There are different reasons for why the conversations between people on dating apps so often hit a dead end quickly. Boring profile, boring first message and boring responses to message are not exactly the recipe for an engaging interaction that will intrigue both people and get them excited about meeting each other. In addition, many people deliberately put very little effort into their communication on the dating apps, believing that it’s beneath them to take it too seriously. Finally, the frustration with many prior mediocre experiences and results discourages people from putting their best foot forward when starting a conversation online, even if they are quite capable of doing the same. In the video below I discuss this issue and some ideas of how and why you should considering putting more effort into your conversation on dating apps.
I never understood why so many people love to say in their dating profile that they are not “taking this seriously” and what exactly they are trying to accomplish by including this in their dating profile or mentioning it on a date.
I believe that defensiveness is one of the most damaging qualities to the dating and relationship dynamics, especially in our (American) society, and… to pretty much any other interaction socially and even professionally. In this stream I discuss the various issues surrounding defensiveness in dating and what you can / should do to minimize this problem in your own dating life.
Recently, I attended an inspiring presentation by a Rabbi who pointed out, among other things, that one of the main goals of human life is to work on and fix our flaws and shortcoming. This appears to be in direct contradiction to what you hear people say all around in response to any type of criticism or constructive feedback – “don’t try to change me, I am going to be myself and I am not going to change for anyone.” This latter approach is an unconvincing, weak excuse for not doing what’s indeed so important to building a good life – self improvement. The video below encourages you not to resort to excuse, and instead take action to become a better person: