After your read advice on writing a great online dating profile to attract women you should be ready to apply this advice and write your own great dating profile. I am a big fan of learning what’s a good through making a contrast between good and bad.
So, lets look at a few typical examples of bad profiles:
“I am not good at writing about myself, but my friends say that I am intelligent, professional, educated and ambitious. I like sports and good wine. I am looking to a meet an intelligent, beautiful woman for dating and relationship.” – at first, this looks like a well-written profile by a guy who seems to have head on his shoulders. However, it has one major flaw that will make many women skip over it. It’s way too typical and generic. It looks just like a thousand of other profiles. There is nothing “catchy” about this profile – there is nothing that would compel a reader to stop and respond to it.
Lets look at another bad profile:
“I went to school in the east coast, but now I work for a major software company where I work up the corporate ladder. I very busy. I love hiking, watching baseball, and bbq on weekends.” – the writer must be reminded that this is a dating profile – not a resume or a sales presentation in front of his human resources department. Again, this profile has a very weak beginning…. as a rule, you should never start your profile by talking about school or work, as it’s not interesting and not really relevant to what you should be trying to achieve – to catch a woman’s attention.”
“I love to have fun, party, dance, and drink of my buddies. If you wanna hang out sometimes, holler at me…” – unless you are in a fraternity, you should never come across as someone who has nothing else to him but getting drunk and leading a lifestyle devoid of any real goals or ambition.
Now, lets look at an example of a profile that will stand out through both the way they are written and their content. Some women will think of the writer of the profiles below as weird, but… ideally you shouldn’t be interested in “most” women anyway, but you should be targeting those women with your profile that you believe you will get along and will have a connection – whether you are looking for a short-term dating, a lifetime partnership or anything in between:
“About Me:
I would hate to bore you by telling you how wonderful I am by attaching to my name a bunch of flattering adjectives. I am sure that you have already found this about two hundred times in all the other profiles. I believe that words are cheap, but actions speak much louder, so why bother? So, why not start with a bad stuff – I am impulsive and restless at times, I can’t kill a fly, I cried twice like a girl when I watched “Notebook,” I cuss too often, and stay up way too late way too often. There is something about the nighttime that I find magic, if you will, which keeps me up working or hanging out aimlessly. Can you relate? I have little patience for flakes and fake people – those who smile while being angry on the inside, as I never know what they keep up their sleeve. How about you? What annoyed you today? And what made you weak in your knees from joy and pleasure?
About You:
You are curious about the world around you. You can take a joke and are not easily offended. You believe that sarcasm is a spice of life. You can spell, and are generally happy. The rest is negotiable.
First Date:
I don’t think it matters what we do on a first date, and I am a big fan of simplicity, so a coffee and walk would be just fine.”
This is just one example of a profile that will stand out as different and arguable better than most other pages written by guys on the online dating sites. It has a strong, unique beginning, interesting content, and a few questions at the end to “help” a woman start her response.
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Great advice
A really good way to make women interested.
I’ve already wasted my opportunities. Now, I’m still waiting for phone calls:/
Your first example shows that the person is lacking in communication skills. He states he is looking for an intelligent woman and not too many woman will think…. nope I am a dummy I can’t contact him. His perception of intelligent and beautiful is what? compared to someone else’s perception. I agree it is not a good online dating profile.
Your second example shows that this person defines himself by what he does not who he is. He apparently doesn’t know much about himself. Lacking a little in self confidence. Although he does express some of his interests but not specific enough. I ask, who doesn’t like BBQ’s? Most people like to go for walks or hiking the only difference is the scenery. Watching baseball?? would that be on TV or going to baseball games. There is a big difference. So I would have to say just about anybody could be a possible match for this person. I agree it generically boring.
Your third party boy. Can you imagine being in a relationship with him? You would get no attention because his friends get it all. You might be able to tag along sometimes. I bet you would get stood up because he got caught up with his friends. He would just tell you to get over it because his friends are more important. Absolutely no committed values what so ever. He would be better off being gay.
Last but not least the best of the bunch… A little sarcastic, a little chip on his shoulder. Impulsive can be good but can also get you in trouble. A little restless, perhaps adult ADD, stays up late, how does that fit in with a working… what is that he does working that could keep him up so late often.
This fellow has a sense of humor, has an attitude, is witty, is opinionated, judgmental, a little outspoken and adventurous. He has a softer side when the time is right. He has a mixture of some good boy, bad boy going on.
Could make for an interesting date. I would at least check it out.
Great post!
Awesome post!.. but I will now critique the critic above because I have no life and am bored out of my mind. The above critical commentator seems to me like a very English female with a very large whip with which she likes to whip unsuspecting victims with whom it appears she meets quite regularly. She is most likely single or not fully content and this is because of the whip.
This is great advice man, interesting enough i was curious to see how many people just flat out copied and pasted your About Me part instead of taking something away from it. Turns out a lot of people did. Just search up the last part in google”And what made you weak in your knees from joy and pleasure?” Hilarious.
My nervous system frizzes whenever I read a woman claiming others always tell her she looks like she’s 30 (if she is 50, for example).
VERY FEW PEOPLE look years younger than their actual age. Almost everyone looks their age and this is a beautiful thing. If you are 50, what is wrong with looking 50? I have yet to meet a woman who is 45 or 50 and looks like a 30 year old. That would be weird anyway. I luv and have luved every one of my ages. Some days I may look a bit younger than I am and some days I may look and feel like I’m 180. LOL!
Hello, Soosoo. Love your comment. “Almost everyone looks their age and this is a beautiful thing. If you are 50, what is wrong with looking 50? I have yet to meet a woman who is 45 or 50 and looks like a 30 year old. That would be weird anyway. I luv and have luved every one of my ages.” – this needs to be placed on a big billboard all around to remind people of this.
Not to mention how ridiculous people sound when they tell others that they look younger than their age. If they do, they don’t need to point that out. If they don’t, they will sound out of touch with reality, to say the least.