Breaking up is not easy – especially if you have to stop seeing someone who you really like and care about and the kind of person you think you are not going to meet any time soon because there aren’t just many individuals out there, who will be that special to you. Losing a love one inevitably breaks one’s heart and learning how to heal that broken heart is very important to our emotional health and to our ability to return to enjoying dating life promptly.
Indeed, we often have no choice but never see each other again, and therefore it’s worth knowing how to get over those break ups and continue moving forward with our lives with the right mindset.
Here are the steps you can and you should take in order to get over any break-up quicker and in a more healthy manner:
1. Avoid harboring hope that you and your ex-partner will get back together. This is the crucial time when you must demonstrate strength and reluctance in letting those thoughts get into your head. Being strong now will most certainly pay off in the future.
2. Stop reminiscing on the wonderful times that you and your ex had while you were together. Such wonderful memories are great to have, and you should be thankful that you had those great experiences and feelings. However, at that most painful time, right after breaking up, these thoughts do nothing good to you and only aggravate your pain and prolong your recovery by making you feel that you sustained a major loss.
3. Stop thinking that your ex was one of a kind person. No matter how special he/she was, you own future dating life will show that your next love will be also very special in his/her own, unique way – this is just the reality of how love works.
4. Realize and truly believe that whatever happens, happens for a reason and for your own best. This includes break-ups. Think about it – every time you have to throw away a great pair of old, worn-out shoes that felt more comfortable than any other shoes you have ever had, your next pair of shoes is often even more comfortable. Most people who lose a job eventually find a better one. This is a far reaching analogy, but the same applies to relationships. If you were taken out of your recent relationship by some great force, perhaps that force is trying to take you out of that relationship and put you back into the market, so that you start looking for and eventually find a partner who is even better for you and more compatible with you on all levels.
5. Perceive your recent break-up as a great opportunity to learn how to deal with such experiences and become a stronger and a more mature individual. Like any other challenging experience that pushes your emotional levels (such as employment termination, loss of a loved one to a terminal illness, etc…) breaking up and losing love today will “condition” you and will make your recovery from similar experiences in the future easier.
6. Do not perceive a relationship as an investment and your lost relationship as a waste of time. Be grateful! Be grateful for having been granted the joy of love and affection of your former partner as long as your relationship lasted and don’t forget that some things are probably just not meant to last. There is no insurance against breaking up whether you have been together for one month or for 20 years. Just look around you. I surely don’t need to tell you how high the divorce rate is. Some people perceive it as a very negative by-product of the modern, western culture, but I would like to suggest to you that it is quite normal and even natural. Most people simply do not belong with each other in a romantic relationship. Most relationships end, most people who are dating, are bound to break up. There is nothing wrong with it – it’s an inevitable selection process and we all participate in it. Accepting it as a natural part of dating life is very important and can be quite effective in helping you overcome a painful break-up.
7. If you believe that you made certain mistakes in your recent relationship, whether they were the ones that caused the break-up or not, make sure you learn from those mistakes and move forward as a person who possesses a better understanding of himself and his interactions with romantic partners, and make sure that you don’t make the same mistakes in the future.
8. Lastly, continue living! Pursue your professional and social goals and don’t leave much space for boredom in your life. This is not the right time to “relax.” You will have plenty of time to relax once you are over your ex and perhaps once you met someone new.
Breaking up is hard, but it can be a positive experience if you allow it to be. It can make you grow and become a stronger and a more attractive person. Make sure you take advantage of those valuable life lessons!
Further, it is important that you remember that the pain of breaking up is an emotion, and as such, it will not go away overnight. It will take time for your feelings to go away. But with conscious effort of keeping in mind the above points, you can make the process of overcoming and recovering from the break-up much faster and easier.
And to make your break up easier, make sure you read the article with tips on breaking up the right way.
I am having a very hard time overcoming my break up I recently lost my job and I’m 6 months pregnant I have alot of free time that I just lay around and think . It’s very hard to get over someone who you have to keep in contact with and see due to the baby . We broke up a month ago and he tells me he’s not ready to have me completely out of his life but at the same time he pushes me away saying we just don’t click and were not meant to be . I love him and have been trying to get back with him but so far have not achieved it i don’t know what to do or how to move on when he’s in my life forever ….
Hi Marce,
I am sorry to hear your story. If he is doing this to you then he does not look like a good, responsible guy…
Marce,
It is very common to have these feelings. I have wallowed in the post break up mess on many occasion. Now though, you have the health of yourself and your new baby to think about so you must pull yourself together and the sooner the better.
Love does not have to hurt, but when it ends, it hurts a lot. I have ways of helping with the habitual and negative thinking. Visit my website and email or call me if I can help in any way.
In the mean time, when you are thinking, think about the lesson you have learned from this situation–what it has taught you. When it gets to be too much, decide to stop running the tape.
Take great care of yourself!
Lisa
Marce,
I know exactly how you feel. I am in the same situation. Im about to be 7months pregnant and things were fine up until a couple of weeks ago he says he doesnt want to be with anyone. Ive ask around to those close to me and they all say the same thing, to give him space and time because he’s probably scared of whats to come. i dont have any advice for you but you are not alone.
Marce and blank,
Sad to say i am also in that boat of sorts.. Dated him for almost 3 years and we had a surprise baby a year back and we have broken up quite a few times in the past, call me foolish but i love him. But this time.. i just know i need to be done.. it feels impossible..it’s the hardest thing i’ve ever had to do.. i still dont know how i’m going to do this.. it’s so damn difficult with a baby between us… there’s no way for a solid break..ever.. i just dont know how to move on when we still have to see eachother many times a week and i want to keep it civil but i’m so bitter and there’s so much anger between us…our whole situation is quite fucked..excuse my french heh. I really just don’t know how to do this but i’m not giving up.
hey. i had a massive break up. we loved each other since 3 years . my best frd liked me . he took advantage of my trust n developed misunderstandings between the guy n me. my 2sisters were getting divorced after a year of marriage which shook me to the core. one had a love marriage n other arrange. i started doubting on my guy as he can turn out to be like my sisters husbands . tht w
that was my immaturity. but unintensionally i started getting frustrated n like stupid i started taking him as a wrong guy when he used to not behave as i expected although tht was hw he had always been. i broke up inspite of loving him till core. my parents were scared for marriage proposals coming for me will be affected because of my sister’s divorse so they started pacing up. i was just 22. i got real paniced. i never wanted to land up into a divorse by doing such a arrange marriage , i proposed my frd , who liked me, by tht time i had no clue tht he was the reason for my breakup, i just wanted him to get someone he loved as i knew how painful it was to loose whom u love, we landed up into an affair in which i was just a dead man, i was always transparent with him n after a month of affair i met him n asked to breakup, as i loved my guy but wont return back to him bcoz he isnt a good person, out of frustration my friend tongue slipped out n he confeesed tht he tried his best to seprate my guy n him. i was shocked n dead. i realized every thing tht very moment, tht it was a bad set up. i travelled back to my guy. i told him evrything .but till then he was so hurt he could not accept me back again . he landed up into an affair with a girl 4 years younger to him . n tried dam hard to make her perfect when all friends asked him to forgive me. i tried hell to tell him how much i love him, but he left me all alone, its more than a year now , i am still not over it, i feel like commiting suicide , but i fear for my parents, how will they bear the 3rd pain in their life . plz help me, i cant figure out anything.
