I never understood why so many people love to say in their dating profile that they are not “taking this seriously” and what exactly they are trying to accomplish by including this in their dating profile or mentioning it on a date.
In the video below I discuss the difference between wanting to be in love and to be loved which is very natural and powerful vs being needy in a way that’s unattractive and pushes people away.
I believe that defensiveness is one of the most damaging qualities to the dating and relationship dynamics, especially in our (American) society, and… to pretty much any other interaction socially and even professionally. In this stream I discuss the various issues surrounding defensiveness in dating and what you can / should do to minimize this problem in your own dating life.
Recently, I attended an inspiring presentation by a Rabbi who pointed out, among other things, that one of the main goals of human life is to work on and fix our flaws and shortcoming. This appears to be in direct contradiction to what you hear people say all around in response to any type of criticism or constructive feedback – “don’t try to change me, I am going to be myself and I am not going to change for anyone.” This latter approach is an unconvincing, weak excuse for not doing what’s indeed so important to building a good life – self improvement. The video below encourages you not to resort to excuse, and instead take action to become a better person:
Many guys assume that women who dress and act modestly and don’t advertise their sexuality have low sex drive or are otherwise not good sexual partners. This video talks about whether this assumption about women’s modesty is true and why: