Many women are convinced that the location of where they meet a guy is very important. They have a list of places in mind where they would never want to meet a guy. Often, such rules have little reason and prevent those women from meeting more and better guys.
If I were to ask a typical woman if she meets men in bars, she would tell me that she doesn’t, as she goes out to bars to to have fun and dance with her girlfriends and she doesn’t go out to meet guys. When I ask her: “Well, what about the gym, the library, grocery store, etc…?” she is likely to tell me that she goes to the gym to work out and not meet guys, she goes to the grocery store to buy groceries and not meet guys, she goes to the library to check out books and not meet guys, etc…
This explanation never made sense to me. First of all, none of us should ever go anywhere for one sole purpose – to meet a potential dating partner. Meeting someone should be an additional, “collateral” purpose of whatever we are doing. I doubt that the above woman actually goes anywhere for just one, sole purpose – to meet guys, so her explanation of not meeting guys in all of the above places doesn’t make much sense.
More importantly, however - it doesn’t really matter where you meet a guy as it doesn’t change anything about who he is. The guy of your dreams could be anywhere at any given moment. He could be at a concert, at a grocery store, at a gas station, or anywhere else for that matter, but he is the same person no matter who he is. Admittedly, some places are more “romantic” then others for meeting your potential dating partner, and bars/clubs do have a reputation for generally attracting a crowd who is looking for a quick, short-term sexual relationship, but this is not always true. It would not make much sense to walk into a bar and assume that all guys who are in there are looking to get laid that night and are not looking for anything beyond that. That guy who you could have met at a concert the other night, might be hanging out with his friends at the same bar you came into with your girlfriends. Will it make a difference as to how he sees and treats you just because you met at a bar. Maybe so or maybe no. If one of you or both of you are really drunk, the chances of having an interesting conversation, leading to some kind of connection are low, but if you are not heavily intoxicated, your interaction shouldn’t be very different from what it would be if you met in any other place.
So, don’t place too much important on where you meet guys. Treat each situation and each interaction with a guy individually, resisting the urge to stereotype and create rules that don’t have much rational foundation.
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