When Your Girlfriend Takes Too Long To Respond to Texts

Question:

I am with an amazing girl. It even turned out that she was the one to be interested in meeting me first before i I even noticed her. Now, we are together, and I’m into her very much. She also appears to be just as interested in me. But there is one problem – this is the exam time. So we chose a difficult time to get to know each other. So, I text her and call her sometimes. I’m a bit of poetic and romantic guy, and she is somewhat cold-hearted. I know she’s studying (as well as I am), but waiting long hours for a response not as much involved (from my perspective) is sometimes painful. Any advice for this?  

PH Answers:

First, this sounds like a very temporary problem. I assume it’s a matter of a couple of weeks before the exams are over, and both of you will have more time for each other after that.

You should avoid the combination of mistakes that will turn her off.  Poetry + bugging her with text messages when she is busy or is not replying is a sure way to earn a reputation of the most needy, desperate guy. If you ever had anyone text you over and over without you responding to them, then you know how annoying it is, so don’t do the same. With regard to poetry – most people are way too jaded for this. Save your poetry for celebrating an anniversary with the girl you have been dating or for her birthday or for some other important occasion; not for those initial stages of getting to know each other. It’s just too much, too soon.

Never send a text before she replies to your prior text. When you do, you will turn into a pest in every girl’s eyes. This rule is not really that important after you get to know each other and the mutual interest is solidly established or after you had sex. But, until then, you have to play your cards right and not make an impression of a total pest. You need to learn how to be able to wait a few hours for her to text you back, as it’s really not a big deal.  You also should not respond to text messages all the time right away either. This is not to play games, but you need to make sure that your life is set in a way where you are not constantly staring at the screen of your phone. It’s neither healthy nor attractive. If she doesn’t respond to your text message, leave her alone. If she wants to see you and talk to you, she won’t forget about you. And if she doesn’t want to talk to you, it’s better for you to find that out sooner than later. Also, make sure that you read these important texting rules with girls to avoid other common mistakes.