Comments on: Why guys don’t call/disappear after sleeping with a woman (on one-night stands) http://www.practicalhappiness.com/truth-about-one-night-stands/ Practical Dating and Relationship Advice Wed, 08 Feb 2012 21:07:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Vinto http://www.practicalhappiness.com/truth-about-one-night-stands/#comment-5936 Vinto Fri, 03 Feb 2012 18:56:02 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=80#comment-5936 Here is a thought. Why don't YOU call him up. It's not only that you gave him pleasure, but he gave you pleasure too. Here is a thought. Why don’t YOU call him up. It’s not only that you gave him pleasure, but he gave you pleasure too.

]]> By: practicalhappiness.com http://www.practicalhappiness.com/truth-about-one-night-stands/#comment-5924 practicalhappiness.com Thu, 02 Feb 2012 18:56:34 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=80#comment-5924 @April Very interesting question. I wonder if indeed having sexual online chat too early is the same as having actual sex just as early. It might be. It's possible that to some degree, when you have online sexual chat so early on, while both of you might enjoy it on the phone, if it goes too far it may backfire and make the guy take you less seriously without him intending it to be that way. By doing this before you established a solid connection with the guy, you run the risk of turning your interaction into a sexual joke or some kind online sex service. I am not a big fan of excessive IM and texting. I believe that long instant messaging chats particularly hurt an interaction in more ways than one. People exchange meaningless for the most part messages in part because they are bored until they are tired. This will hardly lead to attraction or mutual respect, especially if the chat is sexual. I would avoid having sex chat in the future and would limit chatting with guys online - whether they live close or far away. There is nothing wrong with a short chat or a few e-mail exchanges, but you are better off having less frequent but higher quality interactions (such as phone calls) than chatting for hours. Thanks. @April
Very interesting question. I wonder if indeed having sexual online chat too early is the same as having actual sex just as early. It might be. It’s possible that to some degree, when you have online sexual chat so early on, while both of you might enjoy it on the phone, if it goes too far it may backfire and make the guy take you less seriously without him intending it to be that way. By doing this before you established a solid connection with the guy, you run the risk of turning your interaction into a sexual joke or some kind online sex service.
I am not a big fan of excessive IM and texting. I believe that long instant messaging chats particularly hurt an interaction in more ways than one. People exchange meaningless for the most part messages in part because they are bored until they are tired. This will hardly lead to attraction or mutual respect, especially if the chat is sexual. I would avoid having sex chat in the future and would limit chatting with guys online – whether they live close or far away. There is nothing wrong with a short chat or a few e-mail exchanges, but you are better off having less frequent but higher quality interactions (such as phone calls) than chatting for hours. Thanks.

]]> By: embarrassed http://www.practicalhappiness.com/truth-about-one-night-stands/#comment-5921 embarrassed Thu, 02 Feb 2012 09:19:33 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=80#comment-5921 So my story is a little different. I met this guy 18 months ago on an airplane. He flirted with me, even tried to kiss me, but I was having none of it. All the same there was something about him I liked. Later he put in a friend request for me on facebook. I accepted. We messaged the odd hello over the next year or so, and spoke about potentially meeting up over New Year 2012, which never happened (both busy). Last weekend we went to see a band together. He was sweet and considerate. A true gentleman. Held my hand, pecked me goodbye. He spoke alot about meeting again. Going on holidays etc. Over the next couple of nights we messaged each other alot. We arranged to see the northern lights for the leap year. He booked tickets. Last night we were messaging each other online and the converstaion, for the first time, turned sexual. We had online sex (no cam). Immediately afterwards I got the feeling he was disappointed. He said "so is your exterior a lie then?" Meaning he had thought I was a 'good girl'. I told him no, because it isn't. I actually AM a good girl. I'm not sure why I had that sexual conversation with him. And now I feel a little degraded and hurt that he thinks less of me. He signed out telling me to enjoy my holiday in April (which I'm going on) if he doesn't talk to me before then. April? What happened to February? So I'm guessing that even online sex is a big no no for some guys. So that's my question... could being sexual in text be the same as actually physically sleeping with a guy so soon (which I would never do)? So my story is a little different. I met this guy 18 months ago on an airplane. He flirted with me, even tried to kiss me, but I was having none of it. All the same there was something about him I liked. Later he put in a friend request for me on facebook. I accepted. We messaged the odd hello over the next year or so, and spoke about potentially meeting up over New Year 2012, which never happened (both busy). Last weekend we went to see a band together. He was sweet and considerate. A true gentleman. Held my hand, pecked me goodbye. He spoke alot about meeting again. Going on holidays etc. Over the next couple of nights we messaged each other alot. We arranged to see the northern lights for the leap year. He booked tickets. Last night we were messaging each other online and the converstaion, for the first time, turned sexual. We had online sex (no cam). Immediately afterwards I got the feeling he was disappointed. He said “so is your exterior a lie then?” Meaning he had thought I was a ‘good girl’. I told him no, because it isn’t. I actually AM a good girl. I’m not sure why I had that sexual conversation with him. And now I feel a little degraded and hurt that he thinks less of me. He signed out telling me to enjoy my holiday in April (which I’m going on) if he doesn’t talk to me before then. April? What happened to February? So I’m guessing that even online sex is a big no no for some guys. So that’s my question… could being sexual in text be the same as actually physically sleeping with a guy so soon (which I would never do)?