Jenifer,
Something similar happened with me.
I guess im the only guy on this page.
*Ms.A loved me deeply but was reluctant to confess,
*And i actually had feelings for Ms.B-who was Ms.A’s best friend.
*The day Ms.A wanted to ask me out; I went and told her how i feel for Ms.B, So she did not say a word about herself
*Ms.B knew that Ms.A was falling for me, So when i did Ask her out- she lied to me that she was seeing someone else.
I didnt know any thing about this until a week back. And now i feel like a complete idiot.
Nothing but bad luck
Me and my gf just broke up , well she left me. i just went threw a divorce and this was so hard to even open myself back up to anyone again. i truly cared and loved this girl more then i ever did my ex wife or any other person ive ever met. To sum it up and make it short, she had a nervous breakdown do to her being pregnent by another guy (happend before we got to gether), the stress from her job and parents, money, just everything in her life and she sold everything she had, quit her job and ran to TN. she told me she still loves me but isnt ready to be in a relationship right now and to leave her alone. Its… its hard to put on a happy face for my two little girls when i have them bc my oldest daughter (age 2) always asks wheres Holly or if my phone rings she asks “holly”?
DEAR friends , though its kind of silliness to ask for help for this , i am posting this to get to know how you feel about it …
anyways , i would like to tell you how weird and pathetic things had become …
at school i was in love with A , she was my first love … she has been in my imagination since then … she was beautiful , very intelligent …
while at medical school , again i fell in love with another girl B … for last 6 years i am with her … since last two years , i have been feeling that i had somehow lost the passion , sometimes i use to tell her … she would not believe … i never am that interested in her … but somehow i told that since we have been together , we should get married … though i am not very much in love with her , as we spend ( not live in … but being commited ) many years together , i would like to marry her … or it would be an injustice to her …
THINGS TURNED IN SUCH A WAY THAT I MET MY LONG LOST GIRL A … AGAIN MY IMAGINATION SPARED I WAS SO HAPPY … I WANTED TO BE WITH HER … SHE TOO …
but B would not accept that … she got so badly affected , her colleagues took her to hospital … i feared she would die …
i never told A that i am in love and committed to B since i was really not having the passion of love with B … the commitment was a kind of moral responsibility …
things became such that i had to talk to both at a time … my phone got constantly engaged … its kinda two timings … which i never wanted …
i had no malice to anyone … i just wanted to make things easy … i wanted to be happy , but not at the cost of suffering to any …
somehow A suspected that i had some commitment to B and she got badly hurt … she left me …
now B is complaining that i do not love her … but she cant accept the fact …
A has left me forever … i am really sad …
B wants to be with me … i am not sure how happy would i be …
i am trying to recover …
the question i would have asked was what should i do now ???
but its irrelevant since i have lost MY LOVE A …
dr.ron. Do you really expect us to feel sorry for you and your love triangle? Love is shared between 2 people not 3! No wonder things got complicated. It sounds like B really loves you and wants to be with you, but you’ll never be happy with that, so best leave her alone and wish her the best. I suspect that if you stay with B, another A will come along and the cycle will repeat itself. This is a bad formula dr. and you better hope that you don’t have that cheating gene in your blood. If you do, rid yourself of it quick because it causes too much pain for everyone involved.
thing like that happen. we should all be prepared to face them in a brave way. If you keep on thinking about a lost relationship you will definitely kill your self. Life is short. Shorter than you may think…
You’ve been b*tchslapped enough without my having to add
anything more. Not by a woman, but by the ego itself. In a
sense, the key to relationships is to simply do the opposite
of what the ego would have you doing.
As a rule of thumb, the moment a woman pulls away from you
for any reason, let her go immediately. By analogy, let the
ocean waves come and go as they please, and don’t try to
cling to the waves nor try to stop or push them away.
Similarly, when she comes towards you, open your arms to her
and love her, and as soon as she pulls away from you, let
her go and love her. It isn’t wise to “push” nor
“pull” a woman. It’s best to simply enjoy the fact that
she Exists.
It can take an entire lifetime to really “get” this simple
lesson. Once it really “clicks”, the knowingness of when
to break up or not reveals itself spontaneously and
automatically, without the agony of guilt nor of having to
weigh out all of the pros and cons and to think about these
kinds of decisions endlessly. There is also no more losing
sleep or appetite.
i loved dis guy.. he had a gal fren b4… but dey broke up n he came to m… no one in ma fren circle liked him.. but i loved him a lot… forgave all of his mistakes… i even went away frm ma frens for him….v wer together for a year n a half… he used to talk to a lot of gals… talk in da sense intimately… i din object much… but a week back i discovered dat he used to go to prostitutes in these one n a half yrs…. m completely broken.. i had loved him so much… i don knw wat to do.. i really don….
I have just broke up with my girl and have been together for the past 2years 9 months and going to 3 years. we stop loving because she have another guy, its so hard for me now
i hope she will be okey and take care mizah.
I broke up with her before some days and i love her so much
I was imatture and jealous and that in am exaggerated way
I love her and miss her and she said she needs time to see if
It can really work out between us
Do you think she will come back to me?
Help
hey all,
My ex and I were together for almost 2 years.During that two years my mom passed away suddenly leaving me with many responsibilities.I am also currently a full time student.I am 19.
The relationship was great when it was good but alot of time was spent fighting and argueing over nonsence.That is when it was at its worst.We both began to have trust issues with eachother.I ended up becomming un faithfull to her but felt so guilty about it that i told her the truth.She chose to stay with me so that we tried to work it out and the cycly just repeated.
Now once my mom passed away,my sister came out of the closet and then began to not like me for “reasons”,so my sister is no longer really in my life.my parents divorced when i was in kindergarden and now my dad lives in PA.He is not really any help to me.
So when all of this happend,I became dependent upon my girlfriend at the time.Out of the blue she says she wants to break up so she can be happy.The break up was 2 weeks ago.I live alone,I work alone.I have alot of time on my hands to sit here and just dwell on this.i keep trying to talk to her to fix the relationship and it just keeps getting harder and harder.I am pushing her away the more i try to fix it. I am GOING INSAIN INSIDE.I wish it would get better.I am failing in all areas of my life due to this break up.
hi
i am in love with a girl from the last 4 years before we were freinds for more than 2 years
we were good freinds but cant be a happy couple
we asuaul had a fight on little things. so we break before 2 years after a 1 year love realation in a bad fighting conditon.
so were back on this december but the problem has not gone we fight as usaul before
our thoughts was not matching
so we broke again
but the problem is that i cant live without her in my thoughts she was always 24*7
i cannot concentrate on my work
plz help
chandan you need to move on
hey!
i brokeup with my boyfriend.we had a 6 year long relationship but throughout this time he had some girlfriends …off and on in his life.and now am fed up with his lies n all that.i really love him but cant tolerate all this any more so we broke up…i need to forget him …really from the bottom of my heart…but it seems quite impossible for me as i have tried it so many times n i failed each time…but this tym i really want to move on n make my career n lyf but at the same tym m messed up with his memories…plz help me i wnat to b strong n throw his memories out of my heart as well as mind plz help me
Hi all
Well i been split with my ex now for 18 months. We have 2 wonderful children together. I still love her like we split yesterday, ive been on few dates during those 18 months but can never commit to anyone, what worrys me is will i ever meet anyone again. Im confident person and always have been but spliting with my ex has taken bit of that away from me. I think its sad that this long down the line and im still feeling this way, im not as bad as when we first split coz i was a mess back then, i can go about my normal day and be fine, its just sometimes i get thinking bout her and im unhapy again. We get on fine now, but ill be honest i still hope that we get back together, but i know it wont happen coz its not what she wants. We were together along time (9 years) and im 30 now and wonder how long will i feel like this.
I have been dating a girl who is very young 7 yrs old frm me and from different race…she confessed her love to me and says badly need my care n so on…im now 27 and had never love anyone so sincere before and i took this chance to change myself n had gave her everything she needs…we broke up and it was quite long like about 10 months+…we still studying together and seeing each other everyday in class…she knws how capable im in guiding her in almost everything and she respects me a lot and recently i got to knw she is hanging around with a guy so clled her admirer…all the while i have been keeping my hope and waiting for her…what should i do,move on or sincerely wait for her…if she knows im waiting for her she would definitely take it for granted as she will feel of still getting my care…is there a hope in future i mean a chance for her to find me back as i know how much i had influenced and she always tells around im a very nice guy indeed but when i spoke to her the other day she told me she can’t be with me even in future as the family won’t agree with it,i knew it’s just an excuse…she is now going around with her admirer and she told me she is just befriending him but the guy chasing after her badly and she does spare quite of her time with him…confuseddd…
I had an affair with this guy D, we cared for each other! He has a daughter 4 years old and I have a daughter too, same age as her daughter! At first we chatted on fbook, and he showed his interest in me, asking me to be his girl friend, i told him i having problem with my marriage, if my husband and i don’t have kid, we would have been divorced long time ago. He told me he had problem with his wife as well, and his situation was so much similar as mine. He asked me out to meet, we kissed on our first date, we had sex on our second date, we flirted online, we msn everyday, sending text and calling each other everyday. Of course, we had arguments twice….. but it was a misunderstanding! Slowly, he didn’t text me anymore, so i took the first step to text him, sending email to him and calling him……. he seemed to be very ‘cold’ to me…….. he changed so fast…….. Then I thought of breaking up with him since he made me to do this! I text him and said break up, he just asked me ‘Why’, and i told him ‘I don’t deserve you’……….. After an hour, I was so depressed and asked him ‘if i didn’t say break up, will he still want me?’ he told me yes………..i broke down and cried…………I wrote him an email telling him to start all over again, lets continue this relationship……..he told me ‘we better stay as ‘break’ rather than ruin our marriages’, he told me he felt guilt to his family……….. I vomitted a few times after that due to depressions and lost my appetite……….. he didn’t even say ‘sorry’ to me! What should I do? I feel like suicide, but i love my daughter………please help me…….. i couldn’t stop crying whenever i think of him……… eventhough we just together for 41 days ……….. its not easy to let him go………..
I just had my broke up. My heart feels so much in pain. I don’t know what to do. I love my girlfriend a lot. But I always face problems with her. She is a friend type of person. She wouldn’t leave her friends even for a bit for me. She goes out all the time with them and spent time with them while i just wait for her come back. It’s not like I didn’t wanna join them. Just that every time i does, i would feel left out badly. I sacrificed a lot for her. But i don’t see any response from her. She always complaints about me now going out with her and stuffs. I really wanted to, but she won’t choose me between her friends.
Hey,
I was in quite similar situation to Bryan’s. Tho I was very patient and I delt with this with cold blood – Im just one of those thinking love is also acceptance of someone’s flaws. We were together for 4 years, she broke up with me, had some adventures, we came back together after like 6 months, and all was great.
Then, out of a sudden, she has just decided to break up and cut all ties, just like that, after constantly assuring me of her deep love, with every word and gesture, after assuring me nothing will break us ever, after winning my trust again, she has just left me overnight.
Life is strange, and people are egoists, the faster you learn this, and apply this to your life, in healthy dose, you will be much more emotionaly stable. One has to value self else you will get devoured by pity and remorse (oh I could keep her if I did this or that, sorry not going to happen, Ive been there, I lost myself into my love, in fact, maby thats why she has left, peopel wants a challange….), not able to move on, like I am now.
I sit here and in my mind my beloved girl is embodiment of everything I always wanted to have in a relationship, a woman I wanted to spend life with, and I cannot understand she wants someone else, and the feeling of her beeing with someone is killing me now, so hard to let go when you dive too deep. I never wish anyone this torture.
Hello
WOW I read all these stories and it gives me strength to let go of my ex…
I see all these people suffering and I have been thru the same… I have cried my eyes out, I have lost my appetite my sleep , my smile…myself!!!!!!and I still love my ex..but I am coming to the understanding that I am worth a lot.. and so are you!!! and nobody should make us go thru thissss nobody should hurt us this way! and the people that makes us cry ,, and makes us wonder about dying to stop the pain are just trashhh they are the ones with the empty hearts,, the ones with the problem of not knowing how to love… I am not saying that everybody that breaks up with you is bad but most of them ,, the ones that leave you for another person (like it happened to me) or the ones that cheat regularly or lie or see other people behind your back are not GOOD PEOPLE and we deserve BETTER!! somebody like us committed ,,, loving, caring that knows how to give it all and respect that love and cherish it.. we will find somebody that will love us that way .. i am praying we will and that with time we will understand better why it did not work and we will smile and said I am better now !
they say love is joy but to be honest love is the most hurtful thing l have experienced
Just got out of a 6 year relationship…hurts a lot. Just thinking that he reacts totally different than the rest of us (like nothing ever happened) sucks! It’s still very recent so I have not missed him much yet, I have not cried yet. I dont know if it’s cuz am upset or it’s just me. My thought is: if he acts like I’am not important to him, why should I show any emotion? Ohh..man, he helped me raise my kids, he was there for them since my kids have a memory, my kids dont even care about their bilogical dad but for my x-bf, they are always saying “I miss him” and its only been a week. He hasnt even made the effort on getting in contact with them. Sad, how a man can seperate from the woman & kids. Kids shouldnt be involve in anything of this matter.
Thanks for helping me let some pressure go!
I was with someone for 5.5 years on and off. The last two years of that were on and off. We had major trust issues from the start. I knew very early I wasn’t the one for him, but I stayed anyways and as a result, I lost myself, I hurt myself, and even though he was hurting me, I hurt him too. I had issues. He had issues. And together it just became a continual cycle hurt, pain, and inconsistent happiness. He would break up with me or say he’s single very often towards the end (the last two years). Find a new girl. She didn’t work out. He’d come back to me. And I wouldn’t let go. I lost myself. SINCERELY LOST MYSELF. And it’s only now that I’m starting to figure it all out. He’s with someone new again and made it clear I need to move on because he has, he’s happy, and considering comitting to her. My friends have seen her all around holding hands with her, kissing her, etc. I know it’s just a matter of time before I’ll see it with my own two eyes. I’m here to tell everyone, LOVE YOURSELF FIRST. I am in pain, I cry daily but I brought this on myself by staying in something that wasn’t good for me and for also loving someone who I love more than they love me. I wanted to marry that man, be the mother of his children, but there are qualities that he didn’t have that I tried to ignore or told myself “he’ll get better”…”I’ll get better”…and guess what? It didn’t. What hurts the most is that all the work and tears I put in, another woman may end up getting. It’s devastating. But I have to trust that he was in my life for a reason and to show me my short comings so I can prepare for the man I’m supposed to be with. I know he’s out there and I’m just praying that he comes soon. Time is so short. Life is so short. And I believe we DESERVE to experience a healthy, balanced, progressive love that makes us better as people. I know your hearts are hurting, mines is, but we can get through this everyone. We can. Accept the wrongs you made, accept that they may never apologize for what they did to you, and work through it. Life has a funny way of sorting things out. They may be “happy” now, but we will be happy again one day too. Just know, the happiness starts within and we won’t get what we deserve until we know that we deserve it! Peace onto you all. Remain encouraged. Stay around people who want the best for you. Cry. Cleanse your soul. And try to stay busy. Suffering is optional. They’re out there living their life…I think it’s HIGH TIME we do the same. Even if it feels like we’re dying inside, FAKE IT UNTIL WE MAKE IT! One day we’ll wake up, and that terrible pain, the one that makes you wake up angry, tense, and instantly sad, will be LIFTED. Meditate on that day and it will come soon….this is what I keep telling myself….and I pray you’ll start telling yourselves this too.
This is a very painful but quite common situation. This kind of pain will not go away overnight. It takes time and patience and the pain eventually will necessarily subside. Then, the very valuable lessons from this past relationship will remain. Don’t forget them and appreciate them, as they should serve you well in the future. Being busy and meeting new people will help, but you need to let time do its work.
about 3 weeks ago, my boyfriend and best friend of 2 and 1/2 years walked out on me for another woman. we have a one year old son together and i am 4 months pregnant with our planned second child. about 2 weeks before i found out about the other girl, we went to a couples therapist, and he seemed so eager to do the work to make our relationship work out. we were going through a seperation for a few weeks but we still told eachother how much we loved and cared for each other and that everything would be ok. he was back and forth between our home and his mothers house. i really thought things would get better. the day before i fund out about the other girl, he still had me convinced he loved me. he told me i was so wonderful and beautiful and how he would always love me. the following day, my whole world turned upside down. not only did i confront her and discover the truth, but he dumped me and said he would be happier with her because he was so miserable with me and that the only reason he stayed with me was becasue he felt sorry for me. i am devestated. what hurts the most is that she and him have been having sleepovers at his mothers house, and everyone in his family doesnt seem to think anything of it, though im carrying his child and at home with our son. on top of that, i am moving out of the apartment we started our family in, i took my name off the lease so he can have it because i found another place anyways, and they are going to move into it together. how could he do this to me? i gave this guy everything i could offer to him. he did not work for a year and still stood by his side. i loved him so much. we were supposed to get married and have our family, but now its completley broken. i am trying my best to be strong for our children, but it hurts so much. how could he do this? how he just replace me after everything weve been through?
I have recently had a broken heart. I have never known what it meant until I experienced it.
It’s about 4 in the morning now,and I couldn’t sleep. I’m having a burning in my heart . Im a divorced woman , but i didn’t have such a feeling with my ex, this is totally different.
I met this guy online five months ago, this quickly devolped between us and he made me love him by the way he cared about me , the way he made me feel so special. I just fell in love with him. We’re from different countries , so he came to visit me . we spent the most amazing week in my life.We were both extremely happy and totally in love . He went back and we planned for another visit , we spent hours chatting online and hundreds of texts .
He came back to see me just last week , from the moment I hugged him at the airport , I felt something different, but I ignored my feeling and told myself that he was just tired.
He was getting so emotionally far away from away , he didn’t look at me the way he used to in his first visit.It was just the physical side that mattered to him. I kept telling him that hewas far away , but he denied it.
I had a breakdown when we were together , i couldn’t take the cold way he was treating me.
When he got back , we chatted and he made it to me perfectly clar that he was unhappy with me , and that he thinks that I’m not the person he fell in love with and that I decieved him .I was in shock and I couldn’t believe it , it was like I was talking to someone else , he wasn’t that same person that I loved . He was so cold and distant.
I feel my whole world is breaking apart.It’s a strong feeling.
We have made so many plans for the future , i thought that I have found my dream man and that I have to stop looking . We talked about famliy , kids marriage , having a house . He promised he would love me forever and unconditionally.
I really do need help , the pain is incredible , i never thought that heartbreak can be so physically painful, I feel pain in every part of my body . I know it’s still new and I have to give myself time to heal , but sometimes i think that the pain will last forever.
Guys, I am a guy myself.
Reading almost every story here, i would say my story is petite. There’s nothing like getting ditched or dumped by ur spouse, especially after marriage!!
But i believe everyone’s story is unique in a way.
And yes as i mentioned i am a guy myself, it was dead painful for me, when i had to break up with a gal of my teen hood days, we knew each other since 8 years, and have been together since 3.5 years. Guys its been over 2 weeks and i still feel as if the bucket within my heart is not yet empty, i still feel as if i have to cry more and more. I hail from India, a land where there are lots and lots of traditions and cultures to come in between two people who are of different castes, basically a f****d up situation. Finally her parents came to know about us, and they said nothing doing, no inter caste marriages and stuff (I mean come on how ridiculous can they be?? I am not talking about inter religion marriages, where i am a hindu or she is an islamic!! We both are hindus, its just the different caste!!)
And the thing which stunned me is, she after being with me for so damn long time, just decided to break up within a few hours?? Was i a joke for her? Were all the promises she gave me about sticking up with me false?? When i asked her that i would be requiring her when i come to convince her parents, how confidently she lied to me by saying “YES, I AM ALWAYS WITH YOU”.. and look what she betrayed me, ignored me to such an extent that she kicked me out of her facebook, my email id was blocked and she didn’t respond to my calls!! WHY?? I mean i cant stop crying and even thinking about it is so very nightmarish!!!
All i wanna ask PracticalHappiness.com is – I have just come out (not really) of this terribly painful break up, and i cant really concentrate on every damn thing. I am literally in coma, i see, i hear, i sense everything, but i dont speak and i have just become like a machine. Please help me.. Please!!!
I forgot to mention, that it was going so serious that marriage was on cards the next year. And yes she didnt even allow me to talk to her parents atleast once?? Just not even once!! Why the hell do these heart breakers exist in this world?? Why the hell do they like playing with people’s emotions?? I cant even say that i got a fair chance atleast to convince or talk to her parents, even though they wouldnt have allowed!! At least i would have tried, we never know some miracle could have happened!!
PracticalHappiness.com, pls help me. I am in deep depression and my mind is in an ultimate chaotic stage!!
I have recently broken up with my husband of 21 years…He said he didn’t love me anymore and hasn’t for awhile and just couldn’t continue to lie or pretend anymore…I’m basically devastated…We have 2 children and he is very successful…He is trying to keep all the assets from me and in addition manipulate me to doing what he wants in the divorce proceedings by dangling getting back together like a carrot in front of me…When I ask him directly if he wants to get back together he saids no, but will also say he doesn’t know what the future holds…Wish I knew what to tell you to do because I do know that this is not easy…but i have hope that everything that happens – happens for a reason…and that this pain can’t last forever…
Dear Jeniffer, I can understand what’s really going on in your mind and in your heart at the moment.
It’s really not easy to break up after marriage!!
This really shows that today, nothing can last, not even marriages, People’s trust is breaking, the path to Practical happiness is fading out and almost all sorts of open doors are closing down.
Be it a male or a female, Love if true, will always hurt when it breaks.
In my case it wasn’t a marriage, though not less than a marriage.
But when i listen to stories like yours, i get cold shivers!!!
God bless U and bless everyone of those who need to truly come out of this mess!!
Thank you for this article because it has really helped me. Recently I broke off with my boyfriend. We did start a little fast but believed that he was ready for the relationship. I am overseas and broke off with me over the phone and facebook saying that he was confused and wanted to be friends first when he was the one who asked me to be serious with him. Yes I cannot denie that it was great however I moved on and I am not harvesting the incredible moments I learned to let go and move on with this wonderful life and expect the unexpected.
I have been dating this guy for almost 7 years. we agreed not to have sex till we are married. we have been doing well till the past 2 years when he said he can’t anymore so we should do it. Am so spiritual and find it difficult to do it. Just last month i agreed to do it and i had a relevation stopping me. I told him and he said we should go our separate ways, but it is very painful and difficult for me because he is the only friend i have, am not all that sociable. We plan getting married in 2 years time if God permit so pleaded with him to hold on a little longer but he said he can’t,he said he might be tempted to hold me if he sees me, i dont know what to do. Need help pls.
I loved a girl (A)for 2 years. Even she too loved me but we broke up as she said she does not like to live with me further. So we broke up on August 14 last year. Its almost an year now. Still I am unable to forget her. Men are really innocent…. how come she can be with out my memories is the thing which makes me wonder still….
In the mean time a girl(B)in my company was very affectiobate with me. But due to the hurt which I experienced because of my ex-lover, made me stay away from love(B). I did not have the idea of loving anone. Now when B too started moving away from me. I could feel the pain of both. Why things like this happes to me alone. But one thing I want to say is What ever it may me for our inner self we are always alone. Relationships are like water on a lotus leaf. It seems to be together but it does not stick….
Hi lady
If you r a person who believes in Him, it is worth to find a partner who believes in Him too.
You may have suffered now but you have gained alot for the future.
Don’t look back, run forward.
Believe and pray… Open up and make friends.
He will bless you and everyone here with a true and sincere heart.
Many more good things will come to you, I am sure.
Take good care of yourself.
All the guys in this world are cursed thats all i can say, these girls are so strong(mentally). who said girls are the weaker sex, its we men who are weak who keep crying over the lost love even years after the break up……they reject us, they dump us,they cheat us, they kick our ass still we keep crying and want them back..y?? to get dumped and hurt again …be a man stand up stop crying thy r not worth all our tears…..
comin to my story i loved this girl(witch) we were in a relationship for 3 years she told she was very happy with me she was head over heals for having me as her guy she told she wanted to marry me and planned for the future …all of a sudden last month she broke up with me, i still dono wats the reason she told me some silly reasons its ok i did respect her feelings…. till then it was ok …and thought she will come back to me if i give her some space and don speak to her for a week or so….( i was so damn stupid) , then all of a sudden lightning struck my heart i heard it from one her friend that she is goin out with someother guy …i din believe, so i called her just to find out that it was true and she is over me in just a week and she is happy with him …i cried,begged, pleaded did all the possible mistakes for which i repent now, everything went in vain, i am totally screwed…
now i have a question to ask u all DID SHE EVER LOVE ME OR WAS SHE JUST ACTING OR FAKING TO BE HAPPY WITH ME……..all i did was just loved her blindly(mistake)
My husband of 20 years walked out and did not return. Says he loves our 3 kids and will always love me bur can’t be with me anymore. He said things wont change and he will not change his mind about this. I’m devastated. Trying to move on but clinging to hope.
Hi The Dark Knight,my story is very similar to yours love story,only difference being we had a 2.5 years of relationship..I have lost my apetite and my interest in everything…I tried pursuading her a lot but she didnot agree..she used to talk very rudely and used to provoke me saying bad things to her…and then she used to say u said this and that to me…I told her that these all things were the outcome of my anger.. and I am not like this…she made up her mind in ending the relationship because she was incapable of fighting with her parents that she would want to do intercaste marriage..she spoke to her mom later when she already had lot of fights ..but she everytime used to say I am not leaving you bcoz of my parents I am leaving you becuase u said bad things to me….She promised me somany things and used to say more often that she cannot live without me what happened to her suddenly I donot know..I am not sure..but she has left me n guilt..She has played with my emotions and feelings…!!!!!
@Arjun…we guys really are emotional fools…I have seen my friends those who cheat their girlfrndz they are alwz happy and their girl frndz like them a lot…Crux of the matter is never show your Girl that there wud be nothing in ur life when she leaves….if a guys shows this..He is gone..!!!!!I also did the same mistake i cried,begged, pleaded did all the possible mistakes for which i repent now, everything went in vain, i am totally screwed…
It feels good to know that I’m not the only one going through a break up. For five years I gave everything I am to this man and now I have come to realize he’s not the one for me. We broke up several times but now I’m planning with the help of God to stay focused and strong for not taking him back. I’m not a saint, however I lost myself to him. It was hard to have a conversation with him, I was always wrong and blamed for all the bad in the relationship, many times he cursed at me and offended me. It was hard for me not to taking him back because when he did came back he promised it was going to be different but this never happened. He will modified for a short period of time but will go back to his old ways. I went through a lot and I hope to heal soon. It hurts like hell and I don’t want to suffer anymore.
After reading many thing this article gave me practical advice that helped thanks
Hey guys, I hope everyone is doing well. I just stumbled across this blog looking for positive outlook upon the future that i will live. Ive been with this girl for almost 9 years, have a beautiful 3 year old boy together. We pretty much separated because we have a toxic relationship thats not good on us or our child. We have been separated for about 3 months now and i just found out she has a new boyfriend, ironically a guy she cheated on me with from before. I know its part of the moving on process but i still cant help but feeling betrayed or hatred towards her. Is this legitimate or jealousy?
I’m in a rough bind myself, and looking for some advice even though I know this is something I’m going to have to figure out myself in the end. I’ve been with my girlfriend for 8 months – I know that’s not so long compared to others, but we got very deep very fast and so it feels like much longer. The thing is I really love her, but at the same time I know she’s just not the right one for me, for reasons too many to list. Complicating matters is that she has a 5-year-old son with some learning disabilities and I’ve become very attached to him as well. Furthermore, she makes considerably less money than me and lives with her mom and her sister. And on top of that we both live in a foreign country and I speak the language here but she doesn’t. These kind of things make me feel like her “protector” or “savior”; I feel like I can help her and I should help he, so I always try to assist her in any way that I can – translating, taking her to the doctor, helping teach her son, driving her around (she doesn’t have a license), etc etc etc. When I realized several months ago that she wasn’t the right one for me, I tried to break up with her, tried a couple of times but she would always convince me to come back. Or maybe it was myself that wouldn’t let us break up; I’m afraid of being alone, I want to help her, I love her, etc.
Up until now the obvious advice would be, break up! It’s painful but worth it in the end. And I was getting ready to do just that – and then she got pregnant. It was just a few days ago and we’re not sure if she’s actually pregnant, but suffice to say there was an accident during sex that made it a distinct possibility, and also she feels that her body is telling her she’s pregnant.
What should I do? First of all, maybe she’s not pregnant, and this will all blow over and we’ll have a painful but necessary breakup. But if she is, what should I do? Should I encourage her to get an abortion, as hard as that might be for her? Should I break up with her but try to come up with some sort of way of sharing the child (nevermind that I am not ready for a child yet…)? Should I stay with her for the sake of the baby, and hope that the relationship improves and I can be happy even as my life is suddenly and irrevocably changed forever? I feel like what would make me the happiest is if she got an abortion, but does that make me a bad person? Will I feel like crap for the rest of my life, as if I used her and then threw her away when she got pregnant?
Really at a loss here.
Hi guys,
Exactly one year back I was facing the same problem you guys did. My ex-gfren started dating some other guy after a 3 year relationship with me. Like everyone even I was devastated, stopped eating, stopped sleeping, used to cry and cry over what happened. My parents supported me a lot through this phase and I feel lucky to have them. After 2 months slowly I started getting back to my former self. But after 4 – 5 months I realized that I was in a state of chronic depression. I lost confidence, self-belief and happiness in my life. That’s when I started doing meditation to concentrate on what I want better. I started learning guitar, tried to focus on work instead of feeling bad. Step by step I gained my confidence back, became more stronger and understood that ultimately it is all about me and not her. If she cheated on me then surely she is not the right person for me at any cost and I deserve a better person. One year after the break up I don’t say that I am over her and became the same happy guy I used to be, but I am a lot better than what I was as a person before the break up. ‘And ya, the reason my girl friend broke up with me is coz I am a very nice guy and she doesn’t want to be with a nice guy like me’. The very words made me cry for months, but now I laugh thinking how I ever fell for such an immature person
Dont ever think of past , just focus on the future.
present day is god gift enjoy to the out most.
I’m hoping I can get some kind of advice on what to do so any comments would be greatly appreciated. I have been with my boyfriend for almost three years. He has 2 children with another woman who are 7 and 3. I have only spent a hew hours with his kids since we started dating. His ex is one of those crazy baby mommas and doesn’t want me around her children at all so I know that’s why he doesn’t allow me to be around them but he claims that he sees a future with me. He seems unwilling to talk to her about me being around the children so I have stopped pushing the issue since he says to give it time. He works from 5:30 pm to 3am so he doesn’t have a lot of time for everything that he’s got going in his life and I try to be understanding of that but at the same time I feel like I should get more time to spend with him than I actually do. On the weekends that he has the kids I only get to see him once he puts the kids to bed. Sometimes he doesn’t even invite me over then cause he’s tired from doing things with the kids all day. I hate to sound selfish but at times I just want to scream WHAT ABOUT ME??? If he would stand up to his ex then I could be around the kids and I think it would make our spending time together a whole lot easier and I think I would be happier. For the most part he treats me good and he is a great guy so I guess that’s why I’m still hanging on hoping things will get better once I do get to be around the kids. He’s always so tired so anything romantic I feel too guilty to ask for and when I do complain I feel guilty for bugging him. He has never told me he loves me by himself although he says it back when I say it, and when I ask him why he just says that he’s never been one to say it often. I’ve been back and forth on what to do. Sometimes I’ll tell myself I’m just gonna back up and do my own thing to make it seem like I’m losing interest and then he’ll do something nice and I’m right back where I started. Am I just waiting for a man who is never gonna give me what I want or should I stick it out? Please help! Also I want to add that I am unbelievably in love with this man just in case that wasn’t obvious.
I think if he really was serious, he would have been made it clear to his ex that you are the one he loves and that his children will be apart of his girlfriends life. He’s not being fair to you, and you need to stand up to him and tell him what your needs are. If he can’t respect that and start making changes, then I would definitely start stepping away and leave ur options open. He doesn’t sound so sure. In my opinion, you shouldn’t have to tell a man you want his time. That comes along with commitment. Thats just a given. As far as the “i love u” thing, that wouldnt be a big deal if he spent alot of time with u, cuddled u, kissed u, did things with/for u more than he’s doing. Me and my bf(been together for a while now) don’t say it all that much, but we spend alot of time together and we are touchy feelie alot so I can see why u need assurance. Just tell him what your needs are and tell him you would like it if he told you he loved you more. Lay it out on the table and make it clear. If he can’t see your VALID points, I would have to weight the pros and cons of being with him and decide if he is making you truly happy. It sounds like u love him alot, but you have to love yourself and only accept what you really deserve and want. Don’t just deal with it because you love him. Your worth more than over analyzing him like this.
hi my name is Bell i have been dating this guy for about 1 year and a half now we met febuary 15,2010 i have a 3 year old son from a previous relationship but its not his child. we lived together i got put out he did not help me do anything hes always complaining about how hard it is for him to find a because of his record. but i tell him we can still do this so i stood by him hoping he would grow up he was from Jamaica and im from Washington dc very different backgrounds . and he grew up without him mom she left him just came back into his life his father left his mother after he had a baby outside of there relationship the father decided to stay with the other woman. and his mom had to leave Jamaica and come to america alone to try and make it for them. he was left in Jamaica to tend to 4 siblings he was the oldest he was forced to be a parent at 7 his mom sent for him at age 22 she said he would be right back . so he is traumatized so now he lives with this theory “he’s not gonna be like his father and leave the woman of his child for another woman”. when i met him he was cold i had to tech him how to treat a woman talk to a woman care about a woman he was cold hearted in the beginning he had a wall up. but he put it down he began buying flowers we went to family functions he and my son played alot together.but i must admit i noticed a huge red flag when i met him we worked together his previous girlfriend used to work at the same job i had just got hired at at the time. so we got close everyone on the job started talking shit he got fired for always talking to me and the girl came up there once in a while also and argued with him . so when i first met him he told me he was just ending a relationship with a girl .but at that time i didn’t care cause i had no intentions on dating him . but we hung out and told each other stories and fell in love. as i was falling i grew concerns about the ex girlfriend but i loved him we were together every second my son loved him so i kept telling myself it will be ok. ok a year pass i have had multiple abortions almost died over that. but i was becoming sick in the brain i wanted him to cum in me i knew i wouldn’t have his child but i wanted apart of him even if it put my life i danger..
so i began seeing text messages from her the ex as well as another girl who claimed he had a baby with her he told me about her in the beginning when we were just friends. so all the lying started i found texts , calls voice mails the ex calling my phone .he being quiet he acts like a child he sleeps on his mom couch in the living room and he wanted me to have the first baby i was pregnant wit but i said no he was not ready. he cares more about buying 150 dollar sneakers very week then getting a apartment so we can all be together. so after that things went totally down hill for us. he became more sneaky we would always go sit at the statue of liberty and talk that was our safe haven .we broke up in December i later contacted him in January he admitted the ex girlfriend was pregnant and he sorry and how he wants to be with me so we planned a wedding. the baby born in sept now i ripped up the birth certificate threw alcohol in his face and he begged me to work it out how hes serious now and done playing games. i believed him so months go pass remember we planning a wedding so he slacking on looking for jobs he just laying around so i broke it off told him when he ready for something serious he had my number. now a few days ago we got together since that altinatum i gave him about being serious about marriage . there had been no drama with the ex and all after having the baby surprised now i know why she never bothered me keep reading so he came over yesterday i told him i was pregnant people you no what he told me . “dam sunshine ” he calls me sunshine i call him moon nicknames we gave each other. so i said im having it i had to many abortions he said ok i love you ,r u going to name it after me we laughed and went to sleep.
READY FOR THIS !!!!!!!!!!!!
well around 11:30 last night i texted him as usual u no so out of no where he siad lets talk like adults so i said ok u no i had no idea what he was gettin ready to say but i was ready to talk be acts like a kid so much i thought he finally grew up and were going to finally start trying.
So he texts me im going to cry world but i wanna share this cause i need help please be here fore me even if you email me u can call me to please.
he says
“sunshine im sorry but im not ready for another child right now, i can handle take care of he one i have and im moving to Jamaica in the beginning of next year and my son and his mom is coming with me .”
I said
“wow enjoy i wish u the best moon”
i wanted to curse him out but i dident want him to see the level of pain he took me to at that moment ofr all i been threw with him trying to shape him into a man so that we can get married and to ear that i cried so hard i thought i was going to die.
he says
“im so sorry sunshine but i have to do the right thing cant do what my father did i love you always”
i said
dont worry about it im happy for you i want the best for you even if your not with me”
america i died on the inside
he siad
“she pregnant again i wanted to be honest with you before but i couldn’t, i don’t wanna lie anymore sunshine please don’t hate me none of this was suppose to happen ”
the only thing i was thinking was why me ?. i was faithful,caring, very dumb and on top of that he just said he cant afford any more kids but she pregnant agian i got on the floor leaned next to my son in his car bed and cried ,cried and cried. it literally felt like Niagara falls was behind my eye lids begging to come out.
