After reviewing hundreds of women’s dating profiles on various popular dating sites, I would like to share with you the following mistakes women make based on my observations and several, practical recommendations as to how you can make your dating profile photos more attractive to men:
1. Posting “trashy” photos. Browsing profile after profile I saw photos of women in extremely revealing skimpy outfits standing at a bar/club with their girlfriends and posing provocatively – like strippers. This is about the most common mistake that women make when posting their images on dating sites. While it’s a good idea to convey to guys that you know how to have a good time, this is about the worst way to do it. You cannot expect to be taken seriously as a woman and a potential dating partner if that’s how you present yourself to the male world. Remember, there is a huge difference between elegant and classless, sexy and trashy, enticing and intriguing and grossly provocative.
2. Posting photos with your kids. It’s great that you are raising a child and he is your priority in life, and you should certainly be honest and upfront about it, mentioning it in your profile and perhaps even posting one photo of you and your baby. However, there is no need for you to turn your kid into the main focus of your profile. You must keep in mind the actual purpose of posting your dating profile. You are not there to look for a babysitter or a new father figure for your child. You are looking for a potential dating partner. Focusing your photos around your kid/kids will give guys the wrong idea. They will immediately assume that you are not going to be available to talk to them, see them and spend time with them, even if that’s not the case.
3. Posting only the photos of your face. Whether you take pride in your physique or you don’t, there is no point in hiding it. Showing only your face on the dating site to only later see that look of disappointment on a guy’s face when he meets you face-to-face is going to hurt much more and waste much more of both of your time than allowing men to see your body at the outset of your online communication. There is no reason for you to hide the shape of your body, and the sooner the guy sees who he is talking to, the better. I surely don’t suggest that you should be posting erotic or overly revealing photos, but having one full-body photo where you are wearing jeans and a blouse/shirt that clearly shows your body type will be the honest and the right thing to do.
Keep the above three points in mind when you are thinking about posting photos online, and you will likely come across as a more attractive and interesting woman.
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I,completely agree with this article. Its like they are trying to sale themselves in a very cheap way… extremely vulgar..
Then there’s women posting photos of many other guys surrounding them and their exes. It sounds fun but guys become pissed off and jealous. I did that (posting a photo of me and my ex and some other guys that could be seen) and some guys thought of me as a whore, slut, etc.
That’s a great question. Women should know that wearing a skimpy outfit, holding a drink in your hand and being surrounding by guys of questionable quality who are also drunk doesn’t send a good message. Guys will necessarily make judgments about how promiscuous you are, but someone who is looking for a serious connection is going to assume based on that phone photo that you are a party girl, who is not very reliable on more levels than one. While people shouldn’t assume too much based on just one photo, there is no need to put that particular photo on your page, and there are plenty of other kinds of photos you can and should post that would put you in a much better light.
I agree with this article.
This has happened, but not when she was partying. She’s 15 years old, she’s even younger than me, don’t think too mature. I’m 16. I don’t do those kind of things. She sent me a trashy picture from school one time but hopefully not when she was partying.
I do suspect her for cheating, I wouldn’t really care if she does, it’s her choice. It’s a bad hobby and she’s really out of her mind. She even wrote that she wanted to live on her own. What shall I do? Is this my fault that this is happening? She has too many issues, now this is too obvious to spill the beans already.
I’m ready to have a broken heart after this nonsense.
Forgive me this is even more nonsense.
It’s from both sides cause she might expected more of me to call more often since I did it earlier, that was way too much for her. It’s not that easy now that she’s just a kid, that I should be more available afterwards and it’s not gonna change now otherwise I call her more often.
I should not had sent pictures of myself earlier. Now it’s no more pictures, I’ve learnt from my mistakes and next time she find out that she’s found another guy that she think is more mature, she will be nothing more than a friend.
big turn off for me is when i see that lame, ugly duck face. soo gross.
Indeed, it’s surprising that “pouting” is so popular on facebook, dating sites and elsewhere considering that most people make fun of it and think it’s lame. Some girls pout in all of their photos and you can’t even tell what they really look like when the don’t.
What does it tell us if a man has 20 photos of himself? Along with bathing suit photos and pics of himself at a bar? I can’t help but wonder about the men with 19-25 photos of themselves. Do they really think we need that many? And then they give you their facebook info (because they are collecting ‘friends’ that are cute women) and if you go on there you will find hundreds of photos but somewhere in each one you will see his face. This is just too weird.