]]> By: sassile http://www.practicalhappiness.com/truth-about-one-night-stands/#comment-5777 sassile Wed, 18 Jan 2012 12:39:51 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=80#comment-5777 Why her over me that night? I was with this guy for a year and a half when I broke things off with him I loved him but I guess I was freaked out about it. We broke up for about 7 months and we both fooled around with other people and each other through out the break up. After 7 months he finally wanted to just let me go and move on because he didn't see us back together. We hooked up two months prior. I called him and told him I loved him and realized a lot of things and I really did want to be with him I thought he would be so excited for this. He was on a date with a girl from his work. He was angry at me for telling him these things because I broke his heart and why now. He said he was interested in this girl to see where it could go. I guess she pushed the issue of sex the first date but he stopped her because he didn't want to start off that way she then backed off. The next day they went on another date and apparently he resisted trying to have sex with her because she was pushing it again. She told him to pull over and he did they then started to have sex he has condoms on him but didn't use them. He said while having sex with her he lost respect for her because of the way she went about pushing sex and it wasn't like having sex with me. She road him and he had a hard time cumming when he did finally *** she told him to *** inside her. Apparently she has a diaphragm. He said after that he just lost interest in her as he brought her back to the car. They only talked for about two or three weeks these were their first dates. I took a pregnancy test and found out that I was pregnant and i texted him and he didn't see it until after her. That night he went to his brothers house to try and figure everything out what he was going to do. He finally came over to my house the following night after I confirmed with the gyno. He did not plan on getting back together with me however he did tell her to back off the same night he hooked up with her. When he was here he felt I had changed and we talked and we of course hooked up and he broke things off with her. He says it didn't mean anything with her that he doesn't like her he loves me and glad to have me back. He even talks about being married. What I don't get is why does it bother me so much that they had no self respect that night? How can a girl just let a guy *** inside her? There are so many questions. I am so hurt about this but don't know how to get past it. I love him and I know he loves me but if that's the case why can't I except it. I don't understand if a guy looses respect for a girl he's interested in how he could still keep going that far. I can except the fact that we hooked up with others but he not only didn't use a condom but he came inside her just because she said so. Im lost I know if I don't get past it I will loose him. Every time I get close with him I can't help to think about her doing what she did with him. I know he didn't cheat on me we were not together he let me go but it still hurts the same way and I don't understand why. Why her over me that night?
I was with this guy for a year and a half when I broke things off with him I loved him but I guess I was freaked out about it. We broke up for about 7 months and we both fooled around with other people and each other through out the break up. After 7 months he finally wanted to just let me go and move on because he didn’t see us back together. We hooked up two months prior. I called him and told him I loved him and realized a lot of things and I really did want to be with him I thought he would be so excited for this. He was on a date with a girl from his work. He was angry at me for telling him these things because I broke his heart and why now. He said he was interested in this girl to see where it could go. I guess she pushed the issue of sex the first date but he stopped her because he didn’t want to start off that way she then backed off. The next day they went on another date and apparently he resisted trying to have sex with her because she was pushing it again. She told him to pull over and he did they then started to have sex he has condoms on him but didn’t use them. He said while having sex with her he lost respect for her because of the way she went about pushing sex and it wasn’t like having sex with me. She road him and he had a hard time cumming when he did finally *** she told him to *** inside her. Apparently she has a diaphragm. He said after that he just lost interest in her as he brought her back to the car. They only talked for about two or three weeks these were their first dates. I took a pregnancy test and found out that I was pregnant and i texted him and he didn’t see it until after her. That night he went to his brothers house to try and figure everything out what he was going to do. He finally came over to my house the following night after I confirmed with the gyno. He did not plan on getting back together with me however he did tell her to back off the same night he hooked up with her. When he was here he felt I had changed and we talked and we of course hooked up and he broke things off with her. He says it didn’t mean anything with her that he doesn’t like her he loves me and glad to have me back. He even talks about being married. What I don’t get is why does it bother me so much that they had no self respect that night? How can a girl just let a guy *** inside her? There are so many questions. I am so hurt about this but don’t know how to get past it. I love him and I know he loves me but if that’s the case why can’t I except it. I don’t understand if a guy looses respect for a girl he’s interested in how he could still keep going that far. I can except the fact that we hooked up with others but he not only didn’t use a condom but he came inside her just because she said so. Im lost I know if I don’t get past it I will loose him. Every time I get close with him I can’t help to think about her doing what she did with him. I know he didn’t cheat on me we were not together he let me go but it still hurts the same way and I don’t understand why.

