Do Guys Like Smart, Successful Women?

(Last Updated On: 07/22/2014)

smart scucessful womanAt one point or another, a single educated, professional woman will ask herself – are men attracted to women who are strong, independent, successful, ambitious and career-oriented? Of course,  different men are attracted to different kinds of women.  However, several observations about the men’s attitude toward those kinds of women can be made:

Some guys are not confident/secure enough to be around and feel comfortable dating successful, intelligent women. You might meet a great guy who will turn bitter / jealous at your success and will feel less than you when being around you simply because you drive a nicer car than he does, live in a nicer house, make more money than he does, and are generally accustomed to a more expensive lifestyle. Usually, guys experience that kind of insecurity because they don’t think they have anything of value to offer to a woman.

But, there are also other men – the men who know that what a woman wants and needs from the opposite sex cannot be purchased, regardless of how much money she makes or how much he makes. A successful, professional woman, who can provide a comfortable lifestyle for herself, has the same need for male support and companionship on many other levels. She is not looking to be supported financially. She is likely looking for a great, interesting, funny, confident guy with whom she has sexual and intellectual chemistry, and as long as that guy can support himself and not be a burden on her shoulders, his finances are not an issue – at least not until they become more serious.  It is only fair that a woman wouldn’t want to be in a role of taking care of a guy she is dating, and it’s just as fair to expect that a man’s pride would prevent him from being that guy who actually wants to be supported by a girl.

A quality, smart, interesting guy, who is confident and knows that what he has to offer is of great value to a great woman. He won’t be intimidated or in any way threatened by a smart woman, who does well for herself.  That great guy with a strong self-esteem who understands women and their romantic needs on the most fundamental level is well aware of the fact that it’s not money, status or expensive toys or other items that make a man attractive to a woman, but it’s who he is as a person – his character,  thoughts, goals, opinions, lifestyle and life choices that make him so desirable! As long as that guy is not just sitting around on the couch all day and doing nothing, he is not concerned about having less money than the girl he is dating or not being able to afford the most expensive shoes or a fancy dinner to impress her.

Further, it’s very important how a woman shows her success, and how it affects her. Sadly, career accomplishments often affect a woman’s behavior and suppress that which makes her most attractive – her femininity. The become arrogant and develop sense of entitlement – two of the most unattractive qualities in women and in humans in general. A woman who is on a power trip and who tries to prove that she has as much testosterone in her blood as any guy does is not attractive even to the most confident guy. Guys don’t want to compete with the women they are romantically and sexually interested in.  A strong, confident man is drawn to the most feminine qualities in a woman and their manifestations. Thus, your behavior, mannerisms, voice and general demeanor are quite important to your being an attractive and desirable woman to men. In other words – a common “in-your-face” attitude that many professional women develop is repulsive to most  masculine men. Telling a guy that you are not interested in having kids or spend any time in the kitchen will hardly earn you any bonus points with a guy who is serious about finding a romantic, long-term partner. You don’t have to be demur or subservient on one hand, but going to the other extreme hurts your value as a romantic partner much more.

Many guys who seem to be intimidated by a strong woman are actually only intimidated by the wrong ways that her strength is demonstrated or used. Remember – you can be both smart and humble, strong and feminine, tough and lady-like, demanding respect and being sexually open. If you learn how to combine those qualities instead of sacrificing the feminine for the sake of having other qualities, you will be much more attractive to the opposite sex or at least to those men who have the capacity to appreciate it and who are worth your time, attention, energy, and emotions. In other words, if you are a successful woman, but you don’t show it too much and don’t let it overshadow you femininity, it will make you so much more attractive and desirable to men.



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