Surely it’s not a secret to you that physical attraction is critical importance to a man’s romantic interest in a woman. An overweight woman is going to get far less attention and sexual interest from the opposite sex than a thinner woman. (The truth is that women prefer fitter guys just as much, but perhaps they are more willing to “forgive” an overweight guy if he has other redeeming qualities).
So, what if you are overweight? Should you follow Oprah advice of liking and respecting yourself for who you are and continue to be reluctant to lose weight?
The are two answers to this question – the easy one and the harder one. Many overweight women resort to an “easy” solution of blaming men for being superficial and refusing to lose weight in order to be more attractive to men. This easy solution is nothing but an excuse to not take action – to not improve her appearance, self esteem, dating life and … literally all aspects of life. If it’s change that you are after – if you want your romantic life to be better, this solution is not for you, because it will not lead to any change. If your body looks the same tomorrow as it does today, why would it be more attractive and more desirable to men? Confidence is important, and I admire any overweight woman who carries herself with confidence, but confidence alone will not cut it.
Like in many other areas of life, in this case, the more difficult solution is the one that is much more likely to be rewarding and making a real difference in your life by dramatically improving every single moment of your existence. This real solution to the excess weight problem is making an uncompromising decision to not settle for the body in which you are living today and beginning to lose weight to become healthier, more attractive and as a result – a happier person. The process of losing weight is challenging and slow and it requires real changes in your lifestyle, but it is well worth it. Imagine feeling lighter, more energetic, not breathing as heavily when you walk uphill or up the stairs, being able to engage in different sports and actually enjoying it. Imagine becoming healthier and living longer. Imagine getting the looks from guys around you and especially those men who see you and your body change when you wear a flattering outfit which makes you feel sexier and more desirable.
Imagine your confidence and self-esteem sky-rocket as you overcome and transforming your body into something better and more beautiful. Imagine becoming a happier person who radiates a more positive energy and starts attracting the opposite sex not only with her body but also with her personality as a result of having a more attractive body. All of those incredible changes are awaiting you if you decide to not settle for being fat and committing to doing something about it. The photo above is chosen for a reason. This woman’s body is very attractive but she is far from being skinny. In fact she could gain 15-20 lbs and still no guy would kick her out of bed. If you are overweight, your goal is not become skin and bones but to become normal/curvy/voluptuous, especially if you have the proper “coke bottle” shape.
Recently I conducted a social experiment which lead to incredible results: the vast majority of women who are not overweight are sexually desirable to practically all heterosexual men. This means that having a leaner body alone will very likely make you sexually attractive to almost every guy.
And again – lets be completely honest about it – being overweight hurts men just as much. Women find guys who are “chiseled” and who have a more pronounced facial bone structure so much more attractive than those who have round faces, double chin, and beer gut.
Remember: life rewards initiative and action in virtually every aspect of what we do. Losing weight and making your body healthier and better looking is not an exception to this rule. There are a few things we can change about our anatomy without surgical intervention, and the shape of our body is one of them, and it is surely worth the effort.