As I was observing and studying the behavior of different individuals and couples, one fact became evident to me – people who make serious promises too early on, without giving much thought to it, are just as likely to break those promises. You can usually say one thing about a guy who tells you how crazy he is about you and how much he is in love with you a week after you met and started dating. This probably means that he has either been lonely for a long time, and at this point in his life any female company makes him much happier than being by himself and he is so eager to express to you how happy he is about it, that he will tell you that he has developed feeling for you in an amount of time that it’s simply impossible to do; or, he is emotionally immature or unstable, and thus his emotions appear and disappear very quickly. It is also quite possible that the guy just tells you what you want to hear in order to get what he wants from you – sex – as soon as possible.
Indeed, the “L” word coming from a guy after a period of time and after getting to know you – when it actually comes later than you expected and wanted to hear it – is a much more reliable indicator of a man’s true feelings toward you, because it is much more likely to be a truthful expression of what a more mature, and a more emotionally stable person feels towards you. Let’s face it – love is an emotion that takes time to develop. A man who is only willing to tell you that he loves you when he actually feels it and believes is much more likely to mean it than those guys who are eager to charm you by being as sweet as they possibly can. It goes without saying that a woman would enjoy hearing that the guy he is dating has feeling for he after she has gotten to know him and ideally – after she started looking forward to him saying that to her.