It is unfortunate that so many people join dating sites but so few put a fair effort into writing a really good profile that makes them stand out from thousands of other users. I am not sure why people go through the trouble of signing up and filling all those questionnaires and then post a profile that looks like a copy of any other neutral, boring, profile full of cliches and types.
What makes any female dating profile great is the fact that it stands out from the rest of the profiles on any given online dating site. It doesn’t blend in. It’s not generic, neutral and overly politically correct. It doesn’t describe you with overused adjectives such as “intelligent, compassionate, educated, and independent” and it is free of boring statements that say nothing such as “I am as comfortable staying in as staying out.”
Rather than continue describing what a good profile is, I want to bring to your attention real examples of three actual dating profiles from on popular site that I rated for content. I commented in parentheses throughout the profiles below what I thought of them and why:
Example Dating Profile #1: Grade C+
I gave this profile a passing grade because while it’s not great, nothing about it makes it terrible.
“I have been in the ——- area for a few years now and always looking to meet new people. (This first sentence says nothing eye-catching about the woman and is very bland, and boring). I am a very hard worker and love my job. I work a lot, but I know how to balance well. I enjoy
meeting new people and going to new places. (still, nothing thought provoking or attractive) I am very spontaneous and I love the outdoors, watching movies, dancing, and traveling. (Another cliché statement that is being used by thousands of other women) A great date can be staying at home with a movie and popcorn, or a night on the town. (This statement has no purpose whatsoever). I made myself a promise a few years ago to take a vacation somewhere new, out of state, every year. I have not been disappointed yet. I would really love to see Europe. (Finally something somewhat interesting that she says about herself).
Well, that is a little about me if you are interested say
hello and we will chat. Talk to you soon!!”
Profile #2: Grade: B
This profile gets a higher grade because it reflects on the writer’s character and her personality. It’s a bit negative and has a few red flags but other than that – it’s not bad!
“100% Italian, fun loving, affectionate young lady who knows what it takes to make a relationship work. Tired of meeting BOYS who tell me what I want to hear, make and break promises, and aren’t ready for something serious. (This woman is voicing her opinion and shows her personality early on. (Great move!))
You: Honest, mature, gentleman, emotionally, mentally, financially secure (“financially secure” is a bad move in a dating profile because it’s an immediate red flag to a guy that he might be dealing with a materialistic woman.) Knows how to treat a lady, ready for a long term
relationship (this would sound a bit too eager or even desperate to most guys. First, meet a guy, then decide what you want out of him). Please……mean what you say and say what you mean!!! (that’s a good statement).
I live on the East Coast and travel to West every week for work. Being in California 4 days/week gets lonely. (This would make the reader believe that she is not looking for anyone special, but just someone to kill time with and subdue her loneliness). I am looking to meet someone in the this area and see what happens! Relocating for the right person is definitely an option. First date….not sure!!! I am willing to entertain any reasonable offer. 🙂 (good, funny, statement that shows personality and sense of humor, she should have used more of this kind of words throughout her profile). ”
Profile #3 : Grade: A
This is one great dating profile. It consists a number of thought provoking statements right from the beginning that show a woman’s great personality and sense of humor. It’s eloquently written, it’s concise, straight and to the point! It is free of fluff and very compelling for a guy who can appreciate this type of no-nonsense attitude in a person:
“I don’t like most guys, but… I am not interested in most guys and besides perhaps that what makes those few unique individuals that I do connect with all more special. (Great, thought provoking opener that shows a woman’s engaging personality. Myself – restless, analytical, and opinionated. I am not offended by a dirty joke and can dish out one of my own. I am independent but far from being a feminist. Sarcasm is a spice of life, so bring it on. (Guys really, really like to hear that). Timeless books and movies that make you wonder for days about whose side you are on put great flavor into many of my evenings. What’s your story? What are you greatest pet-peeves and what makes you weak in your knees from joy and happiness.”
Profile #4: Grade A
Here is another great profile (from Bumble). Even though it’s quite brief, the quality well makes up for its length. And, even though the lines below are written by a woman, they can be used just as well by a male.
“Looking for that elusive friendship that sparks into something more. Known for my ever-present smirk accompanied by a wink and a nod. Love hand-written letters, poetry, and picnics. Looking for a life less ordinary with a partner interested in creating beauty and embracing the ridiculous.”
Profile #5: Grade A+
This last profile below gets the highest great for both the content and the creativity. It almost sounds like a poem. What I particularly like about this profile is that it shows that a woman hasn’t lost faith in true love and romance but at the same time she is also realistic. The ending of it might sound a bit on a more desperate side, but all in all – maybe it’s not such a terrible thing to sound a bit desperate for love and connection if that’s how you really feel.
“I don’t know if the world is going to run forever, but I know I’m not going to be around forever!
I don’t know if I will finally meet you to warm my heart and join for a better, happier journey, but I know I can’t stop looking for you, and can’t stop calling you in my heart…
I also don’t know what life holds for me tomorrow, but I do know that we can only get older and I feel safer to get old with you. Someone to remember the days with, and to grow with.
All profiles repeat the same. Everyone is crying out to say how good they are, how cool they are, how fun they are. But how real are you, and how content are you with your real you? I’m tired of the lies, of the fakes…I want someone real! I want my “best friend”, I think this says it all!
Maybe it’s about the right time, right place, right person… can online dating be any good? We’ll see :)”
Use the above profiles as an inspiration for your own dating profile to make it more creative and more interesting. Remember, quality single guys that you are looking to meet are more picky than others. Many of them are looking for a special connection with a special woman. If you know how to and are able to communicate through your dating profile that you are not just another average girl, it will significantly increase your chances of meeting better and more interesting men online.