I said
“ok i understand you go take care of that hansom boy of urs and enjoy your like moon”
“he said
“sunshine im sorry ”
i cried my self to sleep and been cring every moment
then this morning i texted him so he could get his things form my house i asked him do he want to come get it or can i donate it because i speak at a drug program i never did drugs but those people are inspirations to me and they could use it . so he said yes then he said “you love me” i said “your sick have a nice life”
then he said “im so sorry i love you please don’t hate me”
“i said Jesus Christ was hated by everyone yet he manages to die on that cross with his heart hating no one, i say that to say you never no why we are introduced to people who enter our lives but one thing i did learn and that’s the fact that i found true love and i can now move on good bye moon”
‘he siad i love you sunshine”
i said nothing everyone please prey for me if you read this because i have a 3 year old i still have to raise. so i really have no time to sit in my thoughts any cry so please prey i get threw this and i hope this helped someone out there. i don’t no why this happened to me but i no i dident deserve it and i hate no one for it. though its going to be hard for me to date again because of trust i learned something never ignore red flags.
the worst part about all this is we went out to eat everywhere ,shopping everywhere i cant enjoy my life because im so afraid i will see them somewhere together and i cry every time something resembles what we had.
PLEASE BE THERE FOR ME IM A SINGLE PARENT , I DON’T ASSOCIATE WITH ALOT OF PEOPLE SO I HAVE NO ONE TO TALK TO OR GO OUT WITH TO HELP GET OVER THIS. I JUST REALLY NEED A FRIEND . IF YOU CAN YOU CAN CALL ME EMAIL ME TEXT ME SET UP A OUTING ,REFER ME TO A COUNSLER ANYTHING JUST PLEASE BE THERE FOR ME.
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I recently suffered from a pretty harsh break-up, my ex left me stranded at a bar that we went to with no way home. I tried calling him and texting the night he left me and got no reponse. Didn’t text me for 2 days, and tells me he has had some time to cool off and think, that he isn’t mad at all and just think that we need to talk. He decided to break it off over text, but contiuously tells me he wants to be friends and hangout. I have talked to him numerous times over the last month. Then all of sudden he stops talking to me. I am so devastated about this because I loved him, and believed he loved me. Everything he has done since the break up have been contradictory to things that were said and done during our relationship. I am constantly overanalyzing these things, and I can’t seem to get him out of my head.I don’t feel like I have gotten my closure. This isn’t the first time I have been devastated over a break-up, any advice as to what to do to prevent it from happening again?
My boyfriend and I were together for eight years and we recently broke-up last month. Since things hadn’t been working for awhile, we agreed to give it a few months since we both cared about each other and to give it one more go. Some time passed and we had a big fight about something stupid and stopped talking for 3 weeks, even though we shared a home together. Although we hadn’t broken up, he began to see a girl and when asked if this was someone he was hooking up with he replied, “No, but maybe down the road”. He later said he felt defensive by my questions and in a panic responded this way. Regardless, I was hurt and began packing my things to move. He barely could have any conversation with me about how to break up our relationship and our belongings of eight years.
We still lived together while I looked for an apartment and he began expressing to me how much he loved me, cared about me, how I influenced the adult he is today and I physically and emotionally reconnected with him. This continued for a couple of months until I moved out and it was such an emotional rollercoaster…because I thought he really cared about me and I believed he was just insecure about how to deal with his emotions. The first week I moved out, he visited me at my apartment, cuddled with me overnight, told me hel loved me, and we pretended we were a family together. The second week, I found out he was sleeping with the girl he denied hooking up down the road, who is also 12 years younger than him. But, he continued to tell me how much he loved me, cared about me, missed me and wanted to see me. I spent two weeks crying, not eatting, not sleeping, and having panic attacks. Within one week of finding out, I shifted my feelings from extreme sadness, pain, hurt to anger, betrayal, and disrespect.
I wrote him a letter for my own personal closure. I thanked him for all the wonderful memories we had together, but I also voiced my hurt for his selfish actions to express love and affection to me even though he emotionally was moving onto another relationship. I left it that I wanted him to leave me alone and that I couldn’t trust him. He texted me when he got the letter, but indicated it made him too sad to read and how much he missed me. After two weeks, he was still texting me he could only read the first page because it made him sob too much and he missed me so much.
Then, last night I had had enough. In the middle of celebrating New Year’s Eve, I randomly text him saying, “Fuck you and your pathetic texts. You have 10 days to read the rest of the letter and return my things or I will make this a legal issue”. He responded with he will now read my letter and return my things this week at a time when I won’t be around since I don’t want to see him. Certainly I miss things about our life together, but one has to take accountability for one’s actions and sometimes the truth can hurt terribly but I can never trust someone who lies to me….even if they are emotionally weak. Maybe this was a midlife crisis or something for him, but the excuses don’t matter to me anymore. I’m eatting better, still need to take some ambien to get to sleep, and I have an occasional low grade panic attack, but I can feel my strength coming back and I have friends who are supportive when I need to vent. I’m sure I will eventually move on to dating others, but it is the furtherest thing from my mind and I wouldn’t want to give anyone a broken me. The holidays were rough, but lets celebrate…it’s a new year!
Hi
My girlfriend and I love Each other from above ten years . But she is afraid of her family a lot because she knows if her family comes to know our relation they gonna kill me.
she wants me to keep out of danger and requested me for break-up . its happen several times we fight and don’t even talk for months then come back. this is breaking me and her like Slow poison . We love each other very much. the main difference is between the Citizenship, she is Arab and i am Indian and that too relative of her. i suggest her so many times that i will talk to her family but she refuses because of my future. she rejected so many marriage proposal and said her family that she will never marry. how we can overcome this. please give me a solution how we can marry each other.
I feel ya, im in a similar situation. Give him space and time
the only solution to overcome a break up depression is to get into another relation as fast as possible. the one who does it over comes the trauma.
hie…i broke up very recently..its very hard for me to get him out of my mind…everything was so perfect so good..he even met my family and things were almost finalized..But all of a sudden .he calls me to say that this relationship is over…only because i went to a night club with my friends ..and that he knew it too.but only because of his attitude and ego he broke up with me..and just after three days he started dating his ex girl friend again..he has blocked me from Facebook,has put my calls on reject list…their was only one call from his end to say that he is sorry…and that he cannot go with me further..m so broken..i dont know how to overcome this situation.
I just broke up with my Woman yesterday, and today the pain is somewhat unique, the pain is not overwhelming now but it has only been two days. The hardest thing for me is just letting go. I will never say anything against this Woman and I have to bear the brunt of the blame do to the fact that I definitely took her for granted, and it came back to haunt me. I know I will be fine one day, when I am not sure but I will be fine. I think this article will help me and I will keep it as a constant reminder to help me deal with the issues that lies ahead. I need to thank God that the pain is not immense.
@ Sanghametra , I know it hurts now but you will be fine with time. You have to say to yourself you will be fine and I will arise from this situation, this is how you encourage yourself, because your friends can only share themselves but so much, so you will have to deal with you and you cannot even think that the person you lost will encourage because they are a part of the pain. But we all have to remember that one day things will be better.