Comments on: How to Overcome a Painful Break-up http://www.practicalhappiness.com/how-to-overcome-painful-break-up/ Practical Dating and Relationship Advice Wed, 08 Feb 2012 21:07:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: vivek http://www.practicalhappiness.com/how-to-overcome-painful-break-up/#comment-5776 vivek Wed, 18 Jan 2012 10:48:01 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=190#comment-5776 the only solution to overcome a break up depression is to get into another relation as fast as possible. the one who does it over comes the trauma. the only solution to overcome a break up depression is to get into another relation as fast as possible. the one who does it over comes the trauma.

]]> By: I feel ya http://www.practicalhappiness.com/how-to-overcome-painful-break-up/#comment-5735 I feel ya Tue, 10 Jan 2012 01:49:02 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=190#comment-5735 I feel ya, im in a similar situation. Give him space and time I feel ya, im in a similar situation. Give him space and time

]]> By: Sameer http://www.practicalhappiness.com/how-to-overcome-painful-break-up/#comment-5700 Sameer Tue, 03 Jan 2012 17:47:00 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=190#comment-5700 Hi My girlfriend and I love Each other from above ten years . But she is afraid of her family a lot because she knows if her family comes to know our relation they gonna kill me. she wants me to keep out of danger and requested me for break-up . its happen several times we fight and don't even talk for months then come back. this is breaking me and her like Slow poison . We love each other very much. the main difference is between the Citizenship, she is Arab and i am Indian and that too relative of her. i suggest her so many times that i will talk to her family but she refuses because of my future. she rejected so many marriage proposal and said her family that she will never marry. how we can overcome this. please give me a solution how we can marry each other. Hi
My girlfriend and I love Each other from above ten years . But she is afraid of her family a lot because she knows if her family comes to know our relation they gonna kill me.
she wants me to keep out of danger and requested me for break-up . its happen several times we fight and don’t even talk for months then come back. this is breaking me and her like Slow poison . We love each other very much. the main difference is between the Citizenship, she is Arab and i am Indian and that too relative of her. i suggest her so many times that i will talk to her family but she refuses because of my future. she rejected so many marriage proposal and said her family that she will never marry. how we can overcome this. please give me a solution how we can marry each other.

]]> By: Samantha http://www.practicalhappiness.com/how-to-overcome-painful-break-up/#comment-5695 Samantha Mon, 02 Jan 2012 02:44:53 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=190#comment-5695 My boyfriend and I were together for eight years and we recently broke-up last month. Since things hadn't been working for awhile, we agreed to give it a few months since we both cared about each other and to give it one more go. Some time passed and we had a big fight about something stupid and stopped talking for 3 weeks, even though we shared a home together. Although we hadn't broken up, he began to see a girl and when asked if this was someone he was hooking up with he replied, "No, but maybe down the road". He later said he felt defensive by my questions and in a panic responded this way. Regardless, I was hurt and began packing my things to move. He barely could have any conversation with me about how to break up our relationship and our belongings of eight years. We still lived together while I looked for an apartment and he began expressing to me how much he loved me, cared about me, how I influenced the adult he is today and I physically and emotionally reconnected with him. This continued for a couple of months until I moved out and it was such an emotional rollercoaster...because I thought he really cared about me and I believed he was just insecure about how to deal with his emotions. The first week I moved out, he visited me at my apartment, cuddled with me overnight, told me hel loved me, and we pretended we were a family together. The second week, I found out he was sleeping with the girl he denied hooking up down the road, who is also 12 years younger than him. But, he continued to tell me how much he loved me, cared about me, missed me and wanted to see me. I spent two weeks crying, not eatting, not sleeping, and having panic attacks. Within one week of finding out, I shifted my feelings from extreme sadness, pain, hurt to anger, betrayal, and disrespect. I wrote him a letter for my own personal closure. I thanked him for all the wonderful memories we had together, but I also voiced my hurt for his selfish actions to express love and affection to me even though he emotionally was moving onto another relationship. I left it that I wanted him to leave me alone and that I couldn't trust him. He texted me when he got the letter, but indicated it made him too sad to read and how much he missed me. After two weeks, he was still texting me he could only read the first page because it made him sob too much and he missed me so much. Then, last night I had had enough. In the middle of celebrating New Year's Eve, I randomly text him saying, "Fuck you and your pathetic texts. You have 10 days to read the rest of the letter and return my things or I will make this a legal issue". He responded with he will now read my letter and return my things this week at a time when I won't be around since I don't want to see him. Certainly I miss things about our life together, but one has to take accountability for one's actions and sometimes the truth can hurt terribly but I can never trust someone who lies to me....even if they are emotionally weak. Maybe this was a midlife crisis or something for him, but the excuses don't matter to me anymore. I'm eatting better, still need to take some ambien to get to sleep, and I have an occasional low grade panic attack, but I can feel my strength coming back and I have friends who are supportive when I need to vent. I'm sure I will eventually move on to dating others, but it is the furtherest thing from my mind and I wouldn't want to give anyone a broken me. The holidays were rough, but lets celebrate...it's a new year! My boyfriend and I were together for eight years and we recently broke-up last month. Since things hadn’t been working for awhile, we agreed to give it a few months since we both cared about each other and to give it one more go. Some time passed and we had a big fight about something stupid and stopped talking for 3 weeks, even though we shared a home together. Although we hadn’t broken up, he began to see a girl and when asked if this was someone he was hooking up with he replied, “No, but maybe down the road”. He later said he felt defensive by my questions and in a panic responded this way. Regardless, I was hurt and began packing my things to move. He barely could have any conversation with me about how to break up our relationship and our belongings of eight years.

We still lived together while I looked for an apartment and he began expressing to me how much he loved me, cared about me, how I influenced the adult he is today and I physically and emotionally reconnected with him. This continued for a couple of months until I moved out and it was such an emotional rollercoaster…because I thought he really cared about me and I believed he was just insecure about how to deal with his emotions. The first week I moved out, he visited me at my apartment, cuddled with me overnight, told me hel loved me, and we pretended we were a family together. The second week, I found out he was sleeping with the girl he denied hooking up down the road, who is also 12 years younger than him. But, he continued to tell me how much he loved me, cared about me, missed me and wanted to see me. I spent two weeks crying, not eatting, not sleeping, and having panic attacks. Within one week of finding out, I shifted my feelings from extreme sadness, pain, hurt to anger, betrayal, and disrespect.

I wrote him a letter for my own personal closure. I thanked him for all the wonderful memories we had together, but I also voiced my hurt for his selfish actions to express love and affection to me even though he emotionally was moving onto another relationship. I left it that I wanted him to leave me alone and that I couldn’t trust him. He texted me when he got the letter, but indicated it made him too sad to read and how much he missed me. After two weeks, he was still texting me he could only read the first page because it made him sob too much and he missed me so much.

Then, last night I had had enough. In the middle of celebrating New Year’s Eve, I randomly text him saying, “Fuck you and your pathetic texts. You have 10 days to read the rest of the letter and return my things or I will make this a legal issue”. He responded with he will now read my letter and return my things this week at a time when I won’t be around since I don’t want to see him. Certainly I miss things about our life together, but one has to take accountability for one’s actions and sometimes the truth can hurt terribly but I can never trust someone who lies to me….even if they are emotionally weak. Maybe this was a midlife crisis or something for him, but the excuses don’t matter to me anymore. I’m eatting better, still need to take some ambien to get to sleep, and I have an occasional low grade panic attack, but I can feel my strength coming back and I have friends who are supportive when I need to vent. I’m sure I will eventually move on to dating others, but it is the furtherest thing from my mind and I wouldn’t want to give anyone a broken me. The holidays were rough, but lets celebrate…it’s a new year!

]]> By: Devastated :( http://www.practicalhappiness.com/how-to-overcome-painful-break-up/#comment-5652 Devastated :( Thu, 22 Dec 2011 02:48:43 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=190#comment-5652 I recently suffered from a pretty harsh break-up, my ex left me stranded at a bar that we went to with no way home. I tried calling him and texting the night he left me and got no reponse. Didn't text me for 2 days, and tells me he has had some time to cool off and think, that he isn't mad at all and just think that we need to talk. He decided to break it off over text, but contiuously tells me he wants to be friends and hangout. I have talked to him numerous times over the last month. Then all of sudden he stops talking to me. I am so devastated about this because I loved him, and believed he loved me. Everything he has done since the break up have been contradictory to things that were said and done during our relationship. I am constantly overanalyzing these things, and I can't seem to get him out of my head.I don't feel like I have gotten my closure. This isn't the first time I have been devastated over a break-up, any advice as to what to do to prevent it from happening again? I recently suffered from a pretty harsh break-up, my ex left me stranded at a bar that we went to with no way home. I tried calling him and texting the night he left me and got no reponse. Didn’t text me for 2 days, and tells me he has had some time to cool off and think, that he isn’t mad at all and just think that we need to talk. He decided to break it off over text, but contiuously tells me he wants to be friends and hangout. I have talked to him numerous times over the last month. Then all of sudden he stops talking to me. I am so devastated about this because I loved him, and believed he loved me. Everything he has done since the break up have been contradictory to things that were said and done during our relationship. I am constantly overanalyzing these things, and I can’t seem to get him out of my head.I don’t feel like I have gotten my closure. This isn’t the first time I have been devastated over a break-up, any advice as to what to do to prevent it from happening again?

