As I point out in my newsletters and videos, online dating and matchmaking sites are great sources of meeting single women. When you go online, you instantly have access to hundreds or thousands of women who you would never meet before. Most of those women are single, and many of them are attractive, intelligent, educated and interesting. If you take the time to learn how to write a great online dating profile, and how to effectively respond to a woman’s dating profile, you can have lots of fun initiating conversation, meeting and dating women.
Like many other things, taking online dating too far may have negative consequences on your ability to approach and meet women in real life. Many guys – especially the ones who do well at meeting women online – completely stop developing their confidence and ability to approach, meet and interact women in the real world. Skipping the stage of approaching women makes meeting women much easier, but it also takes away the need to make a move on a woman you might be interested in, thereby depriving you of that drive to work on your confidence in approaching women in the “real” world. A guy who is “satiated” with meeting women online, won’t feel a strong need to try to meet women anywhere else. As time goes by, lack of real world practice of meeting women, makes that guy completely incapable of meeting women, overcoming fear of rejection and dealing with that initial awkwardness of talking to a stranger. This is a high price to pay for spending too much time at meeting women online, and the one I don’t believe worth paying.
You might be wondering: “Why do I need to meet women anywhere else, if I can meet so many of them online?” The reality is, however, that although how you meet a woman doesn’t have as much bearing on the kind of relationship you will have, there is something about meeting a woman at a restaurant, bar, library, cafe that makes a compelling emotional impact on a woman immediately, and may ignite that instant romantic interest that a message in response to a profile can never do, especially to a woman who receives dozens of e-mails a week.
Online dating is a great way to meet single women, practice your writing, phone, and other communication skills, and learn more about the opposite sex. However, it must not completely substitute your real life attempts to approach and meet women. To remain confident or to develop your confidence, you must practice in real-life situations, dealing with real life obstacles. Like any other skill and quality, when it comes to confidence – if you don’t use it, you lose it. Don’t let the online dating world weaken your confidence with women. Use it to your advantage to remind you that if you can meet and attract women online, you must be able to do the same anywhere else.
