Many people stay in a relationship in which they are unhappy. Some people are just getting used to being with the person and are reluctant to have a big change in their life, while others are simply afraid of being alone. These people might consider breaking up but will not dare to make that move for a long time – sometimes for years. In most cases, staying in a bad relationship is a bad idea and being in an unhappy dating situation will rarely make you or your partner happy.
Usually, in the absence of some extenuating circumstances such as having young children, it’s a mistake to stay in a relationship that doesn’t make you happy. A typical bad relationship involves arguing, fights, or even worse – indifference and lack of love and passion. Whether it’s a habit of being with the same person for years, fear of change, or reluctance to hurt your partner’s feelings – no reason is good enough to stay in a relationship which doesn’t make you happy. By settling for being with a partner who you don’t care to be with, you are hurting both yourself and him: you are making a sacrifice of your own life that is too great and can hardly ever be justified, missing out on having a better love life and a happier life with another person; and you are deceiving your partner by making him believe that you are committed to him when in fact you are not -well certainly not in your heart.
So, if you are in a relationship that doesn’t make you happy – if you feel like ending it will make you feel freer and liberated, you should seriously consider ending it. Having the strength to deal with a few rough moments of breaking up and adjusting to a new life will most likely pay off down the road by bringing into your life a more compatible partner and a better relationship.
Remember – in order for a great thing to come into your life, the bad thing that occupies its space must be removed. This means that in order to invite new and better dating and relationship opportunities into your life, you must liberate yourself from the burden of an unhappy relationship that makes you and your partner unhappy.
In some areas of life, having something is better than having nothing. However, when it comes to dating and relationships, you are much more likely to be happier alone than with a partner that doesn’t make you happy or at least happier than you would be if you were single.
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How about when you’re not sure about a person? When the relationship makes you happy a lot of the time, but yet you doubt if s/he’s really truly the right one for you?
Interesting question. If you can’t quite understand where your doubts are coming from and you can’t rationalize them, it might be worth simply giving it time, continuing the relationship until the doubts about the relationship move you in one direction or the other.
My best Friend for years has endure and mental abusive relationship guided by control and the entire family battles against her over the years we found support in eachother and we made it trough years of unhappiness. faces on when in a gathering but missery and dispair when alone, in the last year she found the strenght of saying that she was moving on and days before her moving out of the house something happened she changed and the husband in 5 days began to act like a good partner showing emotion were there was none before being supportive and sensitive even when confronted with evidence of cheating Hard evidence undeniable and him dening to her that ever happens.
With all the affairs in order and ready to move on she decide to give him another chance knowing that he is a cheater and despise signs from everywere opinions from every possible friend to leave the relationship she still wanted to give him another chance being this one like the 10th chance over the years he does not understands her I know more about her that he does she asked me for the evidence i found it she got to know things that were a similar patern i her life and with a confesion of a few years on him telling her that if he ever wanted to have another woman she wouldn’t never find out still she went along with one last chance and his response was to her that he was going to be faithful!!!!!
I dont understand why women stay in this kind of the relatioship or how can she cut the cord arround her kneck that keeps her from finding happines she is very unhappy and at one point she said that she was staying because of their kid.
there is not love connection there is not sexual gratification for her to the point of never having an orgasm while having sex with him, call it toxic cal it CONTROL over the partner mental abuse and selfishness for not letting the other person find ture love and happines somewerelse i cant talk to her anumore about this because he has fogiving her of having this much of a friendship with her
please help me to make see she is doomed now being in a bad relationship based in obligation now add base on a lie
help
took the advice applied it. the main problem i am having now is thinking about her. it’s like everywhere i go sumthing reminds me of her. i counteract the thought with a she dont love me, let her go and move on reply in my head. is this ok?
I agree whole heartedly with this article. True love is true love and unmistakable when you finally find it. If you don’t know or you’re not sure then this one isn’t the one. When you find the one you KNOW. It’s that simple. Get out fast if it’s not working it’s kinder to both of you.
I read about an excellent break up line in a magazine, it went like this: “You’re a great guy and I’m a great girl – we’re just not each other’s great guy and great girl.”
See? What could be easier?