all the romance and all the intriguing charge out of your interaction with a girl, and that might be a big blow to the attraction between the two of you. The best way to ask a girl to be your girlfriend is by letting her do that. If you are an interesting, funny, confident and otherwise attractive guy, the girl who you spend time with and have fun with will bring it up herself, asking you "Where are we standing?" or "Are you seeing anyone else?" and then, if you feel like getting into a comitted relationship with a girl, you will tell her that she is the one you like and would like to be with.

Question: (February 28, 2008): "How can I know for sure if a girl I am talking to likes me?

Answer: The reality is that there is no way to know for sure whether a girl likes you or not. Not being sure about this is a natural part of the dating game that makes it both - more exciting and more difficult. What you can do is learning how to be more attractive to women, learning how to make a "move" the right way and then, judge whether a woman is interested in you or not by watching her response to your verbal and physical advances. http://www.practicalhappiness.com

Question: (December 13, 2007): "She seems interested but she has a boyfriend - what should I do?

Answer: I do not believe or support interfering with relationships of others. However, having said that, we really don't know how things are between her and her boyfriend. Their relationship might not be very serious or might be at a point where it's just about to end - who knows? Therefore, you should talk to her, go out with her a few times and see how things are going. If you are attracted to each other and are interested in each other, it will be her decision whether to continue seeing you. If you find that there is no mutual interest, then obviously there will be no point in seeing each other again. So, it can't hurt going out with her once or twice and see how things are going. If nothing else, it will be an interesting experience. And if she brings up her boyfriend, don't worry about it. Don't talk about him; just switch the subject.

Question: (December 4, 2007): "Is being a challenge and being unavailable really attractive to women?"

Answer: I believe that the concept of challenge is the most misunderstood concept in the whole dating advice area. Men tend to take it to the extreme (and some "experts" take it way too far as well). It is important to understand that there is very big range of behaviors between the two extremes: being a doormat / wimp / supplicating man to being artificially unavailable and a "challenge." Like in many other aspects of life, it's a good idea to steer clear from the extremes when it comes to this isues as well. Keep in mind that you can be both nice and accommodating while being confident and strong. You can show to a woman that you like her and at the same time enjoy her company without begging for her attention. In other words: "I really like you" is much better than "I can't live without you;" "You seem like a nice woman" is different from "I feel lucky to meet you." Some gurus suggest that you should not be interacting with a woman as much and that you should be making yourself artificially unavailable. I don't believe in that, and I have never seen it work. It simply doesn't make sense. By nature, a woman becomes interested in a woman as she gets to know him, but if she doesn't have an opportunity to do that because you don't spend any time with her, then it simply can't happen.

Question (November 10, 2007): "I like her but I don't know how to let her know"

Answer: First, let's talk about what you SHOULDN'T do. You must not compe up to her and tell her "I like you" etc. This will "corner" her and will make her feel uncomfortable, Instead, inve her to spend time together one afternoon (study, work, read) at your favorite cafe and after that - take a walk together. Then, while being together, you will have the opportunity to get a better feel for each other and find out if you really are interested in each other without having the pressure of an actual "date" and all the awkwardness that often comes with tell her how you feel about her. www.practicalhappiness.com

Question (October 14, 2007): "She is flirting with me but she is dating someone else. What do I do?

Answer: So, she is dating someone else. Perhaps things go well between her and her boyfriend or perhaps not. Perhaps she likes you or perhaps it's just part of her personality being flirtatious and she really, really enjoys attention from men regardless of whether she is dating someone or not. In any event - there is only one way to find out. I suggest that you move forward and don't worry about her boyfriend. It's her job to worry about it. I very much admire your respect towards her relationship, but you must remember that she is a free person and especially when she is not married it's her place to decide who she wants to be with and be able to change her mind as well. Let's face it - relationships start and end. Her dating situation might just "expire" regardless of whether she is seeing your or not. So... imageine that she is single and don't even bring up her boyfriend in a conversation at all. Then, see how things develop. www.practicalhappiness.com