To call or not to call. That is the question...

[n.antares]

Hello! I need some advice/opinions on this from someone. I'd really appreciate it if someone can help!

So here's what happened. I was at a party almost two weeks ago when this guy started flirting with me. Now, this is kinda big for me since a guy has never openly flirted with me before, especially not one that I actually like.

So he asks for my number and tells me he and his friends are going to play soccer the next day and that I should come. So I go to this thing, but things were not what I thought it'd be. First, there were only two people there that I even knew with only one other girl there. Second, they were all playing a serious game, not a casual one like he said it would be. And third, 2 of the guys there were from my high school, and they were guys who used to bully me too. So, I bailed...

I text him apologizing for leaving so soon and to text me if he ever wanted to hang out. I hear nothing from him for a week, so I text him on Monday saying I'm in the area and asking him what he was up to. No response. Later that day, I talk to him on facebook. He says he was in class and apologizes for not responding, which I forgot about so I understood. But the conversation didn't last long because he had something early in the morning.

I see him in the chat window on facebook a couple times unsure if I should talk to him or just wait for him to make a move. It's been 2 weeks since the party, and a week since I last talked to him. So this is what I'm wondering: What should I do now? Is he mad at me for bailing last time? Should I try to meet up with me so I can explain, or should I just give up? I've asked other people about this, and it's a tie between 'wait and let him come to you' and 'try again and get him to meet you so you can explain.'

[thatoneguy250]

You should have stayed at the soccer game despite if there were people that were jerks in high school. They might not even be his friends but are just there playing soccer with this guy youre talking about. I bet if you had just acted like you didnt care about what happened in high school they would feel like assholes for what ever they did back then. Its hard being around a bunch of people you dont know but you should try to mingle with new people when ever you get the chance. As far as this guy goes you cant know what his intentions are, all you can do is wait since hes more than likely made up his own mind and nothing you do will change anything. You dont want to make yourself seem desperate by repeatedly being the only one who initiates contact.