Redundancy makes any writing less compelling and less captivating to a reader, be it fiction, non-fiction or an online dating profile. I routinely review women’s dating profiles working with them on improving the quality of their writing, and turning their profile into a genuine and interesting reflection of who they are.
Lately, I have been noticing a common habit among many women to use the same two terms that do not really add anything to their profile but “dilute” its impact on a reader:
1. I am “attractive.” Most online dating profiles have photos. This is one of the reasons that I am puzzled as to why so many women choose to mention that they are “attractive” in their profile. Let your photo speak for itself. If a guy finds your photo attractive, you won’t need to tell him that you are. If he finds you unattractive, than no words will change his mind.
2. I am “intelligent.” Like with being attractive, intelligence is proven through actions not through describing yourself as such. Stating in your profile that you are intelligent is more likely to make you come across as conceited an full of yourself rather than show your intelligence. If you want to let your intellect shine, say something intelligent in your profile – share a view on an issue, an opinion, or challenge something that’s commonly accepted. This will be much more impressive than describing yourself as smart.
And make sure to read my other article on how to improve your online dating profile