Comments on: Should you make a move if he seems interested but too shy? http://www.practicalhappiness.com/make-a-move-if-interested-but-shy/ Practical Dating and Relationship Advice Wed, 08 Feb 2012 21:07:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Tianna http://www.practicalhappiness.com/make-a-move-if-interested-but-shy/#comment-5787 Tianna Sat, 21 Jan 2012 05:19:08 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=158#comment-5787 I agree with most of the comments above - men SHOULD make the first move. I think that if a woman initiates a relationship by asking the man out, the man may say yes because he's bored, or there's no better options lying around... my advice is to give the man space. Hang out with him, show him what a fun person you are and have an amazing time... then give him space. Give him a chance to miss you. Give him a chance to want to see you again, and be the one to initiate things. That way, you'll know that his feelings are genuine, and he's not seeing you just because it's convenient. I agree with most of the comments above – men SHOULD make the first move. I think that if a woman initiates a relationship by asking the man out, the man may say yes because he’s bored, or there’s no better options lying around… my advice is to give the man space. Hang out with him, show him what a fun person you are and have an amazing time… then give him space. Give him a chance to miss you. Give him a chance to want to see you again, and be the one to initiate things. That way, you’ll know that his feelings are genuine, and he’s not seeing you just because it’s convenient.

]]> By: Peter http://www.practicalhappiness.com/make-a-move-if-interested-but-shy/#comment-5246 Peter Sat, 08 Oct 2011 10:01:36 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=158#comment-5246 The man may be clueless rather than cowardly. A girl who gets around flirts with me for the longest time, while I am in a regime of home->school->home with nothing in between. I am not afraid to make a move, but cannot imagine a single place to "ask her out". I wish her to just ask me out, especially since her attention is glaringly obvious. I understand this situation is atypical, but very possible; for example, maybe the man is new in the country and the woman happens to speak his language. The man may be clueless rather than cowardly. A girl who gets around flirts with me for the longest time, while I am in a regime of home->school->home with nothing in between. I am not afraid to make a move, but cannot imagine a single place to “ask her out”. I wish her to just ask me out, especially since her attention is glaringly obvious. I understand this situation is atypical, but very possible; for example, maybe the man is new in the country and the woman happens to speak his language.

]]> By: Laren http://www.practicalhappiness.com/make-a-move-if-interested-but-shy/#comment-5152 Laren Fri, 02 Sep 2011 07:57:08 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=158#comment-5152 I agree With you Elizabeth you women should be able to ask a man out if you want or throw away all the rights and freedoms women have gained throughout the last century. I'm a shy guy but girls were I come from don't really have a problem asking me out :) I agree With you Elizabeth you women should be able to ask a man out if you want or throw away all the rights and freedoms women have gained throughout the last century.

I’m a shy guy but girls were I come from don’t really have a problem asking me out :)

]]> By: elizabeth http://www.practicalhappiness.com/make-a-move-if-interested-but-shy/#comment-5119 elizabeth Tue, 23 Aug 2011 00:09:57 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=158#comment-5119 what's wrong with you people, it's def. ok I mean most guys even think it's hot, I asked out a shy guy and it worked out fine. what’s wrong with you people, it’s def. ok I mean most guys even think it’s hot, I asked out a shy guy and it worked out fine.

]]> By: Kryo http://www.practicalhappiness.com/make-a-move-if-interested-but-shy/#comment-5006 Kryo Wed, 29 Jun 2011 11:46:15 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=158#comment-5006 “Hey, just so you know – asking me out doesn’t cost anything, and… probably won’t get you arrested.” Here in Sweden you could actually get arrested or at least be reported to the police if approaching a girl on wrong place and asking her out (every place which doesn't include alcohol or your friends contacts). The chances aren't that big but the probability exists. “Hey, just so you know – asking me out doesn’t cost anything, and… probably won’t get you arrested.”

