So, you laid your eye on this girl who you think is really nice, cool and attractive, but oh, bummer – she has a boyfriend. It’s frustrating and you think “why even bother and try to get together with her?” but deep inside you hope that one day you will have the opportunity to get to know her and get closer to her on all levels. And guess what – one day she does break up with her boyfriend. It might be bad news to her, but you are excited! You feel that there is an opportunity to finally make a move. But how do you do it?
First, it’s very important to know what you should not be doing. Here are two common mistakes you should avoid:
(1) Although you may think that it’s a good idea to come up to her and tell her how much you like her and that you have been waiting for this moment forever, this is hardly ever a good way to move forward. This will only make the girl feel “cornered” and uncomfortable, especially if she hasn’t gotten over her relationship yet. It will confuse her and will not add anything to her being attracted to you and interesting in dating you.
(2) You should also not be her “therapist.” It’s ok to listen to what happened between her and the guy, to sympathize with her break-up and try to console her, but you shouldn’t provide her with daily sessions of listening to all the sob stories, as this will definitely turn your interaction with into a one-way trip to the friends land. Why? Because as I point out in my article on avoiding friends zone with girls, this is what friends do – they listen to each others’ problems and spill their guts to each other.
The best thing you can do is saying nothing to the effect of being happy about her breaking up with the guy or you being interesting in her for a long time, but instead – spend time with her and show those qualities of yours that will make you attractive and desirable. And those are being confident, different and funny. And to get on the right track of becoming a truly confident man, you should read the article on becoming confident with women.
Just being out with her, being a funny, charismatic, and interesting company will give you the opportunity to flirt with her and get physically closer to her when the time is right. And to remind you what “flirting” means exactly, read about what flirting is.