Most men are fascinated by the idea of going out and meeting one or more of those dressed up, "hot" women that they see in bars and clubs. Despite the fact that the majority of men don't meet a woman during the typical weekend nightly outing at bars and clubs, the hope and the desire to approach, "pick up" and meet a woman on a dance floor or while sipping a favorite drink at a bar and checking out all the hot women around is very appealing to most men.

Most men are strong believer in the law of numbers and averages. They think that if they are out at a venue where they are surrounded by a large amount of young, attractive, "decked out" women who are ready to drink, dance, have fun and presumably be "picked up" by guys, then these guys have a better chance of meeting those women than anywhere else. However, the reality proves the opposite. Bars and clubs are some of the most difficult places to start conversations with women. In fact, bars and clubs are some of the most unlikely places to meet women for the majority of even those guys who consider themselves confident and otherwise attractive to women. In other words, you are probably more likely to meet a woman at any place other than a bar.

Various dating advice sources agree that alcohol coupled with noise and the women's negative perception of the men and their intention in bars and clubs make it much harder for men to meet women in those places than almost anywhere else. However, these dating guides usually overlook one, even greater, more fundamental factor that makes meeting women in bars and clubs so challenging. In order to understand that factor well, I have to step back and mention one crucial point that I bring up in my "Powerful Pick-Up" Audio Program - one of the most important elements that make a man attractive to a woman is her respect for him. Respect means admiring a man's character, lifestyle, ambition, hopes, plans and aspirations, as well as the choices that he makes in life. That respect / admiration from a woman can be earned in different ways under different circumstances. A witty conversation, for instance, shows a man's sharp wit and sense of humor and can earn him respect as much as his interesting views and opinions that he shares with a woman.

Back to bars and clubs - these places, besides being noisy and crowded, make it very hard for a man to earn a woman's respect. A guy who is dressed up, standing and drinking isn't nearly as attractive to a woman as a man who is busy doing something useful, such as even a bartender at that very bar. Under such circumstances, a woman has no reason to admire anything about a guy unless, of course, he is strikingly good-looking and has a unique, very attractive style.

In addition to the lack of opportunity to earn respect and value at a bar / club (unless you are a great dancer of course), the other issue that guys legitimately have when they want to approach and meet a woman at a bar is not knowing what to say to a woman. This inability to start a conversation is at least somewhat justified. It is hard to find a reason / a context to start a conversation at a bar without appearing obnoxious / obvious / cliche. Any other place such as a bookstore, grocery store, department store, public transportation, library, and restaurants have so many things about them that make starting a conversation with and meeting a woman in those places so much easier than at a bar.

Don't take me wrong - I would never suggest that you should not even try to meet women in bars and clubs. I am a strong believer that when it comes to approaching and meeting women, some action is much better than no action, wherever you are. But I do want to draw your attention to some obvious obstacles that men face when they try meeting women in bars, understanding which will help you be better at meeting and interacting with women anywhere.

Understanding the concept of respect as an element of attracting a woman is paramount to your ability to meet women. As you become conscious of this elements and as you learn how you can earn respect in your own unique ways under different circumstances will certainly take your ability to approach and attract women to another level.