While men find younger women to be more desirable for natural reasons, related to physical appearance, there are several reasons why you might enjoy dating an older woman, and why that experience might be in at least some ways more gratifying than dating a younger woman:
1. More Mature Women Tend to Be More Interesting. The more mature woman is likely to have had more interesting life experiences, which in turn made her a more interesting person – a more stimulating company with interesting views and opinions. Her personality is likely to be more developed and more stable, which might make any interaction with her easier and more fun than with a younger woman who is shy and who has a number of other hang-ups about men.
2. An Older Woman Is Probably More Open Minded. As a general rule, older women are more open minded. They can take a dirty joke, or criticism and dish their own. They don’t get offended as easily as the younger do. The more mature women are entertained by sarcasm rather than being intimidated by it, which makes talking to them all the more enjoyable. You will not have to walk on eggshells when talking to an older woman as it takes much more to offend her than a girl who is in her late teens or early twenties.
3. A More Mature Woman Will Not Apply Pressure On You to Enter Into a Relationship. An older woman, especially the one who has been married before and/or who has children, has already had everything a younger woman dreams about having. She realizes how many misconceptions younger women have about meeting Mr. Right and what that perfect guy should be. The older woman is much less likely to pressure you to settle down with her and have a long term relationship, in part because she wants to take things slowly and not be rushed into anything after being married and living with a guy for a long time. She might just be enjoying her newly discovered single life. If you are not ready to settle down, and you are put off by women’s pressure to determine exactly where you stand with them shortly after you start seeing them, you might find dating an older woman to be easier and more fun because you are unlikely to experience that pressure.
4. An Older Woman Might Be a Better Sex Partner. It’s not a secret that women’s sex drives significantly increases in their thirties. That, coupled with confidence and comfort with oneself which comes to us with age is likely to make a more mature women a more passionate sex partner – someone who is proud of her desires rather than ashamed of them, like some of the younger and the less experienced women are.
If you can think of any other advantages to dating an older woman, please comment below, and I will consider adding your thoughts to this article to make it more useful and comprehensive.
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Good morning Arkady.
Sometimes I have noticed that older women build solid barriers between them and younger men.
It seems they have a rational part that makes them afraid of meeting this kind of boys. So they behave like moms and treat you like a child.
I admit that the things I have noticed could be the result of a misinterpretation: I have never really tried to conquer an older woman, so these considerations derive from the impressions I have had when in a short dialogue with an older woman.
So, what is your opinion? Do you think I am having a lot of a priori blocks?
I am 26 and I am becoming a doctor. Do you think I can date a 34 year old girl?
Thanks for your kind replying style.
Hey there.
First, your experience is of course based on a small number of women, and like in just about anything else – there aren’t strict rules that apply to all. But I am sure that you have a point. It’s only expected that an older woman would have some barriers. First, she knows that things are not likely to last with a younger guy, but at the same time they are afraid to get hurt. They might be concerned about wasting time with a younger guy who isn’t going to settle with them in a long-term relationship and wonder whether the time is better spent trying to meet and establish a connection with an older guy.
Having said that, I don’t think that 26/34 is an insurmountable difference in age, and you probably shouldn’t be worrying about it too much. Instead, enjoy what you have an take it one day at a time without trying to predict distant future.
Thank you very much, Arkady.
You are right: infact one of my best mistake is not living in the present.
I am 34 now. I have been through, dealt with more crap than the average 34 yr. old male. When I was 22 I dated a 37 yr. old woman. She was more interesting than younger women. Her sex drive was phenomenal. Anyway, I married at 27 to a woman that was the same age as me. There were some interesting conversations. Her sex drive was in low gear. We did not have much to talk about. In a nutshell, the marriage didn’t work out for many reasons.
Now, I am single. In the past, I have dated 3 women that were older than me. I have experienced that older women are more fun to be with. Not just sexual, but; in so many other ways. I feel that I connect easier and better with women that are older than me.
It has been a bit since I have dated. My neighbor would like for me to hook up with his mom. She is very hot. My neighbor, Ryan, and his wife are on vacation. His mom is taking care of the dog and cat while they are away. I am thinking of a way to approach her. Ryan and his wife told her about me. Apparently, she didn’t shoot me down. She just said, “what if he [I] thinks I [her] am too old?” She is only 46. Trying to figure out the best way to “approach” her without being shot down.
All in all, older women are far better that their younger counterparts. I connect better with older women. The others—-single, attached, or married…….think and feel that they can get anyone they want. I think older women have a hard time meeting someone. A guy their age, they may feel that they are boring and uneventful. I think younger women are boring in some ways.