]]> By: Heartbroken http://www.practicalhappiness.com/how-to-overcome-painful-break-up/#comment-5374 Heartbroken Wed, 02 Nov 2011 19:01:55 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=190#comment-5374 hi my name is Bell i have been dating this guy for about 1 year and a half now we met febuary 15,2010 i have a 3 year old son from a previous relationship but its not his child. we lived together i got put out he did not help me do anything hes always complaining about how hard it is for him to find a because of his record. but i tell him we can still do this so i stood by him hoping he would grow up he was from Jamaica and im from Washington dc very different backgrounds . and he grew up without him mom she left him just came back into his life his father left his mother after he had a baby outside of there relationship the father decided to stay with the other woman. and his mom had to leave Jamaica and come to america alone to try and make it for them. he was left in Jamaica to tend to 4 siblings he was the oldest he was forced to be a parent at 7 his mom sent for him at age 22 she said he would be right back . so he is traumatized so now he lives with this theory "he's not gonna be like his father and leave the woman of his child for another woman". when i met him he was cold i had to tech him how to treat a woman talk to a woman care about a woman he was cold hearted in the beginning he had a wall up. but he put it down he began buying flowers we went to family functions he and my son played alot together.but i must admit i noticed a huge red flag when i met him we worked together his previous girlfriend used to work at the same job i had just got hired at at the time. so we got close everyone on the job started talking shit he got fired for always talking to me and the girl came up there once in a while also and argued with him . so when i first met him he told me he was just ending a relationship with a girl .but at that time i didn't care cause i had no intentions on dating him . but we hung out and told each other stories and fell in love. as i was falling i grew concerns about the ex girlfriend but i loved him we were together every second my son loved him so i kept telling myself it will be ok. ok a year pass i have had multiple abortions almost died over that. but i was becoming sick in the brain i wanted him to cum in me i knew i wouldn't have his child but i wanted apart of him even if it put my life i danger.. so i began seeing text messages from her the ex as well as another girl who claimed he had a baby with her he told me about her in the beginning when we were just friends. so all the lying started i found texts , calls voice mails the ex calling my phone .he being quiet he acts like a child he sleeps on his mom couch in the living room and he wanted me to have the first baby i was pregnant wit but i said no he was not ready. he cares more about buying 150 dollar sneakers very week then getting a apartment so we can all be together. so after that things went totally down hill for us. he became more sneaky we would always go sit at the statue of liberty and talk that was our safe haven .we broke up in December i later contacted him in January he admitted the ex girlfriend was pregnant and he sorry and how he wants to be with me so we planned a wedding. the baby born in sept now i ripped up the birth certificate threw alcohol in his face and he begged me to work it out how hes serious now and done playing games. i believed him so months go pass remember we planning a wedding so he slacking on looking for jobs he just laying around so i broke it off told him when he ready for something serious he had my number. now a few days ago we got together since that altinatum i gave him about being serious about marriage . there had been no drama with the ex and all after having the baby surprised now i know why she never bothered me keep reading so he came over yesterday i told him i was pregnant people you no what he told me . "dam sunshine " he calls me sunshine i call him moon nicknames we gave each other. so i said im having it i had to many abortions he said ok i love you ,r u going to name it after me we laughed and went to sleep. READY FOR THIS !!!!!!!!!!!! well around 11:30 last night i texted him as usual u no so out of no where he siad lets talk like adults so i said ok u no i had no idea what he was gettin ready to say but i was ready to talk be acts like a kid so much i thought he finally grew up and were going to finally start trying. So he texts me im going to cry world but i wanna share this cause i need help please be here fore me even if you email me u can call me to please. he says "sunshine im sorry but im not ready for another child right now, i can handle take care of he one i have and im moving to Jamaica in the beginning of next year and my son and his mom is coming with me ." I said "wow enjoy i wish u the best moon" i wanted to curse him out but i dident want him to see the level of pain he took me to at that moment ofr all i been threw with him trying to shape him into a man so that we can get married and to ear that i cried so hard i thought i was going to die. he says "im so sorry sunshine but i have to do the right thing cant do what my father did i love you always" i said dont worry about it im happy for you i want the best for you even if your not with me" america i died on the inside he siad "she pregnant again i wanted to be honest with you before but i couldn't, i don't wanna lie anymore sunshine please don't hate me none of this was suppose to happen " the only thing i was thinking was why me ?. i was faithful,caring, very dumb and on top of that he just said he cant afford any more kids but she pregnant agian i got on the floor leaned next to my son in his car bed and cried ,cried and cried. it literally felt like Niagara falls was behind my eye lids begging to come out. I said "ok i understand you go take care of that hansom boy of urs and enjoy your like moon" "he said "sunshine im sorry " i cried my self to sleep and been cring every moment then this morning i texted him so he could get his things form my house i asked him do he want to come get it or can i donate it because i speak at a drug program i never did drugs but those people are inspirations to me and they could use it . so he said yes then he said "you love me" i said "your sick have a nice life" then he said "im so sorry i love you please don't hate me" "i said Jesus Christ was hated by everyone yet he manages to die on that cross with his heart hating no one, i say that to say you never no why we are introduced to people who enter our lives but one thing i did learn and that's the fact that i found true love and i can now move on good bye moon" 'he siad i love you sunshine" i said nothing everyone please prey for me if you read this because i have a 3 year old i still have to raise. so i really have no time to sit in my thoughts any cry so please prey i get threw this and i hope this helped someone out there. i don't no why this happened to me but i no i dident deserve it and i hate no one for it. though its going to be hard for me to date again because of trust i learned something never ignore red flags. the worst part about all this is we went out to eat everywhere ,shopping everywhere i cant enjoy my life because im so afraid i will see them somewhere together and i cry every time something resembles what we had. PLEASE BE THERE FOR ME IM A SINGLE PARENT , I DON'T ASSOCIATE WITH ALOT OF PEOPLE SO I HAVE NO ONE TO TALK TO OR GO OUT WITH TO HELP GET OVER THIS. I JUST REALLY NEED A FRIEND . IF YOU CAN YOU CAN CALL ME EMAIL ME TEXT ME SET UP A OUTING ,REFER ME TO A COUNSLER ANYTHING JUST PLEASE BE THERE FOR ME. wyalita@yahoo.com (973)230-4467 THANKS FOR LISTENING hi my name is Bell i have been dating this guy for about 1 year and a half now we met febuary 15,2010 i have a 3 year old son from a previous relationship but its not his child. we lived together i got put out he did not help me do anything hes always complaining about how hard it is for him to find a because of his record. but i tell him we can still do this so i stood by him hoping he would grow up he was from Jamaica and im from Washington dc very different backgrounds . and he grew up without him mom she left him just came back into his life his father left his mother after he had a baby outside of there relationship the father decided to stay with the other woman. and his mom had to leave Jamaica and come to america alone to try and make it for them. he was left in Jamaica to tend to 4 siblings he was the oldest he was forced to be a parent at 7 his mom sent for him at age 22 she said he would be right back . so he is traumatized so now he lives with this theory “he’s not gonna be like his father and leave the woman of his child for another woman”. when i met him he was cold i had to tech him how to treat a woman talk to a woman care about a woman he was cold hearted in the beginning he had a wall up. but he put it down he began buying flowers we went to family functions he and my son played alot together.but i must admit i noticed a huge red flag when i met him we worked together his previous girlfriend used to work at the same job i had just got hired at at the time. so we got close everyone on the job started talking shit he got fired for always talking to me and the girl came up there once in a while also and argued with him . so when i first met him he told me he was just ending a relationship with a girl .but at that time i didn’t care cause i had no intentions on dating him . but we hung out and told each other stories and fell in love. as i was falling i grew concerns about the ex girlfriend but i loved him we were together every second my son loved him so i kept telling myself it will be ok. ok a year pass i have had multiple abortions almost died over that. but i was becoming sick in the brain i wanted him to cum in me i knew i wouldn’t have his child but i wanted apart of him even if it put my life i danger..

