Before I dive into several useful tips on meeting shy girls, I believe it’s important to address the question whether it is a good idea, for you, as a guy, to try to approach, meet and date shy girls. My answer is: absolutely. This is for several reasons. First, many girls who make an impression of being shy are not shy at all. Other girls are shy at fist but later prove to be very outgoing. But even if the girl is truly shy, once you uncover her true self, you might just be in for a pleasant surprise, as that shy woman often turns into a very passionate dating partner (and sex partner as well) is in many ways more aggressive and open minded than those who don’t seem to be shy. So, don’t perceive the low-key demeanor, modest clothing and quiet voice as negative signs. Such a girl might just be smarter, more interesting, and more passionate in bed than many of those women who like to be in the “spotlight” or who also are known as “attention whores.”
If you laid your eye on a shy girl, there are a few things you need to keep in mind. First, she is shy for one or more of the common reasons: she might be inexperienced with men, she might be attracted to you as well and is afraid to do/say the wrong thing, she might be conservative, believing that she is not supposed to show any signs of interest, or she might be all of the above. Regardless of the reasons for her shyness you should consider the following tips:
1. You should take things with a shy girl slower than with other women. You should give such a girl more time to get to the idea of being around a guy in general, and being around you specifically. Curb your flirting and your normal pace of physical advances, as this might overwhelm her and even scare her.
2. Just as importantly, you must feel comfortable and act completely naturally around a shy girl. Even if being touched or kissed is a big deal to her, you must act like flirting and making graduate advances is the most natural thing for you. If she sees that you are comfortable around her, then she will subconsciously mirror your behavior sooner or later and will also become more comfortable.
3. If she rejects any of your advances, such as pushing you away when you try to hug her or kiss her, don’t take it personally, unless it’s clear than she doesn’t like you, but retreat and act like nothing bad happened and then try to make an advance later. Usually, a shy girl who is interested in you will feel guilty about pushing you away shortly after and will show far less resistance the next time you try to get closer to her. If she rejects you again, it’s perfectly appropriate to ask her if she finds you unattractive and whether you should stop bothering her. A girl who likes you will quickly deny that and will explain to you why she acts the way she does, which in itself will be a great ice-breaker and will bring the two of you closer together.
4. Ironically, my observations and experiences of many guys that I have interviewed indicate that shy girls can be extremely liberal sexually, and they might turn to be better partners in bed than many women who act and dress provocatively. This means that you might be in for a treat when you meet and start dating a shy girl.
In sum, a shy girl might be a hidden treasure. It might take a while to find her and get to know her, but she might prove to be a great love and great dating partner, once you pass those initial stages of breaking a slightly thicker ice of shyness.
I have a question.. If you ask a shy girl right away if she likes you, will you get an appropriate answer?
Hi, Mark. Why would you want to ask a girl if she likes you?
How would a shy girl youre hanging out with generally react when it comes to eye contact if she’s attracted to you? Also, is it a bad sign if they want to bring a friend when you hangout with her, but it seems like she genuinely wants to hangout?
thanks
hi arkady,
i really have a problem with this girl. This all started 2 months ago and it still keeps bothering me until now, because i really like her.
so this is my story: ok, so there’s this girl i really liked(she’s my next door neighbor) and one day i had the guts to knock on her door to ask her out for a walk at the park then she came along with her little brother and everything went well, we had a good time(i had the best time in my life) and then i got her number. So after that i waited approximately 3 days, then called her up, but she didn’t answer and i didn’t leave a voice mail, i just left her a text message stating who i am.. But ever since, i haven’t heard from her. She did not text/call me back or anything.. then one day we met outside our apartment, i called her name but she turned her back and make it so i can’t see her face, I didn’t know what was going on O_O So, after the following weeks, i couldn’t take it anymore, i just had to tell her how i feel about her, so i text her stating how i felt about her(i know it was a stupid thing to do) after that, she text me back saying she didn’t feel the same way about me
it was really heart breaking, but i knew i had to take it like a man and move on. But then every time i see her, she would look down and turn red and wouldn’t look at me. Then, just recently, i had a chance to talk to her cousin(in chat). And her cousin told me that she would always talk about me. Then her cousin stated that she is a shy person.
so my question is: should i just move on? or should i keep on pursuing?
P.S. -i know your name because i always watch your videos on YouTube
-i don’t know where to post this, so i might as well post it here.