Most dating advice programs and books for men discuss women’s tests in one form or another, and for a good reason. These tests usually involve women’s behaviors or statements that push a guy in a certain direction and test his response to see if he is confident enough and strong enough to handle it the right way. For instance, a woman might say as early as on a first date “You are mean” at a certain point in a conversation to see if a guy would bend, beg for forgiveness and would promise to never do whatever he did that brought about the woman’s complaint, or whether he would tease her about it and treat her like a crying baby, if appropriate. Or, a girl might talk very highly about her ex, which is also an unconscious test to see whether the guy she is with would get jealous or will play it cool and would not be bothered by that.
Many guys wonder throughout their dating journey about how to respond to women’s “tests.” Many dating advice sources out there discuss different ways of passing those “tests” – from firing back at woman and being super mean to her, to ignoring them altogether or using “cocky funny” strategies. Unfortunately, the problem with most dating advice about women’s tests is that it breeds certain hostility in men towards women, and it directs guys to treat women as if they were some kind of enemy or a rival that needs to be tricked, beaten and conquered (not necessarily in that order).
I wish to assure you that you will achieve no positive result in any area of dating, if your behavior and interactions with women are motivated by anger, competitiveness, rivalry and desire to win the battle of egos with women. And dealing with tests is not an exception to this rule. Hating every now and then can be entertaining and even comforting, but when it comes to women’s tests it will contribute nothing to your ability to pass those tests and make your response work to your advantage, as you should.
There is a much better, healthier, and a more effective way to accept and deal with women’s tests: you should appreciate them and feel lucky that they exist! Why? Because these tests are an excellent opportunity for you to show your confidence and your other attractive qualities to women, such as sense of humor, without doing much – all you will do is simply respond to a woman’s tests in an original and witty way.
Thus, the next time a woman, who you just started seeing and who seems to like you, tells you that she is going out on a date with this guy she just met, don’t be one of those jealous, insecure guys who would freak out and would start interrogating her about who that guy is, why she is going out with him and whether she likes him more or less than you. Instead, encourage her to go out and have fun with that guy. Go even further and put yourself down by saying playfully something like “Perhaps you will be lucky and he will be a real man and not like me. Let me know if I can take some lessons from him.” This will communicate beyond any doubt and in the most compelling way your confidence and your lack of regard for competition from other men – qualities that are very attractive to those women who are worth your time and attention.
Also, appreciate the honesty of a woman who is interested in you and yet she is putting her interaction with you at risk by being so open and honest with you and telling you the truth about going out with that other guy and actually liking certain things about him at one point. How many of us, guys, would do the same? Needless to say – not many.
Here are some other useful examples of simple responses to women’s tests, through which you can show your confidence and sense of humor with the girl who you already established some connection with:
- What’s the last time your had sex? Answer: this morning, but it wasn’t that great. Last night’s girl was much better.
– How long have you been single? Answer: I am actually married, but I am looking for a girlfriend… or two.
– What do you value? Answer: money, image, labels. I am what a driver.
– What kind of women do you like? Answer: Fake, superficial and dramatic.
These seemingly absurd responses will likely get a good laugh out of a girl who is smart, who is not uptight, and who generally gets it. And, this is one of the better way to amplify your flirting, especially at the early stages, such as your first date.