Comments on: Your biggest source of insecurities with women!

By: Mickey

Mickey — Fri, 13 Jan 2012 06:36:40 +0000

I don’t think insecurity is the issue here. I believe it is the realization that women today are typically hard-wired to dislike/distrust and be generally adversarial to guys. Usually, a woman regularly shows off her aura of unapproachability & antipathy. As a result, common sense suggests that a guy doesn’t go for it because he’s reasonably sure that his attempt to approach will go to waste. Thus, if one already knows that trying to meet mostly hostile women will only be met with harsh rejection, one is pretty sure that making an approach isn’t worth it. It doesn’t make sense to try to pursue a mythical reward that you know is non-existent. Thus, I believe that walking away from what one perceives to be a guaranteed failure is NOT the same as being scared.

By: Neil

Neil — Sun, 01 Jan 2012 23:07:41 +0000

(To Pooler), try an alternative approach. Consider this for a moment… The problem is not how you approach or interact with women, it is the constant feeling of fear, anxiety, and loneliness that you feel. This makes your attempts doomed from the start because you initiate each encounder with this undercurrent of fear. The source of the problem is the fear you feel. So what do you do… Keep an open mind here…. When you feel that fear or loneliness dont let your mind label it, dont get caught up in it, instead just observe it… Impartially, dont judge the fear and grief, just “feel it”… Go through it… and let it transform into peace. This may not happen immediately but you will certainly feel a shift the first time you do it. For more on this method of psychology and transforming pain into peace read The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. I’m not a spokesman, just someone who has experience a lot of pain in my life and has now managed to move through and past it. Trust me my friend, the true problem is rarely what most people think it is. Good luck

By: Neil

Neil — Sun, 01 Jan 2012 23:05:20 +0000

Pooler, try an alternative approach. Consider this for a moment… The problem is not how you approach or interact with women, it is the constant feeling of fear, anxiety, and loneliness that you feel. This makes your attempts doomed from the start because you initiate each encounder with this undercurrent of fear. The source of the problem is the fear you feel. So what do you do… Keep an open mind here…. When you feel that fear or loneliness dont let your mind label it, dont get caught up in it, instead just observe it… Impartially, dont judge the fear and grief, just “feel it”… Go through it… and let it transform into peace. This may not happen immediately but you will certainly feel a shift the first time you do it. For more on this method of psychology and transforming pain into peace read The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. I’m not a spokesman, just someone who has experience a lot of pain in my life and has now managed to move through and past it. Trust me my friend, the true problem is rarely what most people think it is. Good luck

By: ady

ady — Thu, 23 Dec 2010 17:11:56 +0000

i tottaly agree with Visionary,remember guys: every feet in the butt means a step away(xcuse my english)

By: Visionary

Visionary — Thu, 25 Nov 2010 21:28:59 +0000

I usually really like your writings but this time I totally disagree. Staying away from any woman can never be the solution for any issue. A problem could rather arise as a consequence of having wrong expectations in a woman and drawing wrong inferences on yourself after being not successful. But it is exactly these kind of women who are the ‘worst’ that can help you to overcome your insecurities and boost your confidence. Provided that you are willing to learn how to handle them.

In my opinion, the most difficult women are the ones you learn the most. It might be sometimes exhausting and frustrating, but if you have the courage to face resistance and rejection and take challenges without fear, you will finally become a stronger man. That does not mean that you should necessarily look for these kind of women but you should not avoid them either. It is more about learning to detach your self-esteem and confidence from any woman’s behaviour. We don’t need women to make us feel welcomed, we need to welcome us regardless of how a woman is behaving towards us in any situation.

By: practicalhappiness.com

practicalhappiness.com — Wed, 06 Oct 2010 17:04:35 +0000

Hi, Mickey. Well, lets hope that not all women hate men. I am sure we both can think of a few women that we know that don’t hate men. In fact, there are women out there who really don’t like women who hate men and are aware of the problems just as much as men do.

By: Mickey

Mickey — Wed, 06 Oct 2010 04:17:38 +0000

It’s at the point now where you see nothing but male bashing all the time, now. This has nothing with approach anxiety or insecurity. At this stage of the game, women truly hate men and will step on one every chance they get. Sorry, I just don’t believe in finding that so-called “special someone”.

By: Pooler

Pooler — Mon, 13 Sep 2010 15:47:02 +0000

it seems like I have been approaching that kind of women all the time, and yes i started believe that what i want (approaching, meeting, talking, attracting, and sleeping with women)– is something wrong.
By now I am 31 years old guy who have never been involved in any relationship whatsoever, and I don’t think it will change any soon, even though i have already read all of your articles and watched all of your videos, I am still rejected by the women over and over…Maybe is time ti give it up