So, you have been in a long-term relationship that had its ups and downs but eventually it came to an end and you broke up. Whether it was a “clean” or not so “clean” break-up and whether you were the one who initiated the break up or whether you have been dumped, it was on at least some level a painful experience if you at all cared about your partner and had feelings for him for her. It has been a few days, or a few week or a few months since you broke up, and the pain and the anger are still there. Overcoming the painful break-up is not easy and it takes time, but it is almost always possible and once you do it, it should turn you into a stronger and a more mature person. After all, maturity is in large about dealing with and learning how to deal with difficult and painful experiences the right way without allowing it to negatively affect your future romantic interactions.
It is important to accept and remember that there is simply no way around handling a break-up after a long term relationship but by letting time do its work when it comes to recovering from losing that special relationship, especially if you were in a relationship that lasted several years or longer. There is no magic pill or advice that will turn the feeling of loss, the emptiness and the fear of living this new life without your partner into a state of blissful peace. The longer you were together and especially the longer you lived together, the more you have become used to a certain lifestyle and to being with each other. Whether you fought a lot or not, having each other around became a matter of habit, and breaking any lifestyle habit is not easy. Recognizing that it’s not going to be easy and that it will take time and patience to get used to your new status and lifestyle as a single person is the first step toward a better handling of a longer relationship break-up.