Comments on: Why both men and women give out “mixed signals” http://www.practicalhappiness.com/women-mixed-signals/ Practical Dating and Relationship Advice Wed, 08 Feb 2012 21:07:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Gal http://www.practicalhappiness.com/women-mixed-signals/#comment-5473 Gal Thu, 17 Nov 2011 17:23:43 +0000 http://practicalhappiness.com/?p=1#comment-5473 I think you took too long to show her that you like her, like taking more initiative in getting to know her, taking her out etc. She stopped showing interest as she thought you just wanted to be friends and nothing more than that. I think you took too long to show her that you like her, like taking more initiative in getting to know her, taking her out etc. She stopped showing interest as she thought you just wanted to be friends and nothing more than that.

]]> By: Kroozah http://www.practicalhappiness.com/women-mixed-signals/#comment-5462 Kroozah Wed, 16 Nov 2011 05:12:14 +0000 http://practicalhappiness.com/?p=1#comment-5462 I'm getting this mixed signal thing too from a girl I like. We go to the same college (we're two years apart) and I met her in a gym class where we became friendly because we had the same body type (tall and lanky) and so we could joke about that. She later found me on Facebook and when I friended her, I was able to look at her profile of course (it's not weird if you're already friends, right? haha). I found that we had an insane amount of things in common, like that we're both art students who like the same art, a lot of the same movies, music, books, and even life philosophies. It helped that I also found her physically attractive, and so I began to try to spend more time with her. This went well for the first part of a week: I got her number, took her shopping (don't judge), ate lunch with her a lot, and ultimately ended up taking her to a dance at school (although I didn't consider any of these things "dates"). The dance went well; she came over to my apartment beforehand, we talked about more things, and at the dance, I tried hard to make sure I wan't too intimate, considering I'd only really known her for about a week. After the dance, I walked her back to her place. I didn't even kiss her, because I had the feeling that it was too soon. The day after though, I was texting her, and she didn't seem to be as "into it" as she had before, and stopped replying after a while. The next time I saw her in class, she also didn't seem to be as friendly as she was before. So...I don't really know where to go with this. I've been out of the dating game for over a year, and when I was dating, the girls I dated were relatively straightforward, and they were the ones who usually made the first move. None of these relationships lasted too long, and I think it was because we moved too fast. I don't want to make that mistake again, so I'm moving slower...but now it feels like she may be losing interest already, and I've only known her for 2 weeks! Also, I'm fairly certain that she's had a breakup recently, and so I understand and respect that she'll want some single time. Maybe that's why she doesn't seem as interested as I thought she was. But if that's true, then why did she seem so interested at first? Naturally, I've considered the possibility that she just doesn't feel the same way I do, but there's probably many other factors as well. And I still think she's worth pursuing. So what's up here? Or, considering I've only known her for 2 weeks, am I reading into this too much? I’m getting this mixed signal thing too from a girl I like. We go to the same college (we’re two years apart) and I met her in a gym class where we became friendly because we had the same body type (tall and lanky) and so we could joke about that. She later found me on Facebook and when I friended her, I was able to look at her profile of course (it’s not weird if you’re already friends, right? haha). I found that we had an insane amount of things in common, like that we’re both art students who like the same art, a lot of the same movies, music, books, and even life philosophies. It helped that I also found her physically attractive, and so I began to try to spend more time with her.

This went well for the first part of a week: I got her number, took her shopping (don’t judge), ate lunch with her a lot, and ultimately ended up taking her to a dance at school (although I didn’t consider any of these things “dates”). The dance went well; she came over to my apartment beforehand, we talked about more things, and at the dance, I tried hard to make sure I wan’t too intimate, considering I’d only really known her for about a week. After the dance, I walked her back to her place. I didn’t even kiss her, because I had the feeling that it was too soon.

The day after though, I was texting her, and she didn’t seem to be as “into it” as she had before, and stopped replying after a while. The next time I saw her in class, she also didn’t seem to be as friendly as she was before. So…I don’t really know where to go with this. I’ve been out of the dating game for over a year, and when I was dating, the girls I dated were relatively straightforward, and they were the ones who usually made the first move. None of these relationships lasted too long, and I think it was because we moved too fast. I don’t want to make that mistake again, so I’m moving slower…but now it feels like she may be losing interest already, and I’ve only known her for 2 weeks!