]]> By: susan http://www.practicalhappiness.com/truth-about-one-night-stands/#comment-5718 susan Fri, 06 Jan 2012 22:24:52 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=80#comment-5718 men are f`d up! at least as women our actions typically reflect our inner feelings. How are we suppose to figure out all of these mind games men play? does he like me? is he using me? especially when act the same to women they like and just want to sleep with. I was seeing a guy for a month who put total pressure on sleeping with me-disappeared when i did. How about men start acting like gentlemen and stop making us trying to understand their emotionally abuse self motivated actions? men are f`d up! at least as women our actions typically reflect our inner feelings. How are we suppose to figure out all of these mind games men play? does he like me? is he using me? especially when act the same to women they like and just want to sleep with. I was seeing a guy for a month who put total pressure on sleeping with me-disappeared when i did. How about men start acting like gentlemen and stop making us trying to understand their emotionally abuse self motivated actions?

]]> By: practicalhappiness.com http://www.practicalhappiness.com/truth-about-one-night-stands/#comment-5665 practicalhappiness.com Mon, 26 Dec 2011 04:54:04 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=80#comment-5665 @Emma - Sure women have sexual urges and any guy who thinks that they don't either hasn't found that one who desires him or completely misunderstands women, among other reason. However, I also believe that men and women can be judged differently since we are different creature on the most basic anatomical level. We are built differently, we have different body parts and our chemistry is in a number of ways very different, so we probably shouldn't expect the members of both sexes to operate in an identical way. @Emma –
Sure women have sexual urges and any guy who thinks that they don’t either hasn’t found that one who desires him or completely misunderstands women, among other reason. However, I also believe that men and women can be judged differently since we are different creature on the most basic anatomical level. We are built differently, we have different body parts and our chemistry is in a number of ways very different, so we probably shouldn’t expect the members of both sexes to operate in an identical way.

]]> By: Emma http://www.practicalhappiness.com/truth-about-one-night-stands/#comment-5664 Emma Mon, 26 Dec 2011 04:04:44 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=80#comment-5664 It is unfair to judge men and women differently. Women also have sexual urges, which can be satisfied for just one night. I have had one-night stands in some occasions, and sure, you feel disappointed when they don’t call back, but at least you felt attractive and desired for one night, and reloaded your energies to keep looking for real love. It is unfair to judge men and women differently. Women also have sexual urges, which can be satisfied for just one night. I have had one-night stands in some occasions, and sure, you feel disappointed when they don’t call back, but at least you felt attractive and desired for one night, and reloaded your energies to keep looking for real love.

