Comments on: Actual example of meeting a woman online and first phone conversation! http://www.practicalhappiness.com/meeting-woman-online-and-first-phone-conversation/ Practical Dating and Relationship Advice Fri, 10 Feb 2012 07:20:16 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: practicalhappiness.com http://www.practicalhappiness.com/meeting-woman-online-and-first-phone-conversation/#comment-5451 practicalhappiness.com Tue, 15 Nov 2011 06:46:22 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=156#comment-5451 Thank you, and good question. One reason I kept the conversation long was because I thought about posting it and wanted the guys on here to have more information and more examples to learn from. Thank you, and good question. One reason I kept the conversation long was because I thought about posting it and wanted the guys on here to have more information and more examples to learn from.

]]> By: mkivtt http://www.practicalhappiness.com/meeting-woman-online-and-first-phone-conversation/#comment-5439 mkivtt Sat, 12 Nov 2011 23:45:09 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=156#comment-5439 Wow, that was very impressive. I wish I was half as smooth as you are. I have definitely have made some progress on my cocky/funny recently, but definitely need a lot of work on it. How do you do it so quickly? You just come up with these jokes on the spot. My real question though: why do you keep the conversation so long? It was clear after 2 minutes that she was laughing and having a good time and you could probably have set up a first date. Isn't that the purpose of calling her? I know we should set up some rapport to get her comfortable before getting down to proposing a meeting, but that can be done in ~5 minutes? How long do you think is normally needed for "small talk"? You stretched it for 40 minutes... I don't see myself able to do that :) Thanks. Wow, that was very impressive. I wish I was half as smooth as you are. I have definitely have made some progress on my cocky/funny recently, but definitely need a lot of work on it. How do you do it so quickly? You just come up with these jokes on the spot.

My real question though: why do you keep the conversation so long? It was clear after 2 minutes that she was laughing and having a good time and you could probably have set up a first date. Isn’t that the purpose of calling her? I know we should set up some rapport to get her comfortable before getting down to proposing a meeting, but that can be done in ~5 minutes? How long do you think is normally needed for “small talk”? You stretched it for 40 minutes… I don’t see myself able to do that :)

Thanks.

]]> By: practicalhappiness.com http://www.practicalhappiness.com/meeting-woman-online-and-first-phone-conversation/#comment-4975 practicalhappiness.com Wed, 15 Jun 2011 16:47:22 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=156#comment-4975 Hi, Dan. Thanks, and great question. I have to say that I am not nearly as creative as it might look. Here is the deal, after you learn by observing others and coming up with your own stuff, you will notice that lots of the conversations repeat themselves. Lots of questions and comments from women are the same (although not all, of course), so once you respond to something in a funny sarcastic way and you see how it makes a conversation fun, it will get stuck in your memory, and that might just turn into your natural, spontaneous response in a similar conversation in the future. Hi, Dan. Thanks, and great question. I have to say that I am not nearly as creative as it might look. Here is the deal, after you learn by observing others and coming up with your own stuff, you will notice that lots of the conversations repeat themselves. Lots of questions and comments from women are the same (although not all, of course), so once you respond to something in a funny sarcastic way and you see how it makes a conversation fun, it will get stuck in your memory, and that might just turn into your natural, spontaneous response in a similar conversation in the future.

]]> By: Dan http://www.practicalhappiness.com/meeting-woman-online-and-first-phone-conversation/#comment-4974 Dan Wed, 15 Jun 2011 11:57:01 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=156#comment-4974 Arkady, I listened to that phone call, and you are indeed "he-larious". I was wondering though, how you came up with conversational pieces so quickly? I am by no means a genius, but I have enough intelligence to get by. My one weakness though, seems to be that I can never respond in a random/rapid succession like you do/did. I also find it interesting how you weren't too concerned with pushing the boundaries of this person. I listened and made some snap judgements/assumptions (yea I know...) about "Jn" before the first minute was over. At first, she seemed a bit cold to you - but that changed before too long. Also, I was impressed at how you handled the part where she tried to tell you she wasn't interested in you/you wouldn't like her (near the middle of the call). Sorry for the long comment. -Dan Arkady,

I listened to that phone call, and you are indeed “he-larious”. I was wondering though, how you came up with conversational pieces so quickly? I am by no means a genius, but I have enough intelligence to get by. My one weakness though, seems to be that I can never respond in a random/rapid succession like you do/did. I also find it interesting how you weren’t too concerned with pushing the boundaries of this person. I listened and made some snap judgements/assumptions (yea I know…) about “Jn” before the first minute was over. At first, she seemed a bit cold to you – but that changed before too long. Also, I was impressed at how you handled the part where she tried to tell you she wasn’t interested in you/you wouldn’t like her (near the middle of the call).

Sorry for the long comment.

-Dan

]]> By: practicalhappiness.com http://www.practicalhappiness.com/meeting-woman-online-and-first-phone-conversation/#comment-3958 practicalhappiness.com Tue, 16 Nov 2010 05:11:33 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=156#comment-3958 Thanks, Michael. My favorite tip for guitar players or other people who have a very admirable skill is to not <em>advertise </em>it. Instead of telling a girl that you play a guitar, don't even mention it, but once she comes over to your place or once you find her near your guitar for some other reason, just pick it up and start playing. It's even better if she asks you to. Thanks, Michael.

My favorite tip for guitar players or other people who have a very admirable skill is to not advertise it. Instead of telling a girl that you play a guitar, don’t even mention it, but once she comes over to your place or once you find her near your guitar for some other reason, just pick it up and start playing. It’s even better if she asks you to.

]]> By: Michael http://www.practicalhappiness.com/meeting-woman-online-and-first-phone-conversation/#comment-3956 Michael Tue, 16 Nov 2010 02:02:42 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=156#comment-3956 This is really good stuff man, you are naturally a very funny guy. Were you like that as a kid or have you kind of got funnier as you've got older? I'd say that I make people and girls laugh quite a lot, but i find that when i'm with quite a few guys in a group with girls then i tend to naturally become quieter, though if there's less people i am usually the dominant one in conversation and making the jokes. I also have another advantage that i play guitar and can sing popular songs that girls love and that's always a winner, but i'm naturally not really a kind of alpha-male person so i dont dominate when other guys are around. do you have tips or stuff like that for me? thanks for your help, michael This is really good stuff man, you are naturally a very funny guy.
Were you like that as a kid or have you kind of got funnier as you’ve got older?
I’d say that I make people and girls laugh quite a lot, but i find that when i’m with quite a few guys in a group with girls then i tend to naturally become quieter, though if there’s less people i am usually the dominant one in conversation and making the jokes.
I also have another advantage that i play guitar and can sing popular songs that girls love and that’s always a winner, but i’m naturally not really a kind of alpha-male person so i dont dominate when other guys are around.
do you have tips or stuff like that for me?
thanks for your help,
michael

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