Being a woman, you may think that it really doesn’t matter what you write in your dating profile and all that guys are looking at when they are browsing women’s profiles on online dating sites is their photos. I am sure that it is true with regard to some men. However, if you are interested in meeting a guy who is special, who is better, smarter, more interesting and otherwise more desirable than an average Joe, you should realize that it takes a better profile – a page that stands out to attract the kind of a guy that also stands out from the rest.
It is just as important, however, to know what not to write as it is what to actually include in your profile. The following are the four typical mistakes that women make when they write their dating profiles that are easy to avoid and will make your profile much more attractive to those guys who you would be interesting in meeting, dating, and possibly having a committed relationship with:
1. Make sure your dating profile is not boring! Whatever you write in your profile, make sure it’s not a bland, typical, trite list of adjectives of how educated, intelligent, honest and compassionate you are. You simply cannot expect to provoke the attention of an exceptional guy if your dating profile is just another, generic page that looks just like a profile of any other woman. Be bold, share a few of your thoughts and opinions on random things that you think and care about and that will necessarily attract the guy who is right for you. Check out this article for great tips on writing an effective, interesting dating profile. It was written mostly for men but the same principles apply to women’s profiles.
2. Don’t unnecessarily restrict the type of a guy you are willing to meet. It always makes me laugh when a 35 year-old woman write in her profile that she is only willing to meet guys who are tall and who are between 32 and 38 years old. It entertains me mainly because I know that what that woman says is simply not true – she would be thrilled to meet a guy who is outside of that age bracket, if he possesses the qualities that make him attractive to her. I also feel bad because I realize how many guys actually take this kind of strictness literally and don’t contact a woman just because they are a few years older or younger than what a woman mentions in her profile. Make sure that you don’t narrow down the age of the men you are willing to meet to a degree that leaves few guys to choose from. It will make your search for that special guy much harder and will also likely make you miss out on meeting some great guys who were discouraged from contacting you because of your strict age requirements.
3. Dont’ focus your dating profile on your children. It’s great if you have chidren who you are proud of, and raising them should be one of your main priorities that also makes you happy. However, there is no reason to include five photos of you with your kid in your profile and beginning your profile with “My child is the most important thing in my life and if you are not ok with that, move on now…” This does not do anything good for you as far as meeting men on the internet dating sites goes. It creates an impression in a male reader that you will hardly be available to go out and that you will never be able to develop any meaningful connection with the guy. Remember, dating sites are not designed to display your familial situation. They are meant to help people meet each other and create romantic connections. Surely you should be honest about the fact that you have children, but it’s not a good idea to let the whole male world know in advance that they will always be in second place in your book – far behind your child.
4. Avoid posting photos that may cast a negative light on your personality. – If all your photos have you and five other girls being drunk at a bar making faces at each other, you better consider posting some new photos that put some more serious light on who you are and how you live your life. Certainly it’s good to show that you like to have fun, but … it’s equally or even more important to show that you have a serious side as well. Ideally, you should have a close-up photo of your face and a full body image which shows, without being overly revealing, the shape of your body. You cannot go wrong with having a fully-body photo in a business casual attire or even jeans and tank top if it flatters your body.
5. Don’t Post Misleading Photos. If you are overweight, don’t try to hide it in the photos by only posting the photos of your face. Sooner or later, you will have to show the rest of your body to the guy, so why waste your time or his? It’s much more painful to see a disappointment on a guys face when he meets you for the first time, realizing that you look very different from what you represented in your photos, than simply not being contacted online because you are not the guy’s type physically.
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