After reviewing hundreds of women’s dating profiles on various popular dating sites, I would like to share with you the following top three mistakes women make with regard to the photos they post, based on my observations. I would then like to suggest several practical recommendations on how you can make your dating profile photos and therefore your whole profile more attractive to men:
1. Posting “trashy” photos. Browsing profile after profile I saw photos of women in extremely revealing skimpy outfits standing at a bar/club with their girlfriends and posing provocatively – like strippers. This is about the most common mistake that women make when posting their images on dating sites. While it’s a good idea to convey to guys that you know how to have a good time, this is about the worst way to do it. You cannot expect to be taken seriously as a woman and a potential dating partner if that’s how you present yourself to the male world. Remember, there is a huge difference between elegant and classless, sexy and trashy, enticing and intriguing and grossly provocative. The photo below is an actual photo of a member of one of the more popular online dating sites.
2. Posting photos with your kids. It’s great that you are raising a child and he is your priority in life, and you should certainly be honest and upfront about it, mentioning it in your profile and perhaps even posting one photo of you and your baby. However, there is no need for you to turn your kid into the main focus of your profile. You must keep in mind the purpose of posting your dating profile. You are not there to look for a babysitter or a new father figure for your child. You are looking for a potential dating partner. Focusing your photos around your kid/s will give guys the wrong idea. They will immediately assume that you are not going to be available to talk to them, see them and spend time with them because of the fact that all of your time and attention consumed by your children, even if that’s not the case.
3. Posting only the photos of your face. Whether you take pride in your body or whether you don’t and you think that you could lose a few pounds, there is no point in hiding it. If you have nice body, there is no reason to hide it. You don’t have to post bikini photos or any other overly erotic or suggestive images of yourself, but posting at least one full-height photo in form fitting dress or jeans and a top will give every guy an idea that you are not hiding anything. If you are overweight, still show what you look like. It’s who you are today and you should be open about it. Showing only your face on the dating site to only later see that look of disappointment on a guy’s face when he meets you face-to-face is going to be much more hurtful and will waste much more time to both of you than allowing men to see what your body looks like before you meet in person.
Keep the above three points in mind when you are thinking about posting photos on your online dating profile, and your photos will make your profile more attractive and more honest.