Although this term is somewhat outdated and belongs to previous generations, the term “douchebag” is just as relevant today as it used to be in the past, which is a one-word description for a guy who follows trends and who tries way too hard to impress, especially when he is out. From huge, disproportionate muscles, shades at night time, ultra-fashionable haircut, to tattoos, jewelery, tight “Affliction” shirts, over-the-top cologne, “cool” facial hair, and that constant “I am the sh-t” facial expression – we usually call them posers, who simply follow what they see in magazines, reality TV shows, and what other douchebags do. That guy is likely living well beyond his means and has a very fragile ego. For some guys being a douchebag is just a passing stage of confusion in discovering his own identity before he become a real men. For others, unfortunately, it turns into a way of life, if you will.

You might be wondering why then so many douchebags seem to be so successful and approaching and meeting hot women. You must keep in mind, however, the kind of women that these guys meet. While they might be very attractive physically, they likely have serious emotional issues, and most commonly insecurity, and a long history of major disappointments in men. A woman with a low self-esteem, who doesn’t know any better, might be flattered by an attention from a douchebag, considering him a “bad boy,” while to a quality woman who is educated and confident that kind of guy will look like a clown and someone to laugh at with her girlfriends.

Remember, real confidence is subtle – it does not demand attention. A truly confident guy does not feel the need to prove to everyone around him how confident and how “cool” he is. He does not need to stand out and be flashy. He does not need to drive faster than others, and he doesn’t need to wear the most expensive clothes and watch. A truly confident, attractive guy knows his alcohol limit, and he doesn’t embarrass himself by getting drunk and acting like a jerk to all around him. He wants to be in control of his own behavior and actions.

Just look into the eyes of the guys on the photo above, and ask yourself whether you would ever want to look like that when you are out. And the more douchebags are around you the more attractive you will be if you stand out because you don’t look or act like one of them.

In if you want to learn how to impress women the right way, the video below is a good place to start.