Here in Sweden you could actually get arrested or at least be reported to the police if approaching a girl on wrong place and asking her out (every place which doesn’t include alcohol or your friends contacts). The chances aren’t that big but the probability exists.

]]> By: David http://www.practicalhappiness.com/make-a-move-if-interested-but-shy/#comment-4815 David Wed, 13 Apr 2011 17:58:37 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=158#comment-4815 I am a guy and it is not necessarily up to her to make the first move, but a green light is nice. Think of it in the form of a metaphor. A man and a woman on opposite sides of a locked door. We speak to eachother, and seem to like eachother, but neither knows where it will go. Simply the sound of her unlocking the door should be all he needs to open that door and walk through. Subtle is fine. And a man should make a move, but in this day and age it is nice to have a little hint. I am a guy and it is not necessarily up to her to make the first move, but a green light is nice. Think of it in the form of a metaphor. A man and a woman on opposite sides of a locked door. We speak to eachother, and seem to like eachother, but neither knows where it will go. Simply the sound of her unlocking the door should be all he needs to open that door and walk through. Subtle is fine. And a man should make a move, but in this day and age it is nice to have a little hint.

]]> By: Ana http://www.practicalhappiness.com/make-a-move-if-interested-but-shy/#comment-4697 Ana Sat, 19 Mar 2011 03:16:58 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=158#comment-4697 Honestly, all my married friends are relationships where the woman asked the man out. Just be sure that when you ask a guy out, you ask out a NICE NORMAL REGULAR GUY who is the marrying kind, and not one of those really hot jerk types that get tons of chicks. Honestly, all my married friends are relationships where the woman asked the man out. Just be sure that when you ask a guy out, you ask out a NICE NORMAL REGULAR GUY who is the marrying kind, and not one of those really hot jerk types that get tons of chicks.

]]> By: tara http://www.practicalhappiness.com/make-a-move-if-interested-but-shy/#comment-4057 tara Sun, 05 Dec 2010 20:34:13 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=158#comment-4057 i honestly think. if a man comes off as being extremely into you. and, doesnt initiate a kiss or a further promising relationship. then hes a coward and doesnt feel that he can measure up to the woman. therefore thats why he wants the woman to make the move. hes afraid of rejection. so, ladies dont give him the benefit of the doubt!! run like hell. find a confidant man!!!!!! yo yo i honestly think. if a man comes off as being extremely into you. and, doesnt initiate a kiss or a further promising relationship. then hes a coward and doesnt feel that he can measure up to the woman. therefore thats why he wants the woman to make the move. hes afraid of rejection. so, ladies dont give him the benefit of the doubt!! run like hell. find a confidant man!!!!!! yo yo

]]> By: alex http://www.practicalhappiness.com/make-a-move-if-interested-but-shy/#comment-3835 alex Tue, 19 Oct 2010 00:56:40 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=158#comment-3835 Surely it depends on the situation? If you like someone a lot and you kow they're not going to initiate anything then you just 'initiate' it yourself no matter whats considered 'right'. Surely it depends on the situation? If you like someone a lot and you kow they’re not going to initiate anything then you just ‘initiate’ it yourself no matter whats considered ‘right’.

]]> By: practicalhappiness.com http://www.practicalhappiness.com/make-a-move-if-interested-but-shy/#comment-3728 practicalhappiness.com Thu, 30 Sep 2010 17:24:45 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=158#comment-3728 Thanks for your feedback. It's quite interesting that while some women want men to take charge, others like when guys are actually passive and very subtle. I am not sure how much one can assume about a woman, her character, personality, and sexuality based on that fact alone, but I would think that it makes some statement about who she is, her sexuality and her idea of what romance is. Thanks for your feedback. It’s quite interesting that while some women want men to take charge, others like when guys are actually passive and very subtle. I am not sure how much one can assume about a woman, her character, personality, and sexuality based on that fact alone, but I would think that it makes some statement about who she is, her sexuality and her idea of what romance is.

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