• yudzin

    These are pretty light tests, which in my opinion are more like teasing. Here is an hard example. Two years ago my best friend was 6 months with a VERY attractive girl, first month in a regular, and other 5 in a (300 miles) long distance relationship where their interaction was only with skype and facebook. She was studying in another country and came back only for summer vacations and holidays. When she came back for Christmas she broke up with him "because their relationship was not functional." He had not expected that. But he accepted without emotion "like a real pro" in front of her. But when he came back to me and our friends he was heartbroken, very sad, because he was waiting SO LONG for nothing and he could not recover for months and still continues to mention her.

    And now comes the best part!!!

    Several months after he met and talked with one of Her girl friends and she told him that She actually did not want to brake up with him and that She was TESTING him to see how will he react. Basically she wanted to see him CRY in front of her! And is he PASSIONATE enough?? She wanted to be chased by him and she expected that he will call her. And because he did not react very emotional and he did not call her after that she was very disappointed and she concluded that "he is NOT worth it…"

    What do you think about that A?????

    • http://www.practicalhappiness.com practicalh

      @yudzin
      Wow, talk about heavy tests. It would be useful to know what she said exactly. If she said something along the lines of "We are done" or "I don't want to see you anymore" then he did everything right, and if she meant that to be a test, then she needs to adjust her twisted ways of testing men.
      If, on the other hand, she simply pointed out a few things that she didn't like about their relationship and wanted reassurance from him that it can be worked out, then he took a line that's too tough. A woman sometimes (or maybe more often than that) does need reassurance. She wants to feel needed, loved and desired. Because guys have been brainwashed so much for so long to be a challenge, they often take it way too far, and as a result – both sides end up paying for it unnecessarily.

    • yudzin

      She was very moody and didn't want to kiss. She said that it is hard for her to have a (long distance) relationship like that. She said: "Maybe you might want to have another girlfriend? Maybe I wanted to find there another boyfriend… I think that it's the best to stop this for both…"

      He agreed and said that it is difficult to have such a relationship (again without emotion “like a real pro” in front of her). And said: "Say hello if you see me, do not feel unpleasantly. I won't feel unpleasantly." Eww it is difficult to translate this from Serbian to English because we use a lot of slang…

      It is important to say that he was not satisfied with such a relationship and he needed reassurance more than her. He felt DISGUSTED with skype and facebook but he endured it all just for her for 5 months. He could be checked "what is he doing" by her girlfriends but nobody could check her abroad…

      He didn't want to be a challenge. He and we, thought this looks like a normal way to break up. BUT "nobody" couldn't suspect, even in the worst dreams, that this was a TEST!!! Not him, nor me, nor all your (guy) friends! When we found out, we were so shocked and we concluded that we still don't know a shit about women…

      Yes, woman want to feel needed, loved and desired, but we want that to. I never wanted to be a challenge. I just don't want to chase someone who is not interested. And I DEFINITELY don't want to play games like this!!! If I wanted to play, I certainly would not have chosen this kind of game…Call of duty, maybe! Hahaha

      • http://www.practicalhappiness.com practicalh

        Indeed, chasing someone who is not interested is a total waste of time and it does quite a bit of damage to one's confidence and self esteem. Not taking "no" for an answer only works in Hollywood movies and fairy tales, but in real life – when you go after someone who is not interested, you achieve the opposite result – you become even more unattractive to whoever you are pursuing.

  • yudzin

    The more confident the girl is, the more tests you’ll encounter. Many girls openly criticizing me early in the approach about my physical flaws or chosen line of conversation. Not only will they constantly judge you, but they will do so in undiplomatic terms. About women approaching 30… Their attitude is rougher, they play a lot of games, and they constantly test you. At an age where they should have a softer vibe in the hopes of competing against their younger counterparts, they can be a pain in the ass to deal with.

    What do you think, what is the best way to Isolate “the special girl” away from her group/friends??? Especially when it came to getting cockblocked or bitched out by her unattractive girl-friend.

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