Many people and especially men, treat their first call to a woman that they just met and got a phone number from as a pure technicality – a brief, plain conversation during which all they need to do is to set up the time and place to meet for a date. By doing this, these men are missing out on a very important step in the interaction with the woman they just met – they are not using that first phone conversation effectively. In fact, the first phone conversation is very valuable because it can be a great indicator of where things will go later between you and her.
If you have a great time talking on the phone, laughing, teasing each other, exchanging ideas that you both care about and finding each other’s company interesting on the phone, the benefit of such a conversation will be two-fold: first, you will already be interested and even attracted to each other since you have already enjoyed talking to each other which is a big part of romantic interest; secondly, by having a fun telephone conversation, you will have already “broken the ice,” so that your first date will likely be free of that typical awkwardness where two strangers are meeting and talking to each other for the first time. This will make things easier and more fun for both of you. You will already be more comfortable with each other when you meeting in person because… you are not really strangers anymore.
On the other hand, if the first phone conversation doesn’t go very well, and if you have nothing to talk about, you will likely not enjoy each other’s company in person either, and therefore you are probably better off not wasting each other’s time and you should not meet at all.
Finding out whether you find each other’s company interesting over the phone requires more than a quick five-minute conversation. Therefore, I suggest that you have a fairly long first conversation – around 20 minutes or so to get a feel for each other. Of course, you shouldn’t hang on the phone for two hours so that you get sick of each other before you even met, but getting an idea about each other’s personality through a slightly longer than usual conversation before meeting for the first time is indeed a very good idea.
So, treat your very first phone conversation with a woman as a first date – it’s an interaction where you learn a little more about each other and you find out if there is a mutual interest and mutual desire to actually get to know each other better after that conversation.
A first phone conversation with a woman you recently met can be a great actual first date where you laugh, tease each other, engage in a fun, sarcastic banter and then…. when you meet – you will feel much more comfortable with each other and chances are that the girl will already be interested in you before she even met you in person.