]]> By: Kaya http://www.practicalhappiness.com/truth-about-one-night-stands/#comment-5637 Kaya Mon, 19 Dec 2011 22:11:10 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=80#comment-5637 It's hard to guess what these first dates will turn into because everybody has a different story each time. I had noticed that attractive guy on my floor at work. On a Thursday I heard he was changing job and the next day (Friday) all I could think about was that I needed to talk to him because it was his last day. He ended up introducing himself to me and by the end of the day I had his phone number and email address. We exchanged some emails and text for 2 weeks and then finally after a little push from me we agreed he would bring a bottle of wine to my place. We chatted for 4 hours (drank the whole bottle) and then I invited him to my bedroom. I was fine with that because I have been single for a year and I have a healthy sexual appetite (plus he's very attractive). I have never done that before. But yeah we had sex and he paid a lot of attention to my "needs" and I'm pretty sure he enjoyed himself. He left in the early morning. Now I'm not wishing for some relationship or anything like that right away but I find him interesting and I would love it if he called me back and wanted to hang out again. I just don't know if that will happen. I mean if it doesn't I'll just move on but that be great if he did contacted me again. I guess my question is that if a guy enjoyed himself on a first date and was satisfied with the sex and wanted to see more of the woman.....how long would he wait before contacting her again (bare in mind that this happened only 2 days ago)? It’s hard to guess what these first dates will turn into because everybody has a different story each time. I had noticed that attractive guy on my floor at work. On a Thursday I heard he was changing job and the next day (Friday) all I could think about was that I needed to talk to him because it was his last day. He ended up introducing himself to me and by the end of the day I had his phone number and email address. We exchanged some emails and text for 2 weeks and then finally after a little push from me we agreed he would bring a bottle of wine to my place. We chatted for 4 hours (drank the whole bottle) and then I invited him to my bedroom. I was fine with that because I have been single for a year and I have a healthy sexual appetite (plus he’s very attractive). I have never done that before. But yeah we had sex and he paid a lot of attention to my “needs” and I’m pretty sure he enjoyed himself. He left in the early morning.

Now I’m not wishing for some relationship or anything like that right away but I find him interesting and I would love it if he called me back and wanted to hang out again. I just don’t know if that will happen. I mean if it doesn’t I’ll just move on but that be great if he did contacted me again.

I guess my question is that if a guy enjoyed himself on a first date and was satisfied with the sex and wanted to see more of the woman…..how long would he wait before contacting her again (bare in mind that this happened only 2 days ago)?

]]> By: MissJ http://www.practicalhappiness.com/truth-about-one-night-stands/#comment-5630 MissJ Sun, 18 Dec 2011 12:35:16 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=80#comment-5630 But most of the times the girls waste their time expecting a text/call or reply from the guy. And when they don't get a reply, they end up feeling sad (my friends had this experience)! So, it was just an advice. Anyways, people have different ways of dealing with things. Although, it is really nice to hear if someone managed to get something more out of their one night stand! But most of the times the girls waste their time expecting a text/call or reply from the guy. And when they don’t get a reply, they end up feeling sad (my friends had this experience)! So, it was just an advice. Anyways, people have different ways of dealing with things. Although, it is really nice to hear if someone managed to get something more out of their one night stand!

]]> By: practicalhappiness.com http://www.practicalhappiness.com/truth-about-one-night-stands/#comment-5622 practicalhappiness.com Sat, 17 Dec 2011 17:54:32 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=80#comment-5622 @MissJ One night stand is sometimes a more effective remedy to break up pain than at others. But, I don't think you have to avoid exchanging numbers or seeing each other again with your one-night stand. After all, it's not impossible that you like each other, even if it starts purely sexually. @MissJ
One night stand is sometimes a more effective remedy to break up pain than at others. But, I don’t think you have to avoid exchanging numbers or seeing each other again with your one-night stand. After all, it’s not impossible that you like each other, even if it starts purely sexually.

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