Having the right frame of mind when asking a woman out is of utmost importance to the whole process. In fact, the way you perceive the whole situation is much more important than the words you use. Moreover, if you state mind is frame is in place, then the right words will come to your mind automatically. Too many guys approach asking a woman out with a very bad frame of mind. In fact, their frame of mind is the exact opposite from that which is necessary to attract a woman and evoke her interest.

Too many men believe that asking a woman out should be done in the same manner as actually “asking” her for something. They believe that if a woman agrees to go out with them, she will be doing them a favor. This kind of mindset makes men come across as very unattractive and insecure when asking a woman out. “Would you like to go out with me sometimes?” is about the worst way to ask a woman out. It literally telegraphs to her your lack of confidence, the fact that you almost expect to hear "no" from here, and it fact begs for a big “No!”

From now on, you must start believing that when you ask a woman out you COMPLIMENT her because you really do! Inviting a woman out is a compliment. Indeed, you flatter a woman when you ask her out because by doing that you are basically telling her that you like her, you are attracted to her and you would like to get to know her better. Once you truly believe that by asking any single, available woman out you are doing a nice gesture to her regardless of her response, your entire posture and your attitude about those situations will change.

Just as important is the way in which you ask a woman out. In fact, it’s a much better idea not to ask a woman out at all, but instead invite her out. In other words, frame your words as a declarative invitation and not a question. Thus, instead of saying: “Would you like to go out with me?” say “Hey, I am available this Thursday evening. I know this cafe near this park. Lets go down there on Thursday evening, grab something work and sweet to drink and take a walk in the park together. It will be fun.” This will make you come across as a much more confident and thus a much more attractive guy.