Also, I’m fairly certain that she’s had a breakup recently, and so I understand and respect that she’ll want some single time. Maybe that’s why she doesn’t seem as interested as I thought she was. But if that’s true, then why did she seem so interested at first? Naturally, I’ve considered the possibility that she just doesn’t feel the same way I do, but there’s probably many other factors as well. And I still think she’s worth pursuing.

So what’s up here? Or, considering I’ve only known her for 2 weeks, am I reading into this too much?

]]> By: KarenD http://www.practicalhappiness.com/women-mixed-signals/#comment-5028 KarenD Wed, 06 Jul 2011 00:48:59 +0000 http://practicalhappiness.com/?p=1#comment-5028 i've had this problem for over a few years with the same man. i turned him down for a casual date because i didn't know him well. i learned more about him from others and changed my mind about him and showed interest. Sometimes he would be happy to see me or sometimes he would ignore me. Sometimes he would go out of his way to talk to me and when i approached him he had nothing to say/nervouse look. Needless to say it got frustating and i gave up. Now we're past that and we can say hello to each other and have 2 minutes of polite conversation. I think he may not be interested anymore, what do you think? i’ve had this problem for over a few years with the same man. i turned him down for a casual date because i didn’t know him well. i learned more about him from others and changed my mind about him and showed interest. Sometimes he would be happy to see me or sometimes he would ignore me. Sometimes he would go out of his way to talk to me and when i approached him he had nothing to say/nervouse look. Needless to say it got frustating and i gave up. Now we’re past that and we can say hello to each other and have 2 minutes of polite conversation. I think he may not be interested anymore, what do you think?

]]> By: tyson smith http://www.practicalhappiness.com/women-mixed-signals/#comment-4827 tyson smith Sun, 17 Apr 2011 06:45:25 +0000 http://practicalhappiness.com/?p=1#comment-4827 I really think that you should have made your move when you thought things were at your expectations or when you thought that things were okay with her. Taking too long on making a move, can seriously ruin your chances to know whether the girl wants to be in serious relationship or not. Because most of them expect only the guys to make the first move. So after waiting for so long, the girl might simply believe that you don't really see her as a potential lover or a life partner so she stopped making any more impressions. It is not guaranteed that if you go back to her she will be at your best expectations, but it might just give you a clear mind of what she is to you or was to you. so going back for a little more talk about this issue should be the right thing to do, and it can make you aware of similar future situations. I really think that you should have made your move when you thought things were at your expectations or when you thought that things were okay with her. Taking too long on making a move, can seriously ruin your chances to know whether the girl wants to be in serious relationship or not. Because most of them expect only the guys to make the first move.
So after waiting for so long, the girl might simply believe that you don’t really see her as a potential lover or a life partner so she stopped making any more impressions. It is not guaranteed that if you go back to her she will be at your best expectations, but it might just give you a clear mind of what she is to you or was to you. so going back for a little more talk about this issue should be the right thing to do, and it can make you aware of similar future situations.

]]> By: Mistrex21 http://www.practicalhappiness.com/women-mixed-signals/#comment-3831 Mistrex21 Mon, 18 Oct 2010 20:16:16 +0000 http://practicalhappiness.com/?p=1#comment-3831 Hi there, I have a problem. Of couse there is a girl who is special to me! We are on the same College and we have known each other since first year here. But begininng of Summer 2010 we had something together but it was only once while we were out with friends. Since then its pretty obviously that i like her, but I was geting mixed signals all the time. And I gave up for several times on her but later became interested again. On the other hand i have had so many chanches when i could really do something about her (when we wer out together with company) and i wasted them all... dont know why cuz with girls im not shy guy at all, but she ist completely diferent to the others. I am just wondering if is it good idea to go to her and talk very openly about everything that we have had and what she thinks about that?!? (i know that this is normaly not a good idea... but i just dont know what else to do. I dont even know if she is stil intreseted) Hi there,
I have a problem. Of couse there is a girl who is special to me! We are on the same College and we have known each other since first year here. But begininng of Summer 2010 we had something together but it was only once while we were out with friends. Since then its pretty obviously that i like her, but I was geting mixed signals all the time. And I gave up for several times on her but later became interested again. On the other hand i have had so many chanches when i could really do something about her (when we wer out together with company) and i wasted them all… dont know why cuz with girls im not shy guy at all, but she ist completely diferent to the others. I am just wondering if is it good idea to go to her and talk very openly about everything that we have had and what she thinks about that?!? (i know that this is normaly not a good idea… but i just dont know what else to do. I dont even know if she is stil intreseted)

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