Up until the advent of the “Pill” we were hardly capable of controlling (or preventing) pregnancies. Just imagine the mess we would be in if women had the same sexual makeup and desire(s) as men!

From the beginning of time women have been dependant upon men for every aspect of life. Depending on which culture you were raised in men obtrained wives differently and it was expected that the man would be the dominant one and would control everything in the marriage and family…..the woman (essentially) is the man’s slave. With this the woman (or her family) would be very careful in choosing her mate.

Since time indefinate the female was raised (brainwashed) to accept her roll. Prudeness, abstinence and modesty were the pillars of her up-bringing.

Now fast forward to the 20th century….. we see that not much has changed as far as the separate rolls of men and women, however there soon comes an awakening. Centuries of oppression is slowly chipped away and a “new” woman arises. The woman realizes a means of power and control….a sense of worth….a new spirit of freedom and free will. The man is suddenly forced into the breadline of manhood.

With this “new birth of freedom” a woman, from a very early age realizes and further develops the ability to manipulate. This may be the most sexist statement imaginable but when you sit back and examin the facts you wil agree.

Starting in kindergarten and all through her teens the female sees the affect she has, or CAN have on males. Through her teens and into womanhood the female grooms and polishes these abilities and the market is behind her. Just ask yourself the question…”why is it necessary for a female to maintain a wardrobe of clothing that either shows much of her breasts or accents them as well as her buttocks and genitalia??” In most every department store or market there are isles after isles of products for women. (You will find a four foot section of men’s toiletries). The woman can now take control of her life and destiny…..some moreso than others and some with a vengence.

The female is not stupid. With this new power and control she can dictate when and where she wants her male to “romance” her. And, make no mistake about it, the female thrives on romance and does not and will not have “just sex” with her man. It must always be with romance and on her conditions…..of course this is a generalization of females….there are a very few who are different but they still realize their control of the situation. For the most part a female will not have sex with a man unless there is something in it for her…. i.e., romance, security, affection, money, a new dress, a diamond or two, or maybe something as simple as getting the male out of a bad mood or being assured a visit with her parents the next day. All sounds pretty crude and far-fetched?? Think about it the next time you have sex! Men…. it would be cheaper and less of a hassle to just find yourself a prostitute…. or get yourself back into that bathroom! Have a good day.

@Lanna,
I can understand why you might be offended, it’s just one of those cruel truths in life. In all generalities there are exceptions, perhaps you are one of those exceptions, being a woman that has a genuine desire to have sex for for sex’s sake. That’s awesome and kudos to you and your lovers.

The fact still remains that if what I said wasn’t true to some degree, this particular thread wouldn’t be filled with so many men and WOMEN writing articles that backup my opinion. At some point you have to ask yourself, “Why are there so many cases where men are needing sex and their female partners have no desire to initiate”? Are all of these men just fat lazy whining bastards? Some are I’m sure, but many are not.

I enjoyed reading what you wrote, however what you wrote about a females monthly cycle was a total cop out. I’ll reiterate, Women will never understand a mans craving for sex because they don’t equally crave it due to the lack of testosterone. No man that I know of would expect a woman to be sexually aroused while menstruating any more than a man would be horny after heart surgery.

I’ve been sexually active for 46 years and I’ve had sex with around 20 different partners in that time. I have led a life of being actively pursued by willing females wanting to have sex with me. I can also say that I have noticed how other guys are desperately trying to get some action with no chance at all. They make no effort to be attractive sexual beings like they are unaware of the effort women put in to look good. It’s a multi billion dollar industry! Looking hot is a full time activity. Whatever my appearance it is always carefully contrived, even if I’m cutting the grass or cleaning the car in a teeshirt and shorts I expect the neighbour to be checking me out from her window so I make sure she sees something she’s going to want and desire. I’m not even after my neighbour by the way, you just never know who’s going to walk by. Any man who says women aren’t interested in sex and who rationalises this with some screwed up sexual politics is in denial. Face it buddy, you’re not turning women on. It’s all about you! … and by the way “Women Love Sex!”

For the most part woman who say they have a high sex drive will go on to describe matters that really pertain to intimacy. Quite frankly they are not the same but do go hand in hand.

Men and women are both born with a desire for sex and intimacy. The big difference is after puberty a male gets flooded by the sex hormone testosterone. It’s the fuel that turns a desire for sex into a craving for sex. Women will never understand this because; they don’t deal with the same amount of testosterone as their male counterparts.

I think if you take the testosterone out of a man he will essentially behave like a woman with regard to sex drive. You can see this in men taking antidepressants.
Likewise, if a woman takes testosterone she has an actual sex drive (not just a desire for intimacy). I know this is true because my wife had a testosterone shot and for a month really had a need for sex. It was awesome, but that’s beside the point. Side effects are not too good for long term use however.
Women like develop this long laundry list of items that supposedly will hack into their desire and unleash the sex goddess you’ve dreamed of. Guys, don’t fall for it. You should treat your wife/girlfriend with respect, admiration and love because it’s the manly thing to do, but don’t do it thinking you’ll get anything in return. Most likely you’ll end up on the good friend list, or in other words the no benefits list.

Since women don’t have a real craving for sex, but know men do they can and do utilize that knowledge to satisfy other desires. Marriage, babies, money, popularity. Why do you think the phrase “The best form of birth control is a wedding cake” was ever coined.

Women like to ramble on about how a man is defile and selfish, always wanting sex and paint a pretty ugly picture of men. The funny thing is that women have just as much of a dark side when it comes to sex, but it’s hidden much easier.

So terribly self centered…and I guess the guy is just to be at your disposal, just waiting and waiting for that moment to come and expected to be instantly ready to perform..or not..and not to be frustrated about that, because you would feel ‘pressured’ by that. I would not waste 2 seconds on you and feel much better that way…

I read an article about sexual assault before this article. I was primarily researching for the views of how sex feels for a woman out of my own curiosity when I came upon it. The way some men treat younger women is disgusting, but there is no evil in sex. We have various forms of protection to protect us from HIV, AIDS, or pregnancies. As a 19 year old man, I can say that I’ve had my fair share of sexual relationships. As a young man still, I can comment that I wasn’t always the first one in the relationship who wanted sex, or wanted to experience some form of sexual interaction. I felt like you did at one point in time, I felt awkward and ashamed of my desires. I came to realize that I shouldn’t be because when in a relationship sex is a natural thing that should be tapped into when the mood and the moment is right.