Anyone who is familiar with my advice in videos and audio programs knows that I don’t advocate a particular lifestyle or a particular set of standards when it comes to dating, relationships and sex. I don’t like prescribing strict rules to things that are so uniquely individual and so different in every situation, depending on so many circumstances. The same applies to having sex on a first date.
It is generally believed that a guy who has sex with a woman on their first date won’t think much of her and won’t likely to be interested in her in the long term, as he didn’t “invest” very much in getting intimate with that woman. While there is some truth to this, and generally, having sex with someone you got to know and feel closer emotionally is more meaningful than sex driven by pure physical attraction, there are exceptions to this.
First, if you are not sure what you want and don’t mind experimenting with your behavior to find out what exactly it is you want, you may be willing to submit to the physical attraction and act on your natural urges without necessarily worrying about, or being attached to, what will happen later.
Secondly, I have seen more than once how two people, who spend an incredible day or evening together and end up sleeping together, continue seeing each other and dating each other for a while after. This makes me believe, that while sex on the first date may make the woman come across as “easy,” it’s not always the case, especially if the guy really likes her and finds her personality and behavior to be exceptional in one or more ways. In other words, if the guy really likes the girl as a person and has a great impression of her on a first date and he is actually looking to have a relationship, the fact that they had sex on a first date is not going to make a difference to where things will go from there. In fact, one of my close friends met his wife at 2:30 am at a club, when they were both drunk and where they ended up sleeping together 2 hours later. 7 years later, they are a happily married couple.
Having said the above, I must acknowledge that like women, men are also susceptible to social pressure and general opinion and are not likely to take seriously a woman who they had sex the same day they met her. Some of them will assume that if you slept with them on a first date, this means that you routinely sleep with a guy you just met, which isn’t something that will make a guy perceive you as a long term relationship partner. Thus, if you are determined to try and develop a relationship with a guy, you are better off postponing physical intimacy until after the first date.
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My own feelings about any woman having sex with me on the first date (or even first day meeting her) is that she most likely is a sexual positivist (not a bad thing) but I honestly know my game isn’t all that good, so it’s no ego boost to know she’d be doing it with practically anyone.
I have to know she did it because I rocked her world and we somehow had this magical connection, and BTW I know people who got married and are still together years later after sex on the first night, so I have zero moral issues with it; my issues are one of my ego (I know, I need to stop that!)