Entitlement mentality or as it’s otherwise known – sense of entitlement – is a big turn off to most people, who know better when it comes to meeting people and dating. It’s important that you too don’t come across to others as if have entitlement issues. Do you look at a person sometimes wondering why they act as if they are “all that”? What makes you think that about them? Is it the way they stand, walk and otherwise carry themselves? Does their body language suggest that they are high maintenance, stuck up and act like nothing and no one is good enough for them? Do they behave and talk like the world revolves around them. Do they only mention in their conversations the most expensive restaurants, stores, cars, vacation destinations and alike as if those other “ordinary” things are really not part of their world. Does it look like they try to avoid anything “middle class”?
People with entitlement mentality are known for treating waiters and other service industry employees not as human beings but rather as their servants. They don’t ask for things but they expect things. When they buy something at a store, they consciously or subconsciously act like they are doing that store a favor. When they receive a gift or someone extends a kind gesture to them, it doesn’t surprise them, but they act as if that was totally expected. The people who have inflated sense of entitlement are also known to treat waiters poorly or talk down to them as if they were their privat servers. You will find this kind of attitude to be either intimidating, or off-putting or annoying, or… all of the above. Surely it will not be romantically attractive.
Although there is a racial stereotype, at least in the United States, attributing entitlement mentality issues to white people, people of all races can have that sense of entitlement. For some of them, acting like royalty is just another attempt to be come across as well off and try to fit in the local American or Anglo Saxon culture.
Entitlement mentality is very unattractive when it comes to dating. Perceptive, observant men and women who are interested in finding a quality dating / relationship partner will smell entitlement mentality on a person quickly and will want to run in the opposite direction. Beyond all other unattractive things, sense of entitlement broadcasts insecurity to those who knows where it’s usually come from. It screams “I act like I am worth a lot and I deserve all the attention, because I have nothing besides my attitude to show for myself.”
Some people confuse sense of entitlement and entitlement mentality with confidence. In reality, however, the two are practically mutual exclusive. Real confidence is humble. It doesn’t need to put others down and it does not seeks attention; it doesn’t ask for approval or recognition from people around. A truly accomplished person, whatever that might mean, will feel no need to act like he is better than others. He doesn’t need to. He made his statement about who he is and what he is capable of in far more meaningful and noble ways. He has no need to act snobbish. It’s hard to imagine a situation where someone like Bill Gates or Roger Federer or Warren Buffet would have to run around and announce how successful they are.
Acting like you are entitled is as unattractive on a first date as it is later in a relationship, unless whoever you are going out with feels equally entitled and/or materialistic. Eliminating any kind of signs of entitlement mentality in your personality and acting with a little more humility can make you come across a far more attractive person, especially to those perceptive people, for whom entitlement in others is a big pet peeve.