So you met a girl, it seemed that you really liked each other, you had a nice a conversation with her, got her phone number, but… setting up a date is a struggle. She seems to take forever to call you back. And “forever” might be a few days, but it feels like especially a long time if you really like her and would really like to see her again sooner than later. So, you call her and you don’t hear from her for 2-3 or more days, and then she would call you or text you, and will be unavailable to meet during that week. When you call her again, it takes her a while to get back to you as well and she seems to be constantly unavailable and too busy. So… is there anything you can or you should do about raising her interest level and making her call you back sooner or making her more available to see you?
Generally, there are only three reasons that a girl would act that way: (1) she is not that interested; (2) she has time management problems; and that one reason which is less likely: (3) she makes herself deliberately unavailable because she heard that this makes a guy more interested.
Regardless of which reason it is, you are probably better off not pursuing her and moving on to consider other girls. If she is not interested, then it goes without saying that trying to get a hold of her and go out with her isn’t going to be of much use. She is just not interested, and this should be a sign that you shouldn’t push it. If she has time management problems, then dealing with her will be frustrating even if she is interested. She will be not showing up or canceling on you much more often than you would like in the future, and this will bring more pain than joy to you.
But even if you really like her, and she is also interested in you but is not responding promptly to your calls for some other reason you still shouldn’t be trying to “expedite” her response time, as any attempt to do that will only make you less attractive to her. If you are a guy who she barely knows, from her point of view you have no right to expect her to call you sooner or to demand anything at all for that matter, so if you do – this will only push her away. The only time when you should be calling a girl on her phone manners, is after you spent enough time together, and when it’s clear to you that she really likes you and develops romantic interest in you. But then again, at that point, she is likely to change her phone behavior on her own anyway.
So, chances are that if she takes forever to return your phone calls you shouldn’t be trying to raise her romantic interest level in you, but instead – consider pursuing and other seeing other girls, and if later she proves to really like you, you can then address her phone manners.
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