so i began seeing text messages from her the ex as well as another girl who claimed he had a baby with her he told me about her in the beginning when we were just friends. so all the lying started i found texts , calls voice mails the ex calling my phone .he being quiet he acts like a child he sleeps on his mom couch in the living room and he wanted me to have the first baby i was pregnant wit but i said no he was not ready. he cares more about buying 150 dollar sneakers very week then getting a apartment so we can all be together. so after that things went totally down hill for us. he became more sneaky we would always go sit at the statue of liberty and talk that was our safe haven .we broke up in December i later contacted him in January he admitted the ex girlfriend was pregnant and he sorry and how he wants to be with me so we planned a wedding. the baby born in sept now i ripped up the birth certificate threw alcohol in his face and he begged me to work it out how hes serious now and done playing games. i believed him so months go pass remember we planning a wedding so he slacking on looking for jobs he just laying around so i broke it off told him when he ready for something serious he had my number. now a few days ago we got together since that altinatum i gave him about being serious about marriage . there had been no drama with the ex and all after having the baby surprised now i know why she never bothered me keep reading so he came over yesterday i told him i was pregnant people you no what he told me . “dam sunshine ” he calls me sunshine i call him moon nicknames we gave each other. so i said im having it i had to many abortions he said ok i love you ,r u going to name it after me we laughed and went to sleep.

READY FOR THIS !!!!!!!!!!!!
well around 11:30 last night i texted him as usual u no so out of no where he siad lets talk like adults so i said ok u no i had no idea what he was gettin ready to say but i was ready to talk be acts like a kid so much i thought he finally grew up and were going to finally start trying.

So he texts me im going to cry world but i wanna share this cause i need help please be here fore me even if you email me u can call me to please.

he says
“sunshine im sorry but im not ready for another child right now, i can handle take care of he one i have and im moving to Jamaica in the beginning of next year and my son and his mom is coming with me .”

I said
“wow enjoy i wish u the best moon”
i wanted to curse him out but i dident want him to see the level of pain he took me to at that moment ofr all i been threw with him trying to shape him into a man so that we can get married and to ear that i cried so hard i thought i was going to die.

he says
“im so sorry sunshine but i have to do the right thing cant do what my father did i love you always”

i said
dont worry about it im happy for you i want the best for you even if your not with me”
america i died on the inside

he siad

“she pregnant again i wanted to be honest with you before but i couldn’t, i don’t wanna lie anymore sunshine please don’t hate me none of this was suppose to happen ”

the only thing i was thinking was why me ?. i was faithful,caring, very dumb and on top of that he just said he cant afford any more kids but she pregnant agian i got on the floor leaned next to my son in his car bed and cried ,cried and cried. it literally felt like Niagara falls was behind my eye lids begging to come out.

I said
“ok i understand you go take care of that hansom boy of urs and enjoy your like moon”

“he said
“sunshine im sorry ”

i cried my self to sleep and been cring every moment

then this morning i texted him so he could get his things form my house i asked him do he want to come get it or can i donate it because i speak at a drug program i never did drugs but those people are inspirations to me and they could use it . so he said yes then he said “you love me” i said “your sick have a nice life”
then he said “im so sorry i love you please don’t hate me”

“i said Jesus Christ was hated by everyone yet he manages to die on that cross with his heart hating no one, i say that to say you never no why we are introduced to people who enter our lives but one thing i did learn and that’s the fact that i found true love and i can now move on good bye moon”

‘he siad i love you sunshine”

i said nothing everyone please prey for me if you read this because i have a 3 year old i still have to raise. so i really have no time to sit in my thoughts any cry so please prey i get threw this and i hope this helped someone out there. i don’t no why this happened to me but i no i dident deserve it and i hate no one for it. though its going to be hard for me to date again because of trust i learned something never ignore red flags.

the worst part about all this is we went out to eat everywhere ,shopping everywhere i cant enjoy my life because im so afraid i will see them somewhere together and i cry every time something resembles what we had.

PLEASE BE THERE FOR ME IM A SINGLE PARENT , I DON’T ASSOCIATE WITH ALOT OF PEOPLE SO I HAVE NO ONE TO TALK TO OR GO OUT WITH TO HELP GET OVER THIS. I JUST REALLY NEED A FRIEND . IF YOU CAN YOU CAN CALL ME EMAIL ME TEXT ME SET UP A OUTING ,REFER ME TO A COUNSLER ANYTHING JUST PLEASE BE THERE FOR ME.
wyalita@yahoo.com
(973)230-4467

THANKS FOR LISTENING

]]> By: Eprincess http://www.practicalhappiness.com/how-to-overcome-painful-break-up/#comment-5369 Eprincess Wed, 02 Nov 2011 14:20:41 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=190#comment-5369 I think if he really was serious, he would have been made it clear to his ex that you are the one he loves and that his children will be apart of his girlfriends life. He's not being fair to you, and you need to stand up to him and tell him what your needs are. If he can't respect that and start making changes, then I would definitely start stepping away and leave ur options open. He doesn't sound so sure. In my opinion, you shouldn't have to tell a man you want his time. That comes along with commitment. Thats just a given. As far as the "i love u" thing, that wouldnt be a big deal if he spent alot of time with u, cuddled u, kissed u, did things with/for u more than he's doing. Me and my bf(been together for a while now) don't say it all that much, but we spend alot of time together and we are touchy feelie alot so I can see why u need assurance. Just tell him what your needs are and tell him you would like it if he told you he loved you more. Lay it out on the table and make it clear. If he can't see your VALID points, I would have to weight the pros and cons of being with him and decide if he is making you truly happy. It sounds like u love him alot, but you have to love yourself and only accept what you really deserve and want. Don't just deal with it because you love him. Your worth more than over analyzing him like this. I think if he really was serious, he would have been made it clear to his ex that you are the one he loves and that his children will be apart of his girlfriends life. He’s not being fair to you, and you need to stand up to him and tell him what your needs are. If he can’t respect that and start making changes, then I would definitely start stepping away and leave ur options open. He doesn’t sound so sure. In my opinion, you shouldn’t have to tell a man you want his time. That comes along with commitment. Thats just a given. As far as the “i love u” thing, that wouldnt be a big deal if he spent alot of time with u, cuddled u, kissed u, did things with/for u more than he’s doing. Me and my bf(been together for a while now) don’t say it all that much, but we spend alot of time together and we are touchy feelie alot so I can see why u need assurance. Just tell him what your needs are and tell him you would like it if he told you he loved you more. Lay it out on the table and make it clear. If he can’t see your VALID points, I would have to weight the pros and cons of being with him and decide if he is making you truly happy. It sounds like u love him alot, but you have to love yourself and only accept what you really deserve and want. Don’t just deal with it because you love him. Your worth more than over analyzing him like this.

]]> By: Confused http://www.practicalhappiness.com/how-to-overcome-painful-break-up/#comment-5335 Confused Tue, 25 Oct 2011 20:33:02 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=190#comment-5335 I'm hoping I can get some kind of advice on what to do so any comments would be greatly appreciated. I have been with my boyfriend for almost three years. He has 2 children with another woman who are 7 and 3. I have only spent a hew hours with his kids since we started dating. His ex is one of those crazy baby mommas and doesn't want me around her children at all so I know that's why he doesn't allow me to be around them but he claims that he sees a future with me. He seems unwilling to talk to her about me being around the children so I have stopped pushing the issue since he says to give it time. He works from 5:30 pm to 3am so he doesn't have a lot of time for everything that he's got going in his life and I try to be understanding of that but at the same time I feel like I should get more time to spend with him than I actually do. On the weekends that he has the kids I only get to see him once he puts the kids to bed. Sometimes he doesn't even invite me over then cause he's tired from doing things with the kids all day. I hate to sound selfish but at times I just want to scream WHAT ABOUT ME??? If he would stand up to his ex then I could be around the kids and I think it would make our spending time together a whole lot easier and I think I would be happier. For the most part he treats me good and he is a great guy so I guess that's why I'm still hanging on hoping things will get better once I do get to be around the kids. He's always so tired so anything romantic I feel too guilty to ask for and when I do complain I feel guilty for bugging him. He has never told me he loves me by himself although he says it back when I say it, and when I ask him why he just says that he's never been one to say it often. I've been back and forth on what to do. Sometimes I'll tell myself I'm just gonna back up and do my own thing to make it seem like I'm losing interest and then he'll do something nice and I'm right back where I started. Am I just waiting for a man who is never gonna give me what I want or should I stick it out? Please help! Also I want to add that I am unbelievably in love with this man just in case that wasn't obvious. I’m hoping I can get some kind of advice on what to do so any comments would be greatly appreciated. I have been with my boyfriend for almost three years. He has 2 children with another woman who are 7 and 3. I have only spent a hew hours with his kids since we started dating. His ex is one of those crazy baby mommas and doesn’t want me around her children at all so I know that’s why he doesn’t allow me to be around them but he claims that he sees a future with me. He seems unwilling to talk to her about me being around the children so I have stopped pushing the issue since he says to give it time. He works from 5:30 pm to 3am so he doesn’t have a lot of time for everything that he’s got going in his life and I try to be understanding of that but at the same time I feel like I should get more time to spend with him than I actually do. On the weekends that he has the kids I only get to see him once he puts the kids to bed. Sometimes he doesn’t even invite me over then cause he’s tired from doing things with the kids all day. I hate to sound selfish but at times I just want to scream WHAT ABOUT ME??? If he would stand up to his ex then I could be around the kids and I think it would make our spending time together a whole lot easier and I think I would be happier. For the most part he treats me good and he is a great guy so I guess that’s why I’m still hanging on hoping things will get better once I do get to be around the kids. He’s always so tired so anything romantic I feel too guilty to ask for and when I do complain I feel guilty for bugging him. He has never told me he loves me by himself although he says it back when I say it, and when I ask him why he just says that he’s never been one to say it often. I’ve been back and forth on what to do. Sometimes I’ll tell myself I’m just gonna back up and do my own thing to make it seem like I’m losing interest and then he’ll do something nice and I’m right back where I started. Am I just waiting for a man who is never gonna give me what I want or should I stick it out? Please help! Also I want to add that I am unbelievably in love with this man just in case that wasn’t obvious.

]]> By: Remedy http://www.practicalhappiness.com/how-to-overcome-painful-break-up/#comment-5250 Remedy Sat, 08 Oct 2011 17:57:41 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=190#comment-5250 Dont ever think of past , just focus on the future. present day is god gift enjoy to the out most. Dont ever think of past , just focus on the future.
present day is god gift enjoy to the out most.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.practicalhappiness.com/how-to-overcome-painful-break-up/#comment-5230 Anonymous Fri, 30 Sep 2011 06:06:41 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=190#comment-5230 Hi guys, Exactly one year back I was facing the same problem you guys did. My ex-gfren started dating some other guy after a 3 year relationship with me. Like everyone even I was devastated, stopped eating, stopped sleeping, used to cry and cry over what happened. My parents supported me a lot through this phase and I feel lucky to have them. After 2 months slowly I started getting back to my former self. But after 4 - 5 months I realized that I was in a state of chronic depression. I lost confidence, self-belief and happiness in my life. That's when I started doing meditation to concentrate on what I want better. I started learning guitar, tried to focus on work instead of feeling bad. Step by step I gained my confidence back, became more stronger and understood that ultimately it is all about me and not her. If she cheated on me then surely she is not the right person for me at any cost and I deserve a better person. One year after the break up I don't say that I am over her and became the same happy guy I used to be, but I am a lot better than what I was as a person before the break up. 'And ya, the reason my girl friend broke up with me is coz I am a very nice guy and she doesn't want to be with a nice guy like me'. The very words made me cry for months, but now I laugh thinking how I ever fell for such an immature person Hi guys,

Exactly one year back I was facing the same problem you guys did. My ex-gfren started dating some other guy after a 3 year relationship with me. Like everyone even I was devastated, stopped eating, stopped sleeping, used to cry and cry over what happened. My parents supported me a lot through this phase and I feel lucky to have them. After 2 months slowly I started getting back to my former self. But after 4 – 5 months I realized that I was in a state of chronic depression. I lost confidence, self-belief and happiness in my life. That’s when I started doing meditation to concentrate on what I want better. I started learning guitar, tried to focus on work instead of feeling bad. Step by step I gained my confidence back, became more stronger and understood that ultimately it is all about me and not her. If she cheated on me then surely she is not the right person for me at any cost and I deserve a better person. One year after the break up I don’t say that I am over her and became the same happy guy I used to be, but I am a lot better than what I was as a person before the break up. ‘And ya, the reason my girl friend broke up with me is coz I am a very nice guy and she doesn’t want to be with a nice guy like me’. The very words made me cry for months, but now I laugh thinking how I ever fell for such an immature person

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