Comments on: Why you should NOT just be yourself http://www.practicalhappiness.com/why-you-should-not-just-be-yourself/ Practical Dating and Relationship Advice Wed, 08 Feb 2012 21:07:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: practicalhappiness.com http://www.practicalhappiness.com/why-you-should-not-just-be-yourself/#comment-3699 practicalhappiness.com Wed, 22 Sep 2010 15:57:19 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=21#comment-3699 That's a great question. I guess steering clear from the extremes is a good idea. The healthy way not to appear needy is not to call someone all the time, not beg for their attention literally, not to tell him/her that you love her too early, when you can't possible love her, etc... The extreme would be not approaching someone, not making eye contact, not making any moves even when it's clear that the other person is interested and the time is right, purposely being unavailable all the time, not returning calls for days, etc... That’s a great question. I guess steering clear from the extremes is a good idea. The healthy way not to appear needy is not to call someone all the time, not beg for their attention literally, not to tell him/her that you love her too early, when you can’t possible love her, etc…
The extreme would be not approaching someone, not making eye contact, not making any moves even when it’s clear that the other person is interested and the time is right, purposely being unavailable all the time, not returning calls for days, etc…

]]> By: tuan http://www.practicalhappiness.com/why-you-should-not-just-be-yourself/#comment-3698 tuan Wed, 22 Sep 2010 13:15:19 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=21#comment-3698 actually, i was referring to the posted video titled "which small mistakes scare women off" something-something... it's posted just above here. you advise men to avoid doing things that will scare off women, and it got me thinking back to your article stating your opinion that the people who try not to appear needy are the most needy of the bunch. i think it's called "who is truly desperate." my question is, where do you make the distinction between 'trying not to scare her away with actions signifying your neediness' and 'doing things to not appear too interested or needy'? actually, i was referring to the posted video titled “which small mistakes scare women off” something-something… it’s posted just above here. you advise men to avoid doing things that will scare off women, and it got me thinking back to your article stating your opinion that the people who try not to appear needy are the most needy of the bunch. i think it’s called “who is truly desperate.” my question is, where do you make the distinction between ‘trying not to scare her away with actions signifying your neediness’ and ‘doing things to not appear too interested or needy’?

]]> By: practicalhappiness.com http://www.practicalhappiness.com/why-you-should-not-just-be-yourself/#comment-1102 practicalhappiness.com Tue, 03 Aug 2010 16:08:00 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=21#comment-1102 Great question. I would think it depends on how you go about making sure you that you are not trying to appear needy. Posturing, play way too hard to get to try to be perceived popular, not returning calls and e-mails for weeks, etc... are bad ways to trying to be a "challenge." But genuinely fixing up your life, making your days more interesting through school, work, hobbies, working out, going out, etc... and ensuring that you have other romantic and non-romantic options will make you naturally less needy by default. Great question. I would think it depends on how you go about making sure you that you are not trying to appear needy. Posturing, play way too hard to get to try to be perceived popular, not returning calls and e-mails for weeks, etc… are bad ways to trying to be a “challenge.” But genuinely fixing up your life, making your days more interesting through school, work, hobbies, working out, going out, etc… and ensuring that you have other romantic and non-romantic options will make you naturally less needy by default.

]]> By: tuan http://www.practicalhappiness.com/why-you-should-not-just-be-yourself/#comment-1010 tuan Mon, 02 Aug 2010 21:43:54 +0000 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/?p=21#comment-1010 haha you are hilarious. seriously. but i am curious... regarding the posted video, how does this advice to avoid communicating these perceived signs of insecurity compare with your opinion that the most desperate and insecure people are those who try to not seem needy? because while one may in fact feel secure with himself, doesn't changing his behaviour in order to be perceived in a more attractive light qualify as "not trying to appear needy?" haha you are hilarious. seriously.

but i am curious… regarding the posted video, how does this advice to avoid communicating these perceived signs of insecurity compare with your opinion that the most desperate and insecure people are those who try to not seem needy? because while one may in fact feel secure with himself, doesn’t changing his behaviour in order to be perceived in a more attractive light qualify as “not trying to appear needy?”

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