How to Pass Women’s Tests with Flying Colors

women's testsMost dating advice programs and books for men discuss women’s tests in one form or another, and for a good reason. These tests usually involve some kind of behavior or statement that push a guy’s buttons and test his response to see if he is confident enough and strong enough to handle it the right way without letting upset him or otherwise get to him.

1. A Woman’s Tests Is One Way For Her to Fine Out If There Is Something About      You That She Would Consider a Deal Breaker

 

For instance, a woman might say as early as a first date “You are mean” at a certain point in a conversation to see if you would bend, beg for forgiveness and would promise to never do whatever you did that brought about the her complaint, or whether you would just tease her about it and treat her like a crying baby, if appropriate. Or, a girl might talk very highly about her ex, which is also an unconscious test to see whether you will be like a few of those guys she met in the past who were obsessing about her past, or whether you a different kind of guy – someone who is not bothered by her past and by how much she liked her exes. By testing you when talking about how wonderful her ex was, she will be subconsciously looking to hear from you: “Wow, he sounds like a great guy. I wish I could meet him and learn a few tips from him.”

2. Women’s Tests Are a Compliment to You

You should appreciate women’s tests when they come your way. A woman’s test is a compliment to you, because it means that she likes you and she is trying to determine whether you have one of those qualities that are deal-breakers to her, such as being jealous, insecure or otherwise emotionally unstable. When you pass a woman’s test, you become automatically more attractive to her, not to mention the fact that women’s tests are fun if you are able to recognize them and know how to deal with them the right way.

Thus, the next time a woman, who you just started seeing and who seems to like you, tells you that she is going out on a date with this guy she just met, don’t be one of those jealous, insecure guys who would freak out and would start interrogating her about who that guy is, why she is going out with him and whether she likes him more or less than you. Instead, encourage her to go out and have fun with him. Go even further and say playfully: “I can be your warm up date for your real date later then.” This kind of self-deprecating humor will communicate beyond any doubt that you are totally confident and yourself, that you are really not threatened by any other guy and any competition over her attention does not really concern you.  These are the qualities that are very attractive to those women who are worth your time and attention.

3. Common Examples of Women’s Tests:

Here are some other useful examples of simple responses to women’s tests, through which you can show your confidence and sense of humor with the girl who you already established some connection with:

- What’s the last time your had sex? Answer: this morning, but it wasn’t that great. Last night’s girl was much better.
– How long have you been single? Answer: I am actually married, but I am looking for a girlfriend… or two.
– If she refers to you being out as a “date”, you should immediate correct her: “Sorry, this is strictly business.”
– Do you do this with every girl you meet/go out with? – No. Only with the odd ones; not the even ones.
– What do you value? Answer: money, image, labels. I am what a drive.
– What kind of women do you like? Answer: I am looking for three qualities: flaky, superficial, and dramatic.
– You know I am not sleeping with you, right? – Eww!? Sleeping? Why would you say something so obscene?

These seemingly absurd responses will likely get a good laugh out of a girl who is smart, who is not uptight, and who generally gets dry humor and sarcasm. And, this is one of the better way to amplify your flirting with a girl, especially at the early stages, such as your first date.

  • yudzin

    These are pretty light tests, which in my opinion are more like teasing. Here is an hard example. Two years ago my best friend was 6 months with a VERY attractive girl, first month in a regular, and other 5 in a (300 miles) long distance relationship where their interaction was only with skype and facebook. She was studying in another country and came back only for summer vacations and holidays. When she came back for Christmas she broke up with him "because their relationship was not functional." He had not expected that. But he accepted without emotion "like a real pro" in front of her. But when he came back to me and our friends he was heartbroken, very sad, because he was waiting SO LONG for nothing and he could not recover for months and still continues to mention her.

    And now comes the best part!!!

    Several months after he met and talked with one of Her girl friends and she told him that She actually did not want to brake up with him and that She was TESTING him to see how will he react. Basically she wanted to see him CRY in front of her! And is he PASSIONATE enough?? She wanted to be chased by him and she expected that he will call her. And because he did not react very emotional and he did not call her after that she was very disappointed and she concluded that "he is NOT worth it…"

    What do you think about that A?????

    • http://www.practicalhappiness.com practicalh

      @yudzin
      Wow, talk about heavy tests. It would be useful to know what she said exactly. If she said something along the lines of "We are done" or "I don't want to see you anymore" then he did everything right, and if she meant that to be a test, then she needs to adjust her twisted ways of testing men.
      If, on the other hand, she simply pointed out a few things that she didn't like about their relationship and wanted reassurance from him that it can be worked out, then he took a line that's too tough. A woman sometimes (or maybe more often than that) does need reassurance. She wants to feel needed, loved and desired. Because guys have been brainwashed so much for so long to be a challenge, they often take it way too far, and as a result – both sides end up paying for it unnecessarily.

    • yudzin

      She was very moody and didn't want to kiss. She said that it is hard for her to have a (long distance) relationship like that. She said: "Maybe you might want to have another girlfriend? Maybe I wanted to find there another boyfriend… I think that it's the best to stop this for both…"

      He agreed and said that it is difficult to have such a relationship (again without emotion “like a real pro” in front of her). And said: "Say hello if you see me, do not feel unpleasantly. I won't feel unpleasantly." Eww it is difficult to translate this from Serbian to English because we use a lot of slang…

      It is important to say that he was not satisfied with such a relationship and he needed reassurance more than her. He felt DISGUSTED with skype and facebook but he endured it all just for her for 5 months. He could be checked "what is he doing" by her girlfriends but nobody could check her abroad…

      He didn't want to be a challenge. He and we, thought this looks like a normal way to break up. BUT "nobody" couldn't suspect, even in the worst dreams, that this was a TEST!!! Not him, nor me, nor all your (guy) friends! When we found out, we were so shocked and we concluded that we still don't know a shit about women…

      Yes, woman want to feel needed, loved and desired, but we want that to. I never wanted to be a challenge. I just don't want to chase someone who is not interested. And I DEFINITELY don't want to play games like this!!! If I wanted to play, I certainly would not have chosen this kind of game…Call of duty, maybe! Hahaha

      • http://www.practicalhappiness.com practicalh

        Indeed, chasing someone who is not interested is a total waste of time and it does quite a bit of damage to one's confidence and self esteem. Not taking "no" for an answer only works in Hollywood movies and fairy tales, but in real life – when you go after someone who is not interested, you achieve the opposite result – you become even more unattractive to whoever you are pursuing.

  • yudzin

    The more confident the girl is, the more tests you’ll encounter. Many girls openly criticizing me early in the approach about my physical flaws or chosen line of conversation. Not only will they constantly judge you, but they will do so in undiplomatic terms. About women approaching 30… Their attitude is rougher, they play a lot of games, and they constantly test you. At an age where they should have a softer vibe in the hopes of competing against their younger counterparts, they can be a pain in the ass to deal with.

    What do you think, what is the best way to Isolate “the special girl” away from her group/friends??? Especially when it came to getting cockblocked or bitched out by her unattractive girl-friend.