Older women have been through, and experienced heart break and pain. Now, that they are alone and single, many of them want to still live. They are not that old. Guys their age or older seem boring. They just want to meet someone and settle down. Probably, many of them need Viagra to get it up. Us younger guys don’t need it.
Professionals say that the peak of the male sex drive is in their early 20s, then it slows down after that. That’s a load of crap!! I’m still as horny as I was 15 or so years ago. I suppose it would depend on the guy. If a 50 year old woman dates a 50 year old man; I don’t think the man will ‘go down’ on the woman. I, as a younger male, will definitely go muff diving. Women love it and want it. Not all, but; many. Some of them have never experienced it before. We, the younger generation, know so much more about G-spots and Z-spots (better arousal than the G-spots).
Still pondering on how to approach her without seeming needy. I’ll figure something out.
i guess eventually the trend will shift and women will be asking, ‘am i old enough for him since he likes older women? maybe he wants older.’ instead of thinking, ‘i’m too old for him.’
viva change
I’m an almost 27 year old male, who is dating a woman who just turned 44 on friday. I got tired of all the crap girls around my age bring with them… having someone who is mature and realistic is much more enjoyable, and things are more relaxed, more natural in normal social settings, or even just hanging out. I can be a smart ass and she’ll give as good as she gets, its great
And the sex is incredible.
Life is for living,don’t worry what other people think as long as you are not hurting anyone, when you get drawn to each other, it is uncontrollable and explosive satisfying sex you can experience. Communication is the key, we have al ot in common both traditional and morals . With this guy I have got rid of all my inhibitions and experiment together.
He is 26 shy and intelligent and am 46 i feel we are at the same level peak sexually are teaching each other other things in life. I’m giving him confidence in his career.
I have just resently begun seeing a woman 47 and I am 34. I first got connect with her htrough jer son who has atism. I was his coach and she was the typical soccer mom. We use to have a lot of small talk and I would flirt with here knowing that there was a chance her and i would get togehter… But then after a few weeks of gympses across the gym, getting closer to her with her son, she evtually reached out to me for some added support for here son – So be gan talking, going to simliar sporting events for her son, talking halks and holding each other in here arms… we share a lot despite the close to 15 years apart. We both are in rocky marrages – so we found each other when we were in uhappy places – built a friendships that has rapidely moved into uncharted waters… I’m attacted to her and she is to me – this is definetlat passion when we are together… I care alot about here and her son too… Thier father is no good – yells, hits, does help, thing always inconvience him and we works alot… but there is good $$$ in the house..
Something sexual is going to happen in dure time… not sure about our other parties…We;ve gotten oursleves in a pickle and need to find a way out that doens’t desroy us in the process. I could marry her and adopt her son and be happy!!!
I don’t see anything wrong with dating or marrying an older woman. Old age is really the only issue.
I am 44 dating a 26 year old….He is incredible in bed! But then so am I! He is a mature 26 year old more mature than most of the older man I know. YES!!!!1
I am 54 and have a relationship to a 18 year old, it is perfect for us
in my relationship history, i was married to a man 10 years older than me and then mostly in relationships with younger men since we divorced. this has not been intentional on my part, i am certainly not a cougar.
i’m 48 years old. i have friends of all ages and broad interests. whenever i got out socially younger men actively seek me out and mostly are quite aggressively sweet in their approach with me. i am not out there encouraging it and when it happens i am always pleasantly surprised.
without being too generalist or generational, the younger men i’ve been involved with (most recently at 24 year old) are confident, love older women, are great sexual partners, and very excited by me and who i am, we talk openly about stuff, including fantasies, life the universe and everything and it’s all very playful and light. i enjoy his health, his joy, the way he looks at the world and the way he sees me.
i am not ageist and open to whomever i connect with and vice versa. love comes in all different shapes. enjoy it when it comes.
We’ve been together for more than 7 months and I admit it’s hard but then relationships are ALWAYS hard even when I was still dating guys 2 years older than I am. This guy I am with now is 20 years younger than me but we are just so much in love. I struggled a bit at first since this is my first younger guy relationship – I find it hard to believe that he would like me and not girls at his age. I really struggled but he always made me feel assured that everything is okay. Our culture might be one of the barriers in our relationship because ours is a conservative culture that considers “rules” when it comes to relationships but we still went on together and we’ve never been happier. He says he can’t imagine life without me. I think he’s very sweet and respectful. He always ask me if I wanted to do some sex position he wants to do and if I’m not comfortable with it, he wouldn’t insist (and he wouldn’t sulk either).
I guess i was skeptical at first but after 7 months together, I can say these relationships do work.