One of the challenges that men have when trying to meet women on the online dating and matchmaking sites is the fact that pretty much all attractive women get bombarded with tens or even hundreds of e-mails from guys each and every day. The good part is that most of those message are generic and unoriginal, and as such – get deleted by women one after the other. This gives the guy who knows how to stand out through writing well the opportunity to come across as a man who is different – someone who is smarter and more interesting than the rest and thus – a much more attractive potential dating partner.
So, how do you come across as interesting and different? One essential and good way to do that is by making sure that your first e-mail is relevant and responsive to the girl’s profile. A woman who has received 100 generic messages that look like they could have been sent to anyone, such as “I like your profile and I think you are cute, write me back and lets talk….” or even worse – one liners that so many women complain about receiving, such as “How are you?” or “How is your day?” is going to recognize and appreciate a message that has some thought behind it, and the one that’s clearly addressed to her in light of what she shared about herself in her profile.
For example, here is a section of a girl’s profile that can alone be used to write a creative response:
“People notice my ability to want to help and my ability to not take myself too seriously, of course I can be serious but I don’t understand the concept of holding grudges about small petty and insignificant things. I see the bigger picture in life and people notice I am a playful personality and a free spirited person!”
Here is one possible way you can address these words in your first e-mail and make your response stand out from just about every response she will be getting:
“….I would like to believe that your not asking yourself too seriously means that you are not uptight and can take an inappropriate joke or even dish out one of your own. And … certainly your ability to forgive and forget is admirable, considering how common it is for people to remain upset at each other for a long time for a reason or no reason. I wonder if some of them actually enjoy being mad. And hey, did you know that they say that people who don’t hold grudges live longer? And… what does “free spirited” mean to you….” – Obviously, the above response is written by me and expresses my personal views, but you should not hesitate to express your own opinions and thoughts. A woman who sounds open-minded and intelligent will appreciate that even if she doesn’t agree with everything you say. After all, anything is better than writing a bland, neutral message, which doesn’t move the reader in any direction.
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